Neurodiversity

[violaine]

i wanted to mention that my aspie friend [above post] met his girlfriend at a support group, and she is into permaculture in maine. he is quite a bit younger; their age difference is by fourteen years, and works beautifully. i might wonder about dating someone that much younger than myself who is not on the spectrum, but in AS to AS relationships, i would have few concerns age-wise.

[christie]

Belle -

Thank you SO much for the article on Aspie college prep courses! The Life Skills class at Woodrow Wilson Rehabilitation Hospital in Staunton, VA is very similar. Bratboy had an introduction to the class in February when he did the 14 day eval. Since then, he has taken on doing his own laundry (for the most part - after 9700 reminders from Jess and I).

I may look into the two different programs mentioned in the article that you posted - always nice to have a backup plan!

[violaine]

beginning conversations about birds, bugs, or . . . .

THINGS BULLIES SAY ABOUT ASPIES

Rude

Rude

Aspies aren't being rude when we don't get what you are trying to say between the lines; we just don't read non-verbal communication very well



Insensitive

Insensitive

Aspies have a very hard time trying to pick up on the needs of others or to see things from someone else's perspective



Domineering

Domineering

I suppose it can seem that way when someone is pedantic by nature and not picking up on subtle social signals; but the intent is not to be domineering



Pedantic

Pedantic

Yes, guilty, Aspies are pedantic; our brains are hard-wired that way, that's why we make such good scientists and IT's



Inconsiderate

Inconsiderate

Aspies have a very hard time trying to pick up on the needs of others or to see things from someone else's perspective unless it is spoken



Talks too loud

Talks too loud or too soft, or with a monotonous voice

It is common for Aspies to have odd prosody of speech, typically too loud or too soft



Talks too much / won't let anyone else get a word in

Can't shut them up

Aspies typically lack the receptors for non-verbal social signals



Ignores body language

Shocking at non-verbal communication

Aspies typically lack the receptors for non-verbal social signals



Says and does inappropriate things

Says and does inappropriate things

Aspies have difficulty in judging the appropriateness of different behaviours in different social situations



Won't consider someone else's opinion

Selfish, narrow minded

An unfortunate symptom of Asperger's is that we do not react well to change; this makes it hard to instinctively "get" others' opinions without being spelled out



Only wants to talk about jellyfish i just posted on jellyfish. haha

Only wants to talk about their special interest

One of the key features of Asperger's and other Autism disorders is for sufferers to have an obsessional special interest

Anti-social

Anti-social

Aspies are reknowned for being uncomfortable in social situations, preferring reading, writing, computing, or other 'anti-social' activities



Off in my own world

Head in the Clouds

Yes, I suppose Aspies are that way



and some kind of case here:

http://launcestoncityscandal.com/discrimination.html

i have not read through the entire thing. i'm thinking in the work space i've not [that i'm aware of] experienced too much bullying. maybe a couple instances of 'sabotage.' once, while teaching at the humane society, there was someone who wanted my job but refused to assist me whenever invited, or make an effort to learn the ropes on her own. she hid some of my paperwork, destroyed some things, and refused to let people know about what i was there to do, i found out later. my time spent at the HS in those days, was for the shelter animals. was that a form of bullying?


the positions that i've held doing my own thing, seem to be the ideal situation for me. like right now, i do see people, of course, and must have interaction; it's just not upsetting The Job iam/we are there to perform, nor am i having to stress over sensory issues.

[Andrew, Jr.]

Belle,

Did you ever experience the situation where people set you up to fail at work?

[violaine]

[QUOTE=Andrew, Jr.;335431]
Belle,

Did you ever experience the situation where people set you up to fail at work?



yes! six months into 2005, a situation arose with my being on a board. i was asked at my address, then later nominated for the position, and i thought of many positive ideas for involving this communiy with its residents and small town. what i did not know, and could not have conceived of, andrew, was that the majority of board members wanted me to discourage a woman from attending functions by eliminating her in the process of voting, volunteerism, common day-to-day issues, et c. people saw her as 'weak' and could not 'see' her disability. they were very cruel and expected that i would support them because they did, after all, 'want me' as their 'leader.' what they failed to see in setting me up for failure, was that i am not a weak person. witnessing the preying on people viewed as weak freaked me out and i could hardly believe my eyes, but it happened. i was used, and did maintain my post for a year, but with new supporters

i posted on this before. the woman had been bullied right off of riding a bus to get her groceries, and it did take me some time to straighten that out with the transportation supervisor, because she had 'bought into' the horrible stories herself about someone she had never even met.

[Andrew, Jr.]

Yes, I have had it happen to me as well. I have always experienced the negative & rejecting side of society. I think that is why I would much rather be around animals and just people watch. What is inside just never comes out right or comes out backwards or people look at me like I have 3 heads. Even when I did my activist work for trans-folks. The medical community here in Balto. sucks if you ask me.

[Jess]

Originally Posted by christie0918

Belle -

Thank you SO much for the article on Aspie college prep courses! The Life Skills class at Woodrow Wilson Rehabilitation Hospital in Staunton, VA is very similar. Bratboy had an introduction to the class in February when he did the 14 day eval. Since then, he has taken on doing his own laundry (for the most part - after 9700 reminders from Jess and I).

I may look into the two different programs mentioned in the article that you posted - always nice to have a backup plan!

He seems to be beginning to understand that actions or the lack thereof have consequences.

Six months ago I would have been asked to explain "WHYYYYYYYYY?" 58 times..... he was going to lose his internet privileges for not doing his chores ( clean his filthy room..LOL).

Today, we come home from school. He asked when he would get his web back and I quietly answered when he tidied his room and he started a load of laundry. No questions. In 15 minutes he brought his dishes downstairs and began a load of clothes. He got web back and later I will remind him to come put clothes in dryer. Trick is to remind early enough to still have internet bargaining time left. LOL.

In trying to prepare him for life in the world beyond the cloister of home and school, we are trying desperately at times, to instill in him the notions of social and personal responsibility. It has been an interesting journey for all of us.

[violaine]

love jessica kingsley publishers! rudy simone:


http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/wo...spergirls.html

[Andrew, Jr.]

Auditory Processing Delay...anyone else hear of this?

[violaine]

andrew, i am familiar with auditory processing delay. here are some links for a bit of understanding about the problems caused with auditory processing delay in adults/children:

http://qw88nb88.wordpress.com/living...sing-disorder/

i love the section on bugs! :0}


http://www.actg.org/programs/auditor...processing.htm


i stumbled upon this in some of my research work [some of you know that's what i do intermittently work-wise for an author/attorney.]


http://www.portfolio.com/news-market...Cyber-Bullying


got a kick out of this question on a law forum- "assuming you are non-aspie!" HA!
http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?..._id=2#18011945

[Quintease]

This looks interesting http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781849058261

[Semantics]

Originally Posted by Quintease

This looks interesting http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781849058261

I'm going to order that one. Thanks.

There's another good book specifically about girls on the spectrum called [ame="http://www.amazon.com/Girls-Umbrella-Autism-Spectrum-Disorders/dp/1931282471/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1304984459&sr=1-1"]Girls Under the Umbrella of Autism Spectrum Disorders[/ame] that I highly recommend.