Medical Power of Attorney and Other Informational Help

[lyric]

Originally Posted by princessbelle

But, be careful....get a POA that SPECIFICALLY states ....has the right to make LIFE DECISIONS..it has to be spelled out specifically. If not, get a MPOA and spell it out then....both of you sign it...and get it NOTORIZED. File it with your doctors and keep the original to yourself. Then, IMO and in my experience, you should be fine.

princessbelle, thank you very, very much for this, because I wasn't aware there were two different types. (See? I AM clueless when it comes to this!) I just did a quick check in the folder and our papers do, indeed, read as you say and are labeled "medical power of attorney" and we did have them notarized just in case. She has not had much contact with immediate family in years because they are not exactly on board with the fact that she is gay, but this does not mean they won't pop up sometime in the future.

With the exception of the neurologist, everyone has been fantastic. When she was hospitalized initially, it was on an emergency basis and during that experience and the subsequent inpatient hospitalization, the hospital staff was wonderful to both of us... and we did not even have that paperwork at that point. During our follow-ups, the neurologist gave me a blank stare everytime I tried to speak up and sort of ignored me (even though Toxic really isn't able to relate what happens during her seizures due to memory loss) so that has left me a little frustrated. I'm not sure how to "make" them listen to me, if that makes sense. Luckily, we're seeing someone else for a second opinion on Thursday and I hope this guy is better.

Your reply was awesome and I really appreciate that you took the time to respond. Thank you!!!

[princessbelle]

You are so very welcome. You are getting a lot of great advice here and that totally makes me smile.

There is something else i wanted to add...as June mentioned. State by state things are different. This is not a "Federally governed legalatity" or so i have exerpienced. Find out what you need from your specific state.

I am glad that you have the MPOA and that it is notorized.

You are on the right track. You are doing great. Kudos to you for taking care of things NOW.

*hugs.