What TO DO in a relationship.....

julieisafemme · 04-14-2011, 08:28 PM

Be gentle with the cloaca.

Always own your part.

Forgive and discuss.

Strappie · 04-14-2011, 08:34 PM

OMG..... now I know why I've been single for 5 years.
Really all is to clean out the dishwasher? Jesus I knew I paid that therapist too much. ..... lol

THANK YOU SCORP!!!!

Oiler41 · 04-14-2011, 09:22 PM

My Dear Brother Ebon read this for Pup and I at our wedding; seems to be a good fit for the thread:

When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to.

And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return.

We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.

The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now.

--Anne Morrow Lindberg

Just thought I would share that.

Glynn

girl_dee · 04-15-2011, 04:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Strappie

OMG..... now I know why I've been single for 5 years.
Really all is to clean out the dishwasher? Jesus I knew I paid that therapist too much. ..... lol

THANK YOU SCORP!!!!

and you being housetrained and all ...hey thats a plus in my book!

AtLast · 04-15-2011, 03:21 PM

Remember that paying attention to the small things helps build a strong foundation for facing the big stuff together.

Taking a partner for granted is a fast track to splitting up.

Laugh together.... A LOT!!!

girl_dee · 04-15-2011, 05:57 PM

Please, don't ever let the honeymoon be over.

Daywalker · 04-15-2011, 06:09 PM

Call her Beautiful, don't just tell her she is.

Dig up rocks for her ~ because U want to.
(just make sure that pretty rock doesn't just look
like a stoopid potato when ya get it home)

When U have passed the 7 year mark and are working on 8,
and she knows that she now haz all yer Exes beat in the
relationship duration thing...let her rejoice and dance
around the kitchen like she's spiking
a football in the End Zone.

Oh, and brush her hair for her ~ try not to pull it (too hard)

girl_dee · 04-15-2011, 06:34 PM

Brushing her hair...... OHHHhhhh yes good one!

Don't make promises then don't keep them.

Lynn · 04-15-2011, 06:39 PM

It helps if she thinks you're adorable.
Tell her you love her and that she's beautiful, but really mean it.
Choose someone who thinks you're really funny, even if you don't know why you amuse them so much.
Express gratitude and appreciation as often as you feel it.
Always ask if you can get her something while you're in the kitchen.

04-15-2011, 06:09 PM	#7
Daywalker Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Hippy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 3,750 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,499 Thanked 11,916 Times in 2,700 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Call her Beautiful, don't just tell her she is. Dig up rocks for her ~ because U want to. (just make sure that pretty rock doesn't just look like a stoopid potato when ya get it home) When U have passed the 7 year mark and are working on 8, and she knows that she now haz all yer Exes beat in the relationship duration thing...let her rejoice and dance around the kitchen like she's spiking a football in the End Zone. Oh, and brush her hair for her ~ try not to pull it (too hard) __________________ www.SirDaywalker.com

04-15-2011, 06:39 PM	#9
Lynn Member How Do You Identify?: Unabashed Feminine Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: Her, She Relationship Status: Married! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 689 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,499 Thanked 2,413 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9668976	It helps if she thinks you're adorable. Tell her you love her and that she's beautiful, but really mean it. Choose someone who thinks you're really funny, even if you don't know why you amuse them so much. Express gratitude and appreciation as often as you feel it. Always ask if you can get her something while you're in the kitchen. __________________ In the flush of love's light we dare be brave And suddenly we see that love costs all we are and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free. Maya Angelou Wedding Photos: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?...1&l=22b092b98c

04-14-2011, 08:28 PM	#1
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Strappie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I know who I am... Doesn't matter Relationship Status: It's a new day.... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Mpls, MN Posts: 3,283 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,813 Thanked 4,945 Times in 1,350 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	OMG..... now I know why I've been single for 5 years. Really all is to clean out the dishwasher? Jesus I knew I paid that therapist too much. ..... lol THANK YOU SCORP!!!!

04-14-2011, 09:22 PM	#3
Oiler41 Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him Relationship Status: Happily Single! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nunya Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,355 Thanked 2,574 Times in 789 Posts Rep Power: 18276168	My Dear Brother Ebon read this for Pup and I at our wedding; seems to be a good fit for the thread: When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern. The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. --Anne Morrow Lindberg Just thought I would share that. Glynn

04-15-2011, 03:21 PM	#5
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04-15-2011, 05:57 PM	#6
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04-15-2011, 06:34 PM	#8
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	Brushing her hair...... OHHHhhhh yes good one! Don't make promises then don't keep them.