what NOT to do in a relationship.......

Queerasfck · 04-01-2011, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Mister Bent

Feelings are for noobs!

I guess this means we're not going to prom together.

Kenna · 04-07-2011, 01:16 PM

don’t always put your needs infront of another's ...and don't expect them to push asside their personality, identity, self-worth, inner securities and safe place or needs and desires to accommodate all of your needs.

Jesse · 04-07-2011, 02:09 PM

Don't repeatedly make promises that you have no idea at all how to keep.

Corkey · 04-07-2011, 03:02 PM

From a past experience, and this does not apply to my marriage.

DO NOT get a joint checking account...Ever!

AtLast · 04-07-2011, 03:12 PM

Thinking about how it might be better for me to focus on what to do in a relationship. Trying to stay in the here & now. What applied in the past... is past!!

Wishing the very best to everyone that has taken that leap of faith and are doing the best possible in their relationship. Darn things are a work in progress!

Yup, I'm just wanting to support love and my people (BF Planeteers!!!)...

girl_dee · 04-07-2011, 07:32 PM

Don't get into a relationship with someone who has an addiction (and in denial, unwilling to change or get help), you will never be a priority.

tommyboy66 · 04-07-2011, 08:07 PM

Don't give your girls dog away..
when she's away..
and expect everything to be ok..
when she gets home..
from being away..

Tommyboy66

AtLast · 04-07-2011, 10:11 PM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Don't get into a relationship with someone who has an addiction (and in denial, unwilling to change or get help), you will never be a priority.

Since addiction issues are widespread in our society, this comes up a lot. The co-dependency/enabling stuff can really kick in for some of us. You hit it on the head- the addiction is the priority unless someone is willing to deal with it.

I have certainly seen many folks deal with their addictions and be able to have good relationships- but it has to do with them being ready and yes, not in denial.

I can be a "fixer" and have learned to pay attention to this in myself- it has not served me well. I caqn't fix someone else- only me.

Bard · 04-12-2011, 09:51 PM

A brief disclaimer .... this post is in NO way reflective of Desd if anything she shows me the what you should do and I am forever grateful she took a chance on this Cowboi

DON'T ever use our child as a pawn or for that matter make fun of me in front of her.. she thinks the world of BOTH of us and when you laugh at me call me names infer that I am dumb it HURTS her

Make fun or belittle my Military service yes I know I signed up for it but it was not my vacation from you or the child it broke me to be away from her

don't go through my phone or email I will flipp and it ain't gonna be purddy

don't try to change me I ain't broken flawed yes scared hell yeah

Lastly and this is for me DON"T EVER take her for granted

04-07-2011, 01:16 PM	#2
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04-07-2011, 02:09 PM	#3
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04-07-2011, 03:02 PM	#4
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04-07-2011, 08:07 PM	#7
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04-12-2011, 09:51 PM	#9
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04-07-2011, 03:12 PM	#5
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04-07-2011, 07:32 PM	#6
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