Nurturing

little_ms_sunshyne · 03-27-2011, 08:00 PM

Hmmm...this would be the third time I visit this thread and still am having trouble with what I want my response to be. So lets see if I can express my thoughts correctly...

I did not receive much nurturing growing up. My parents were young and still growing up themselves. Most of the affection I received was from my grandmother who moved away when I was very young. There is a significant age gap between my 3 younger siblings and myself. I knew from the moment that they were born that I NEVER wanted them to feel like I did. I wanted them to feel loved and secure in themselves. My learning to nurture began there. I cared for them by not only providing them with all those basic needs but always showing affection. Having a warm demeanor towards them and everything I do for them.

How does that translate into my relationship? I naturally fall into the "housewife" role because of this. I like making sure that hys needs are met whether that means cooking, physical and emotional affection, also taking on a somewhat submissive role. If hy is pleased then I am happy. In return, he is my "protector" and takes good care of me. He listens to my thoughts, encourages my dreams, always affectionate, and provides a great deal of comfort to my heart and my mind. I also believe that it is the little things that we do for eachother that make you feel nurtured.

There are so many ways that one can feel nurtured or nurture. I personally, enjoy nurturing myself through what I call "food for the brain". I love to read, am part of writing and literature circles, attend art openings, help with charities, give to my community, etc...etc.... I submerge myself in a culture rich environment. Knowledge and appreciation of the beauty around us is a big deal to me and I tend to pass this on to my students as well.

If this makes any sense...That is what nurturing is to me!

Nat · 03-28-2011, 09:18 PM

article How to Nurture Yourself and Be Your Own Mother

I'm looking for other articles, but wanted to post this one before I lost it.

Ebon · 03-28-2011, 09:47 PM

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Originally Posted by June

Mostly, I like to be left alone when stuff is bugging me. I don't need or want a lot of cuddling or coddling, in fact, it makes me a little bit crazy.

I nurture others by cooking for them and being there. I probably need to work on my cuddling stuff. I am affectionate, I'm just not overt.

I sniff people and randomly touch their hair, does that count?

I'm not sure what to say about this. I don't do the sniffing thing but I am pretty much the same as June.

atomiczombie · 03-29-2011, 01:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by June

Mostly, I like to be left alone when stuff is bugging me. I don't need or want a lot of cuddling or coddling, in fact, it makes me a little bit crazy.

I nurture others by cooking for them and being there. I probably need to work on my cuddling stuff. I am affectionate, I'm just not overt.

I sniff people and randomly touch their hair, does that count?

I find it interesting that you use cuddling and coddling together. I think of them as very different things and don't really go together at all. Cuddling is affection. Coddling is supporting or indulging bad or unhealthy behavior. That's my understanding of the two concepts.

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little_ms_sunshyne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: . Posts: 3,312 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,339 Thanked 12,241 Times in 2,541 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Hmmm...this would be the third time I visit this thread and still am having trouble with what I want my response to be. So lets see if I can express my thoughts correctly... I did not receive much nurturing growing up. My parents were young and still growing up themselves. Most of the affection I received was from my grandmother who moved away when I was very young. There is a significant age gap between my 3 younger siblings and myself. I knew from the moment that they were born that I NEVER wanted them to feel like I did. I wanted them to feel loved and secure in themselves. My learning to nurture began there. I cared for them by not only providing them with all those basic needs but always showing affection. Having a warm demeanor towards them and everything I do for them. How does that translate into my relationship? I naturally fall into the "housewife" role because of this. I like making sure that hys needs are met whether that means cooking, physical and emotional affection, also taking on a somewhat submissive role. If hy is pleased then I am happy. In return, he is my "protector" and takes good care of me. He listens to my thoughts, encourages my dreams, always affectionate, and provides a great deal of comfort to my heart and my mind. I also believe that it is the little things that we do for eachother that make you feel nurtured. There are so many ways that one can feel nurtured or nurture. I personally, enjoy nurturing myself through what I call "food for the brain". I love to read, am part of writing and literature circles, attend art openings, help with charities, give to my community, etc...etc.... I submerge myself in a culture rich environment. Knowledge and appreciation of the beauty around us is a big deal to me and I tend to pass this on to my students as well. If this makes any sense...That is what nurturing is to me!