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Old 01-12-2010, 12:26 PM   #1
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I have always been a big girl. Always been a lil self conscious about it. But, I could get dressed up, put on my make up and low cut shirt and feel sexy and wanted. All of that has changed. I can't feel pretty in this weight. Mostly, I feel disgusting and disgusted.
i'd encourage you to make peace with your size, right now--this second--the weight may come and go, but your body deserves (demands!) to be loved and honored at ANY size. love the size she is, each inch of her--thank her and praise her for embodying all that is you. no really, write your belly a love letter and tell her how she is beautiful--if you don't already have a lover that cherishes your body, get one.

in this process, i'd also encourage you to gift your self (and your body) with many 1+ hour massages--i wonder what your body *carries* for you, in terms of past hurt and a good place to discover that is with massage. (we hold on to pain in our bodies, and your wanting to reduce your size would mean, for me, examining what it is that you'll be allowing yourself to let go of)


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YAY!!!

Let me tell you that my "The Biggest Loser Cookbook" Was the best gift I have ever recieved. YOU MUST invest in this.

It will also ask you to invest in a kitchen scale and a olive oil sprayer. Everything else can be made using the stuff that I Know already exists in the Licious One's kitchen *wink*

You can do this, sweetcakes.

Next thing you know there'll be less of us!!!!!

YAY!
I've looked at that book and was wondering if it was as good as I thought it was. Thanks for the verification!

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Hi Candace ! I'm sure you will do great , keep a positive attitude . We Love The Biggest loser show! We watch every Tues without fail. It's amazing what
these people can do. Are you going to use a trainer and what gym are you
going to ?
I would like to lose some and get healthy , too! I didnt know there was a biggest loser cookbook , need to check it out . I do have to say the recipes in the south beach cookbook are fabulous, And one of my all time favorites is The Love your Heart Cookbook (low Cholesterol). Maybe when us girl get together again we can do a 5 mile walk !
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The Biggest Loser is a growing conglomerate (sp?). They have multiple books (Biggest Loser Cookbook, Biggest Loser Exchange book, etc) as well as a 16 month calendar that has pics of past contestants each month for inspiration and a tip each and EVERY single day. The calendar I have come back to again and again even though I'm not the wall calendar type. Also, Jillian is pimping a series of weight loss supplements.

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Candace...

I know how hard it is to make life changes. I woke up in August and decided that my love affair with sugar and carbs had to stop. As much as I love them... they are bad for me. With my family history and some health conditions I have, carb-free (or as close to that as possible) IS healthier for me.

The sugarfree "to-go" koolaid packs have been my lifesaver. I went from drinking a 12pk of soda per DAY to none. Zero. I don't really miss them (except when I want Jim Beam backed by my precious Sundrop)

As of this morning, the result has been a loss of 71lbs. Yep. Seventy one. Four clothes sizes and still dropping. The new "skinny jeans" I bought just two weeks ago are already too big. Its a great feeling even if the continual shopping is making the cheapo bastid in Jess have near fits.

Am I proud of me? Oh yeahhhhhh. Do I feel better? Its amazing. Am I running circles around Jess because I feel better? Uh huh.

Food is the only demon I think we have to "feed" everyday. I am an emotional eater. I love my mashed taters and gravy moreso than ice cream.

I think that to be successful with long term weight loss, you have to find what works for you. The way you lose the weight is the way you will have to eat for the rest of your life.

I know that you have all the necessary internal tools to do this. There are good support groups that are completely free (OA) that might be beneficial to you. You have your planet family here and I am sure we are all behind you 100%.

I heard a lil blurb on tv the other day that said that ppl who keep a food diary are far more successful at weight loss than those who don't. I know when I started tracking what I ate and the portion size (cause we all know that super size bag of cool ranch doritos MUST be the serving size), it was really an eye opener for me.

Best of luck to you!

Christie
Okay, first thing....congrats on getting healthier!!! You've lost what amounts to a small child!

Two, until you are a weight and size you are comfortable with, shop at thrift stores. That way your honey won't have a heart attack and you won't have any issues with discarding them as your progress.

Three, I love the generic Crystal Light singles! The white grape is my absolute fave!

Four, food diaries/journals are fantastic! As you mentioned, they are real eye openers. Unfortunately, I closed them back again.

This thread comes at a timely moment for me (and not just because it's Resolution Time either).


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Much and support for you, Candace! Come on up to Seattle if you ever want a break from the norm.

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You go Grrl

2009 was the 2nd worse year of my life... my Mum passed at 91 and 4 days before her passing my G/f of 5+ years said her life was taking another path... in a 3 min phone call.

I met someone a couple of months later and we seriously clicked after many long hours on the phone and spent the holidays together, so to speak... Christmas day she told me I was too fat to f*ck but we could be friends. We talked about my concerns / body issues before hand and it was all good... HA!

I have already lost 125lbs using the GI system and was feeling good... her loss, my motivation to keep going.

Happy to send along info re GI (Glycemic Index) to anyone who would like the info, they are in MS Word format, a lil large but hotmail and gmail should be ok.
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You go Grrl

2009 was the 2nd worse year of my life... my Mum passed at 91 and 4 days before her passing my G/f of 5+ years said her life was taking another path... in a 3 min phone call.

I met someone a couple of months later and we seriously clicked after many long hours on the phone and spent the holidays together, so to speak... Christmas day she told me I was too fat to f*ck but we could be friends. We talked about my concerns / body issues before hand and it was all good... HA!

I have already lost 125lbs using the GI system and was feeling good... her loss, my motivation to keep going.

Happy to send along info re GI (Glycemic Index) to anyone who would like the info, they are in MS Word format, a lil large but hotmail and gmail should be ok.

she told you WHAT?


whothefuckdoesshethinsheis? i sincerely hope you told her she was too stupid to fuck because she sounds pretty pathetic to me. obviously she's got some hang ups that have nothing to do with you and everything to do with her ego and the inability to think well of herself unless she's putting someone else down.

good riddance to bad rubbish babydoll!


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Happy to send along info re GI (Glycemic Index) to anyone who would like the info, they are in MS Word format, a lil large but hotmail and gmail should be ok.

Minor derail...... There is a free service for sending up to 100mb files.

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Candace, and all of the others that have joined in....count me in! I have gained 30 pounds this year alone because of a bad relationship, and I am bound determined to lose it before summer!

I worked out tonight, but have to take it easy because of a back spasm. It felt good to sweat! I had a party Saturday night, and nobody wanted to take the sweets home, so I put cupcakes and cookies down the disposal so I would not be tempted to eat them. That did make me sad inside for a minute.

I don't know what I weigh right now, but will get on the scale at work tomorrow and start keeping track.

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I am so sorry that I haven't responded. Just life took over yesterday. I got suspended from work and bla bla....but I PROMISE I'll be back tonight to respond..You guys are so amazing. Thank you for being so supportive. I can't wait to get to know each of your stories and help you out as much as I can.

Please don't think I'm not paying attn, I am

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