A Butch Mirror

Jet · 01-12-2010, 05:07 PM

I'm working to change the way I look. My body is not a fit for me and never has been. Maybe I'll celebrate when I'm done. lol

Corkey · 01-12-2010, 05:30 PM

I'm glad you started this thread Met, I hope others do find something to celebrate with their bodies. I have female bits, but struggle with them everyday, they are a part of who I am not. At this stage of life I'm not having surgeries or taking T to fix what I see as problem areas of my body. If I were 30 years younger, distinct possibility I would. I celebrate what my wife finds in me.

Jett · 01-13-2010, 01:49 AM

Sachita- thanx for your positive response.

Corkey- I know you have struggled, and you know you always have my support... thanx for coming in and showing yours.

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Interestingly I think what probably spurred this thread was my own past feelings about my body and how they've evolved and I've gotten to a better place over the years. My body's not exactly what I'd like it to be, no, but yes I do like it... something I couldn't always say. Hell, it still screws with your head when your masculine with a female body even if you identify strongly with being a female, and there were times in life early in my life I was looking in the mirror the same wtf expression people on the street looked at me with.

It's taken me a long time to get over my own shit on that so I guess it's what had me thinking how we view ourselves and bodies and stay positive about them in sometimes hostile environments... example being I was mistaken for a guy in a lesbian orientated space recently and when I corrected I got... "well it would help if you had some tits". So this isn't about peeps who are thrilled with their body but more a desire to foster a positive space with which to discuss butch self image in an encouraging manner.

Make no sense? It's a difficult subject and I'm just sort of rambling so perhaps not...

Peace
Metro
*who is looking back at hys OP now and wondering how much of it was a delayed reaction to the "if you had tits" remark... gahhhh... (lol)*

BullDog · 01-13-2010, 02:12 AM

Great thread Metro. I am perfectly happy having a female body. Only one issue I have is with having breasts, but I will save that for another thread.

I think what has helped me to become more comfortable with my body over the years has been becoming more in touch with my gender in terms of being butch as well as my sexuality in terms of being a stone butch. I have very happy to be butch and very happy to be female.

I also am not stone butch due to disassociating in any way with being female or female bits that I have. Coming into my stoneness has been a very freeing and positive experience for me. It does not have to do with not wanting to be feminized or having my body treated as non-female, I have no thoughts of transitioning, and I do not feel male. It is more a way of me focusing my energy and body on what pleases me as well as my partner.

Jett · 01-13-2010, 11:21 AM

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Originally Posted by BullDog

Great thread Metro. I am perfectly happy having a female body. Only one issue I have is with having breasts, but I will save that for another thread.

...*snip*...

Yeah I don't know why that issue wouldn't be appropriate here but that's up to you Bull. I had some thoughts on that actually but I'm trying to get my head unstuck on how to explain if I even can.

Maybe I'll just to repeat for now... ... "this isn't about peeps who are thrilled with their body but more a desire to foster a positive space with which to discuss butch self image in an encouraging manner..."

Anyway thanks much for your post...

Daywalker · 01-13-2010, 11:34 AM

I just woke up.

I'll be back to join in.

"If my body were a painting, it would be Art. So, paint me"

Just_G · 01-13-2010, 12:22 PM

Great thread M!
I have always hated having a chest...I had 36 DDD back in the day and had a reduction ten years ago. I was satisfied with that until I gained a little weight...it went right back onto my chest, so I call a mulligan and want to have my chest re-done.

I am pretty happy with the bod I have....though I am trying to lose some of my beer gut! I love my shoulders and arms...as I do a lot of lifting at work. I cut my own hair and keep it short and spikey...though I have been tempted to shave my head recently..lol While I only stand in the mirror with boxers on, I do not have issues with my bits....hooked up with the right chick, I like to get mine when given the chance!

When I look in the mirror, I see a masculine butch and I love it!

I have had my struggles in that department, but over all, I like me just the way I am.

