Age... an issue?

MissPriss · 04-30-2011, 10:15 PM

I find that if I date someone my age or even close, that we have nothing in common! For me it is at least a 10yr age difference. Ive always been told Im an old soul and beyond my years. I guess it just depends on what you like to get out of a relationship really.

Stitch · 05-12-2011, 04:30 AM

I think age is an issue for me.
I have never dated anyone older than me like ever I don't think. Not by more than a couple years.
I think older femmes just intimidate me. lol

asphaltcowboi · 05-12-2011, 05:19 AM

i think
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had
And what you've learned from them and less to do with

how many birthdays you've celebrated.

nellsbells · 11-07-2013, 04:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by asphaltcowboi

i think
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had
And what you've learned from them and less to do with

how many birthdays you've celebrated.

Agreed.
I've never slept with, let alone dated anyone remotely near my age. Always older. Being only recently a legal adult, this of course resulted in a lot of concern from my mother who insisted I was being "taken advantage of". But I've been with my lady on and off for 2 years now, with a sixteen year age gap. At sixteen, she was literally twice my age. Ha!

It's hard though, to determine. Definitely case by case. The I wouldn't trust most of the dipshits I went to high school with to not make mistakes with their bodies and feelings. Most of them couldn't remember their own phone numbers.

imperfect_cupcake · 11-07-2013, 04:30 PM

I've always been with older, since I was 14. I had older girlfriends/boyfriends and sexual "fun" partners (I was bi) by 3-6 years until I was bout 24.

Then it broke into two categories. sex and fun, age doesn't matter but no one under 19.
Depending entirely on their maturity level. Sex is sex and should be enjoyed purely for it's own sake. And with that, there is no age limit aside from consenting adult. I have had sex with 19 (when I was 35) and 70 (right before I met my exwife)

I am not exactly the most mature person in the world. I may be world weary beyond 157, and been around 9 squillion different blocks, but I'm not all that... security driven.

I love it when someone shows off for me. I have since I was about 8. I love it when they get a bit cocky. I love it when they make an ass of themselves to make me laugh. In short, I like someone popping wheelies on their bike and then wiping out and laughing at themselves.

I had a 48 year old boydyke half naked and wrapped in saran wrap wearing a motorcycle helmet and gyrating around in front of a paint of a moon yelling "I'm a space man!!!" to make me laugh cause I was sad.

So, I'm really not all that mature. I don't really desire a mortgage. I am not sure if I'll still be living in vancouver in three years. I like playing truth or dare. I love it when someone climbs a tree for me. I like beer. I like cocktails. I like museums. I love being dapper. I love road trips.

so... my age range is 35 - 55. I'm 44. But within that is their maturity and experience levels. I like same as me: High levels of experience, low levels of maturity. I love *playfulness* but I hate naivety.

I seem to have the most fun with dykes in their late 40's and early 50's. They are more likely to look in my direction with some understanding of "fun casual sex" or "fully committed life partner"
the ones younger than me, in their late 30's (in my area) only know semi commited relationships. (read: not a life partner and not uncommitted sex) where people live together for 3 years and them move out.

*nightmare*

so I have a bit of a fear of 30 something dykes in vancouver.

TruTexan · 11-07-2013, 07:40 PM

When I first came out , I was seeing an older woman. I was 17 she was 23. It made for learning curves for sure, I matured much more with her faster I believe. But since that time, I"ve pretty much dated within my age group give or take a few years.
I've dated one person that was much older, disaster for me for reasons beyond age.
I think there is a difference in common ground within diff. age groups, but I don't see a problem with anyone wanting to date older or younger. It's not an issue for me. I just prefer someone close to my own age or within 2-3 years.
just my 2 cents worth.

puddin' · 11-10-2013, 02:56 PM

age makes no nevamind to me. it's all about connectedness, playfulness, intelligence and integrity in mah book...

i've been wit' women mah own age and some 20 years older or younger. it's not about age, it's about spirit.

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imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I've always been with older, since I was 14. I had older girlfriends/boyfriends and sexual "fun" partners (I was bi) by 3-6 years until I was bout 24. Then it broke into two categories. sex and fun, age doesn't matter but no one under 19. Depending entirely on their maturity level. Sex is sex and should be enjoyed purely for it's own sake. And with that, there is no age limit aside from consenting adult. I have had sex with 19 (when I was 35) and 70 (right before I met my exwife) I am not exactly the most mature person in the world. I may be world weary beyond 157, and been around 9 squillion different blocks, but I'm not all that... security driven. I love it when someone shows off for me. I have since I was about 8. I love it when they get a bit cocky. I love it when they make an ass of themselves to make me laugh. In short, I like someone popping wheelies on their bike and then wiping out and laughing at themselves. I had a 48 year old boydyke half naked and wrapped in saran wrap wearing a motorcycle helmet and gyrating around in front of a paint of a moon yelling "I'm a space man!!!" to make me laugh cause I was sad. So, I'm really not all that mature. I don't really desire a mortgage. I am not sure if I'll still be living in vancouver in three years. I like playing truth or dare. I love it when someone climbs a tree for me. I like beer. I like cocktails. I like museums. I love being dapper. I love road trips. so... my age range is 35 - 55. I'm 44. But within that is their maturity and experience levels. I like same as me: High levels of experience, low levels of maturity. I love playfulness but I hate naivety. I seem to have the most fun with dykes in their late 40's and early 50's. They are more likely to look in my direction with some understanding of "fun casual sex" or "fully committed life partner" the ones younger than me, in their late 30's (in my area) only know semi commited relationships. (read: not a life partner and not uncommitted sex) where people live together for 3 years and them move out. nightmare so I have a bit of a fear of 30 something dykes in vancouver.