what NOT to do in a relationship.......

msW8ing · 04-13-2011, 12:18 AM

Aretha said it best..R-E-S-P-E-C-T. ie..Even if thier wrong do not correct them in front of others..Never degrade or demean them..Open communication..Never let a day pass that you don't tell them how much they are loved, appreciated and admired, one key a counselor friend of mine said was to hug and kiss for at least 3 minutes when you get home...Grams said it best, think before you speak, you can't take back words.

girl_dee · 04-13-2011, 05:03 AM

Don't keep talking about your ex for Goddess sake! I would like to respect that relationship but if you keeping bringing them up it no longer appears you are over it!

dixie · 04-13-2011, 06:05 AM

Don't take advantage, nor take for granted.

msW8ing · 04-14-2011, 07:39 PM

Don't be thier option while making them a priority

BullDog · 04-14-2011, 10:37 PM

Don't go around referring to someone as your partner if you don't really mean it.

Soft*Silver · 04-14-2011, 10:59 PM

dontcha even THINK I am getting fat if you are busting out of your own granny panties....

Admin · 04-14-2011, 11:21 PM

Hey Y'all,

Just a reminder about posting in this thread (and this isn't necessarily directed at any of the recent posters, although it certainly applies to everyone)- We need to keep things very general in here, especially if you are currently dating or have dated anyone who is a member of this site. We wouldn't want any ugly feelings for anyone here - So please consider when posting, if you wouldn't want it said about you, don't post it.

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VintageFemme · 11-20-2011, 12:43 PM

I'm single for a reason. *insert chagrin here* So I'm taking really good notes from this thread!

Thanks y'all!

Guy · 11-20-2011, 10:27 PM

Stay with the topic

Don’t use a current concern as a reason to jump into everything that bothers you.

Miss July · 11-21-2011, 01:59 PM

Don't EVER be some one's door mat to just lay down & take their crap.

JustJo · 04-13-2011, 07:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Don't keep talking about your ex for Goddess sake! I would like to respect that relationship but if you keeping bringing them up it no longer appears you are over it!

And really do try to get over that one before you get into the next one....it isn't fair to either person to have an invisible third person in the relationship.

Remember that the opposite of love isn't hate....it's indifference. If you have emotions tied up with the ex, and can't be indifferent to their actions....then you aren't really over them yet.

AtLast · 04-13-2011, 10:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustJo

And really do try to get over that one before you get into the next one....it isn't fair to either person to have an invisible third person in the relationship.

Remember that the opposite of love isn't hate....it's indifference. If you have emotions tied up with the ex, and can't be indifferent to their actions....then you aren't really over them yet.

Yup! Deal & heal before moving on! I am not going to help you work through your last relationship and I don't want to be compared to an ex. Be good to yourself and take some time before dating again and pursuing someone else seriously.

Duchess · 04-13-2011, 07:30 PM

Don't cheat or play people. The shit will eventually hit the fan.

Duchess

Jess · 04-13-2011, 07:41 PM

I have done so many "NOTS" that I am still looking for the "what TO do in a relationship" thread...

The only thing I know for sure NOT to do, is...

Do NOT think for a minute that anything is the same as any past relationship. Every day and every event is new and just because past experiences had (A) result, this new one is completely different and may have (B) result.

Trying open-mindedness is always the best answer for me regarding relationships. That... and faith.

Good luck folks!

girl_dee · 04-13-2011, 07:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jess

I have done so many "NOTS" that I am still looking for the "what TO do in a relationship" thread...

Good luck folks!

OK I'll start a thread

Duchess · 04-13-2011, 07:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sassy_girl

OK I'll start a thread

YAYYYYY!!!! Hey Sassy baby.

msW8ing · 04-14-2011, 11:49 PM

Don't go into the relationship thinking " I can change this or that" . For Goddess sake. You fell in love with them for who they are (positives and negatives) NOT for what you think they should be.

foxyshaman · 05-06-2011, 10:54 AM

Don't EVER EVER turn your head from your "joyful ministrations" when you hear the crack of a well hit baseball during a game in the world series. Nope don't ever do that <again>.

Guy · 05-06-2011, 08:45 PM

Don't assume the worst, and secondly, just don't assume

msW8ing · 04-13-2011, 01:27 PM

YES!!! Nobody wants to live with the "ghosts of relationships past" or hear constantly about how and what your ex did. I am NOT them nor do I wish to be compared to them.

Quote:

Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Don't keep talking about your ex for Goddess sake! I would like to respect that relationship but if you keeping bringing them up it no longer appears you are over it!

04-13-2011, 12:18 AM	#1
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Jess Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: decidedly indifferent Preferred Pronoun?: other Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Patrick Springs, VA Posts: 2,812 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,247 Thanked 5,700 Times in 1,682 Posts Rep Power: 0	I have done so many "NOTS" that I am still looking for the "what TO do in a relationship" thread... The only thing I know for sure NOT to do, is... Do NOT think for a minute that anything is the same as any past relationship. Every day and every event is new and just because past experiences had (A) result, this new one is completely different and may have (B) result. Trying open-mindedness is always the best answer for me regarding relationships. That... and faith. Good luck folks!

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