The Love list.

LaneyDoll · 06-01-2011, 08:21 AM

Fun!!! Let me try? And I am going to swipe Pixie's list then edit b/c her list matches me well. (I heart you Pixie!)

I am going to limit myself to 30 otherwise I could be here all day and half the night

1-Honesty (it is sad that you HAVE to list this)
2-Trusting/Trustworthy (sad that you have to list this too)
3-Attentive-I want to be the focus of someone's world; I do not ever want to be/feel second (kids aside, I understand the importance of the parent/child relationship)
4-Balanced
5-Kinky
6-Butch or Andro, Daddy preferred
7-Affectionate
8-Realizes that relationships take work and commitment
9-Wants children
10-Patient
11-Loves music & movies and IS NOT a couch potato
12-Finds pleasure in the little things
13-Has passion (for life, for love) I embrace life to the fullest.
14-Enjoys time together and time apart. I do not cling and do not want someone who does.
15-Enjoys a variety of activities and likes trying new things
16-Enjoys going out just as much as they enjoy staying in
17-Protective
18-Has a sense of humor
19-Manages time (if I can be on time you can) and money well (but is not cheap)
20-Has manners and uses them
21-Likes their career
22-Has a high sex drive and initiates sleepy sex b/c I like waking up that way in the middle of the night
23-Takes care of themselves & supports that I may want my ultra femme time upon occasion
24-Does not expect me to always be in ultra femme mode
25-Doesn't live in the past (I do not want to feel like I come up short in comparisons)
26-Not a "taker" (I am a giver who is getting tired of always giving and not getting)
27-Either in my lifestyle or supportive of my place in it
28-Likes to take control but is not a control freak
29-Non Smoker
30-Social or Non-Drinker

cinderella · 06-01-2011, 09:50 AM

I love your signature line!!

I've read the lists, and they are commendable. I'm not listing because I am burnt out, old, jaded, and bitter...I will now leave this thread 'cause y'all certainly don't need my negativity. Good luck all in finding that elusive 'perfect life-mate'.

I have only truly loved once in my life. I have spent 40 years trying to find that again without success, so I quit. I have my puppy Pinky - now that's what I call unconditional love!

Gráinne · 06-01-2011, 11:02 AM

For me, a list like this is not only about seeking "out there", but is really a list of traits we want in ourselves-a list of our highest selves, so to speak. I'm not talking about butch seeking femme and vice versa, or physical traits-those count, too, but I suspect the inner traits are within our own souls, or we wish them to be. If relationships are truly mirrors, then we seek what we already have within. At heart, we want what makes us grow.

So, my list isn't what I seek in a partner (though if one showed up, great!), but rather what I want to grow in myself over the next year, June to June:

1. Patience
2. Tolerance
3. Openness (general)
4. Outgoingness
5. Appreciation of beauty in art, music, and writing,
6. Self-expression
7. Peace within; calmness
8. Having said that, great passion and fire within
9. Greater mind-body connection
10. High level of self-care
11. Respect and care for friendships
12. Hard work
13. Creativity
14. Inner joy
15. Care of surroundings
16. Experimental (in food, art, music, etc.)
17. Sense of humor
18. Compassion
19. Having a cause
20. Independence
21. Confidence
22. Sensuality
23. Sexuality, inner and perhaps with partners
24. Sense of adventure
25. Time on more hobbies
26. Education, always growing
27. Joy at work
28. Openness and readiness for love
29. Good physical health
30. Mentally tough

LaneyDoll · 06-01-2011, 11:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by guihong

For me, a list like this is not only about seeking "out there", but is really a list of traits we want in ourselves-a list of our highest selves, so to speak. I'm not talking about butch seeking femme and vice versa, or physical traits-those count, too, but I suspect the inner traits are within our own souls, or we wish them to be. If relationships are truly mirrors, then we seek what we already have within. At heart, we want what makes us grow.

Damn!!! I am officially speechless and my friends will tell you-that rarely happens.

This is beautifully stated. I may have to email it to myself as a reminder (with your permission of course).

