What do YOU need to feel loved?

Jesse · 04-22-2011, 12:26 PM

For me, what is important in love is to take the time to find out what love feels like to my partner and then make sure I know how to love them in that way and vice versa. This is important because what feels like love to me may not feel like love to another person, and their way of showing love may not reach me in that capacity.

Merlin · 05-17-2011, 06:15 AM

Physical attention,
Plenty of kissing,
Caresses,subtle touches.
Cuddles.
Hair ruffles,
Candlelit baths,
Intimate massages,
Nice meals cooked,

storyofmylife · 05-17-2011, 06:32 AM

Just the knowing that I am.......
even if we are miles apart

musicman · 05-17-2011, 06:47 AM

To have faith in my abilities

To believe in who I am

To Trust me

MsTinkerbelly · 05-18-2011, 10:10 AM

THAT look...the one that says no matter what, no matter who, she thinks I hung the moon.

violaine · 05-18-2011, 11:20 AM

consistency

BullRider_Dillon · 05-19-2011, 09:26 AM

Fidelity! Really,how hard is it???

Quintease · 05-23-2011, 05:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by violaine

consistency

That along with 'normality'.

amnesia.bfp · 06-28-2011, 04:03 PM

I don't remember.

Who am I?

gotoseagrl · 06-28-2011, 04:06 PM

... peace.

Gráinne · 06-28-2011, 11:27 PM

High love for myself-without that, no one else is getting through my walls.

Acceptance for all I am, faults and all, BUT also someone who will push me in the ample behind when I make up my mind to better myself. Challenge me, dare me.

I don't need gifts, but if you want to give me one, make it something personal-like you know who I am. The best are made, or planned. Something simple like my favorite dinner on the "good" dishes, followed by slow dancing in the living room...etc.

For example, it would rock my world if she would massage me; better still if she snuck out and took massage classes just to learn how to pleasure me

. I was married to a man who gave me a gift certificate for the cheapest massage at a spa, and I had to drive myself there and back. No more.

I must have laughter, enough to make my sides hurt and so I can't breathe, tears rolling down my face. I won't ever be with someone who can't make me laugh. I hope I make my future girlfriend laugh the same way.

I must have someone who listens to me and who doesn't talk to me while walking out of the room.

Be reliable and authentic.

Tolerate me when I'm a big kid and love cool things, whether you think they are or not; better yet, sometimes be a big kid yourself. This does not mean being childish or un-adult when seriousness is needed.

I like the physical part of a relationship often. Very often. This is my primary "love language", from that book. It does not always mean sex; I love contact, period. Don't expect me to warm all over you in bed if you've not touched me at all during the rest of the day.

That's a long list, all to say I can't define it but I know when I feel it

JAGG · 07-10-2011, 06:49 PM

I always feel loved. I need nothing to have that feeling. Others can add to it but no one, and nothing can take away from it.

girl_dee · 07-10-2011, 06:54 PM

I agree Jagg, no tasks need be done to feel it.

justkim · 07-10-2011, 07:23 PM

It just is... a feeling...

gotoseagrl · 01-26-2016, 09:57 PM

~ Super strong communication - we never have to wait for a response from one another, no matter what is going on, via text, phone, email, verbal or anything. This is a need we both have. We are also constantly talking and/or writing to each other about our feelings, thoughts & more, especially since living together.

~ Honesty - We tell each other everything.

~ Fearlessness - I never feel afraid of anything when we are together, and that says a lot because I tend to be anxious with most people. I am so incredibly relaxed when we are together that I find myself starting to nod off sometimes, which is unusual for me. And I am never afraid to talk about or bring something up with her cause I Just always know it will be ok.

~ Stability - by nature, my Partner is the Dominant one in our relationship & maintains steady routines and daily structure that never change, and I quickly learned I needed that as soon as we started dating. I couldn't do without them now.

~ Protection - my Partner is the one person I feel 100% safe with, always, and it has been that way since the first day we met. She is always looking after me and I am so grateful for that. Also, neither of us could bear to see the other hurt, and we have never hurt each other, not even once, since we've been together. We also never argue or fight.

~ Support - We are each other's #1 fan, and we admire and encourage each other all the time. She is so incredibly supportive of my creative outlets and any interests I want to pursue, and she is amazing with knowing where my strengths and limitations are and knowing which way we need to be headed for both our personal & relationship growth, which is more than I could have ever asked for.

~ Passion - I'm a very passionate person, and in our relationship, this is something that comes effortlessly and intensely. And boy did I meet my match. There is a wild flame that we know will never die.

~ Sense of humor - We are always laughing with and at each other, out of love. Sometimes we can't even stop!