01-12-2010, 05:30 PM	#2
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,268 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I'm glad you started this thread Met, I hope others do find something to celebrate with their bodies. I have female bits, but struggle with them everyday, they are a part of who I am not. At this stage of life I'm not having surgeries or taking T to fix what I see as problem areas of my body. If I were 30 years younger, distinct possibility I would. I celebrate what my wife finds in me. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

01-13-2010, 01:49 AM	#3
Jett Member How Do You Identify?: Hardcore bullheaded grown-ass Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: she loves my shaggy hair Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The backroom of a night cafe plotting world domination Posts: 1,028 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,054 Thanked 3,299 Times in 568 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Sachita- thanx for your positive response. Corkey- I know you have struggled, and you know you always have my support... thanx for coming in and showing yours. -------------------------------------------------------------------------- Interestingly I think what probably spurred this thread was my own past feelings about my body and how they've evolved and I've gotten to a better place over the years. My body's not exactly what I'd like it to be, no, but yes I do like it... something I couldn't always say. Hell, it still screws with your head when your masculine with a female body even if you identify strongly with being a female, and there were times in life early in my life I was looking in the mirror the same wtf expression people on the street looked at me with. It's taken me a long time to get over my own shit on that so I guess it's what had me thinking how we view ourselves and bodies and stay positive about them in sometimes hostile environments... example being I was mistaken for a guy in a lesbian orientated space recently and when I corrected I got... "well it would help if you had some tits". So this isn't about peeps who are thrilled with their body but more a desire to foster a positive space with which to discuss butch self image in an encouraging manner. Make no sense? It's a difficult subject and I'm just sort of rambling so perhaps not... Peace Metro who is looking back at hys OP now and wondering how much of it was a delayed reaction to the "if you had tits" remark... gahhhh... (lol) __________________ .......... In the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer. ~Albert Camus

01-13-2010, 02:12 AM	#4
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,640 Times in 4,463 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Great thread Metro. I am perfectly happy having a female body. Only one issue I have is with having breasts, but I will save that for another thread. I think what has helped me to become more comfortable with my body over the years has been becoming more in touch with my gender in terms of being butch as well as my sexuality in terms of being a stone butch. I have very happy to be butch and very happy to be female. I also am not stone butch due to disassociating in any way with being female or female bits that I have. Coming into my stoneness has been a very freeing and positive experience for me. It does not have to do with not wanting to be feminized or having my body treated as non-female, I have no thoughts of transitioning, and I do not feel male. It is more a way of me focusing my energy and body on what pleases me as well as my partner. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

01-13-2010, 12:22 PM	#7
Just_G Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Switch, Comedian...G...whichever. Preferred Pronoun?: He....with an e! Relationship Status: I'll take kinky & twisted for $200, Alex!! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the middle Posts: 2,281 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 874 Thanked 6,165 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Great thread M! I have always hated having a chest...I had 36 DDD back in the day and had a reduction ten years ago. I was satisfied with that until I gained a little weight...it went right back onto my chest, so I call a mulligan and want to have my chest re-done. I am pretty happy with the bod I have....though I am trying to lose some of my beer gut! I love my shoulders and arms...as I do a lot of lifting at work. I cut my own hair and keep it short and spikey...though I have been tempted to shave my head recently..lol While I only stand in the mirror with boxers on, I do not have issues with my bits....hooked up with the right chick, I like to get mine when given the chance! When I look in the mirror, I see a masculine butch and I love it! I have had my struggles in that department, but over all, I like me just the way I am. __________________ Happy are those who dream and are ready to pay the price to make them come true!

01-12-2010, 05:07 PM	#1
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'm working to change the way I look. My body is not a fit for me and never has been. Maybe I'll celebrate when I'm done. lol

01-13-2010, 11:34 AM	#6
Daywalker Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Hippy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 3,750 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,499 Thanked 11,916 Times in 2,700 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I just woke up. I'll be back to join in. "If my body were a painting, it would be Art. So, paint me"