How did you get to where you are today?

[Dude]

Originally Posted by Blade

For the butches and female ID'd butches, how did you know or when did you know that you were only butch. All are welcome, lets hear it.

I was listening pretty good until the only butch part.

Looks at the name of the site.

I am only butch and perfectly content being one.

I'll assume you have no bad intent and maybe could have used
a different word here if you had thought to.

I read the trans threads as there are more things than not that
I can relate to and I hope that I am an ally. I do try to be and have for years.
At 16, my dream was to save up to get the ultimate surgery and
have it all.
Over the years I have become more ok being me.
Woman ,she and her twist my mind while describing myself.
I would rather be called that butch or my name.
Being the first woman to do job's that before men were only
hired to do is something I'm proud of and do not want to give up.

I've thought of this a lot and would also not want to give up
being seen as queer by those that do see me.
Like the gay man at work who said it was good to see family around
and introduced me to his partner.
To not have that kind of visibilty would make me blend in and
I think I would hate that.
Plus would I want to look even more like my father than I already do?
No thank you. I'm good.
Maybe it's a bit like how femme's must feel by being seen as straight all the time?


I never try to pass and do. I wonder sometimes, do I look like a straight
man or a gay man to some of these people who call me sir.
Maybe I should swish it up some.

My final desination is butch and I'm good with that.
There likely are others who maybe just like me were wondering why
no one questioned the only butch wording. So, I had to.