05-17-2011, 06:15 AM	#2
Merlin Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Knight in shining armour. Relationship Status: Spoken for Join Date: May 2011 Location: England Posts: 250 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 87 Thanked 547 Times in 170 Posts Rep Power: 6763778	Physical attention, Plenty of kissing, Caresses,subtle touches. Cuddles. Hair ruffles, Candlelit baths, Intimate massages, Nice meals cooked, __________________ https://youtu.be/IWvEXChflEE

05-17-2011, 06:32 AM	#3
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05-17-2011, 06:47 AM	#4
musicman Member How Do You Identify?: NA Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NA Posts: 209 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 195 Thanked 429 Times in 125 Posts Rep Power: 3610464	What makes me feel loved and or secure To have faith in my abilities To believe in who I am To Trust me

05-19-2011, 09:26 AM	#7
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06-28-2011, 04:03 PM	#9
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04-22-2011, 12:26 PM	#1
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,780 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	For me, what is important in love is to take the time to find out what love feels like to my partner and then make sure I know how to love them in that way and vice versa. This is important because what feels like love to me may not feel like love to another person, and their way of showing love may not reach me in that capacity. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

05-18-2011, 10:10 AM	#5
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05-18-2011, 11:20 AM	#6
violaine Timed Out How Do You Identify?: atypical Preferred Pronoun?: plague words and phrases Relationship Status: love wise guys of the avian world Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: wekiva springs basin Posts: 3,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,934 Thanked 3,293 Times in 1,301 Posts Rep Power: 0	consistency

06-28-2011, 04:06 PM	#10
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06-28-2011, 11:27 PM	#11
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,864 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,118 Thanked 7,386 Times in 1,457 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	High love for myself-without that, no one else is getting through my walls. Acceptance for all I am, faults and all, BUT also someone who will push me in the ample behind when I make up my mind to better myself. Challenge me, dare me. I don't need gifts, but if you want to give me one, make it something personal-like you know who I am. The best are made, or planned. Something simple like my favorite dinner on the "good" dishes, followed by slow dancing in the living room...etc. For example, it would rock my world if she would massage me; better still if she snuck out and took massage classes just to learn how to pleasure me . I was married to a man who gave me a gift certificate for the cheapest massage at a spa, and I had to drive myself there and back. No more. I must have laughter, enough to make my sides hurt and so I can't breathe, tears rolling down my face. I won't ever be with someone who can't make me laugh. I hope I make my future girlfriend laugh the same way. I must have someone who listens to me and who doesn't talk to me while walking out of the room. Be reliable and authentic. Tolerate me when I'm a big kid and love cool things, whether you think they are or not; better yet, sometimes be a big kid yourself. This does not mean being childish or un-adult when seriousness is needed. I like the physical part of a relationship often. Very often. This is my primary "love language", from that book. It does not always mean sex; I love contact, period. Don't expect me to warm all over you in bed if you've not touched me at all during the rest of the day. That's a long list, all to say I can't define it but I know when I feel it __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck

07-10-2011, 06:49 PM	#12
JAGG Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: JAGG Relationship Status: =) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tulsa (cat free zone) Posts: 6,093 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,651 Thanked 17,529 Times in 4,137 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Love I always feel loved. I need nothing to have that feeling. Others can add to it but no one, and nothing can take away from it. __________________ I don't want to spend my life with someone I can live with, I want to spend my life with someone I can't live without.

07-10-2011, 06:54 PM	#13
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07-10-2011, 07:23 PM	#14
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01-26-2016, 09:57 PM	#15
gotoseagrl Senior Member How Do You Identify?: old-fashioned queer stone submissive girl Preferred Pronoun?: mermaid, very lucky babygirl Relationship Status: Saltwater mermaid ♡ Join Date: May 2010 Location: CA Posts: 2,209 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,192 Thanked 6,103 Times in 1,727 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Could not do without any of these ... ~ Super strong communication - we never have to wait for a response from one another, no matter what is going on, via text, phone, email, verbal or anything. This is a need we both have. We are also constantly talking and/or writing to each other about our feelings, thoughts & more, especially since living together. ~ Honesty - We tell each other everything. ~ Fearlessness - I never feel afraid of anything when we are together, and that says a lot because I tend to be anxious with most people. I am so incredibly relaxed when we are together that I find myself starting to nod off sometimes, which is unusual for me. And I am never afraid to talk about or bring something up with her cause I Just always know it will be ok. ~ Stability - by nature, my Partner is the Dominant one in our relationship & maintains steady routines and daily structure that never change, and I quickly learned I needed that as soon as we started dating. I couldn't do without them now. ~ Protection - my Partner is the one person I feel 100% safe with, always, and it has been that way since the first day we met. She is always looking after me and I am so grateful for that. Also, neither of us could bear to see the other hurt, and we have never hurt each other, not even once, since we've been together. We also never argue or fight. ~ Support - We are each other's #1 fan, and we admire and encourage each other all the time. She is so incredibly supportive of my creative outlets and any interests I want to pursue, and she is amazing with knowing where my strengths and limitations are and knowing which way we need to be headed for both our personal & relationship growth, which is more than I could have ever asked for. ~ Passion - I'm a very passionate person, and in our relationship, this is something that comes effortlessly and intensely. And boy did I meet my match. There is a wild flame that we know will never die. ~ Sense of humor - We are always laughing with and at each other, out of love. Sometimes we can't even stop! __________________ Be still when you have nothing to say; when genuine passion moves you, say what you've got to say, and say it hot. D. H. Lawrence