Mr Nice Guy · 06-19-2011, 11:34 AM

Ok we need more lists people!!

MrSunshine · 06-19-2011, 11:36 AM

1. Sweet

everything else is cake

Mr Nice Guy · 06-19-2011, 11:40 AM

I like that. Quick and to the point.

cinderella · 06-20-2011, 09:51 PM

You are one very easy dude...or are you?

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrSunshine

1. Sweet

everything else is cake

bigbutchmistie · 06-19-2011, 12:02 PM

My List

Honest

Loyal

Trustworthy I can trust her with my life. This is VERY important

Extremely girly but aggressive

Is over 30.

Believes In God

Doesn't have children to raise

Romantic. Someone who doesn't expect me to just be romantic with her. Someone who loves treating her butch like a king as she will be treated as my queen.

Employed. Self sufficient

Non Smoker

No drugs social drinker is fine no drunks

Doesn't have cats. I'm highly allergic

Can handle me with ease

Has Common Sense

Tender

Patient

Affectionate

Nurturing

Understanding

Inuitive of my needs

Emotionally Supportive

Knows how to be on time

Someone who is highly sexual and isn't a pillow princess

Someone who puts relationships a priority and not an option

Someone is who is spontaneous. Who can and will drop everything at a moments notice to go a way together.

Someone who loves being femme but can be relaxed in just shorts and a t shirt.

Isn't materialistic. Enjoys the little things.

Has and uses manners

Protective of me as I am of her.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-19-2011, 12:08 PM

Great list!! I'm glad you all are filling it out. I believe it works. It did for some on another site. Oh you all can call me Handsome or Elusive or the King love bumper. Always here to help find love.

bigbutchmistie · 07-04-2011, 08:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bigbutchmistie

My List

Honest

Loyal

Trustworthy I can trust her with my life. This is VERY important

Extremely girly but aggressive

Is over 30.

Believes In God

Doesn't have children to raise

Romantic. Someone who doesn't expect me to just be romantic with her. Someone who loves treating her butch like a king as she will be treated as my queen.

Employed. Self sufficient

Non Smoker

No drugs social drinker is fine no drunks

Doesn't have cats. I'm highly allergic

Can handle me with ease

Has Common Sense

Tender

Patient

Affectionate

Nurturing

Understanding

Inuitive of my needs

Emotionally Supportive

Knows how to be on time

Someone who is highly sexual and isn't a pillow princess

Someone who puts relationships a priority and not an option

Someone is who is spontaneous. Who can and will drop everything at a moments notice to go a way together.

Someone who loves being femme but can be relaxed in just shorts and a t shirt.

Isn't materialistic. Enjoys the little things.

Has and uses manners

Protective of me as I am of her.

I added likes to cook

But oh loves to kiss.

Loves things girlie Bubble baths mani/pedi. Perfume lotion

Must be ok with the fact I have no family.

06-01-2011, 08:21 AM	#1
LaneyDoll Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Girly girl femme Preferred Pronoun?: She; Ma'am; Miss ;) Relationship Status: Pitbull protected. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 2,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,892 Thanked 7,683 Times in 1,607 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Fun!!! Let me try? And I am going to swipe Pixie's list then edit b/c her list matches me well. (I heart you Pixie!) I am going to limit myself to 30 otherwise I could be here all day and half the night 1-Honesty (it is sad that you HAVE to list this) 2-Trusting/Trustworthy (sad that you have to list this too) 3-Attentive-I want to be the focus of someone's world; I do not ever want to be/feel second (kids aside, I understand the importance of the parent/child relationship) 4-Balanced 5-Kinky 6-Butch or Andro, Daddy preferred 7-Affectionate 8-Realizes that relationships take work and commitment 9-Wants children 10-Patient 11-Loves music & movies and IS NOT a couch potato 12-Finds pleasure in the little things 13-Has passion (for life, for love) I embrace life to the fullest. 14-Enjoys time together and time apart. I do not cling and do not want someone who does. 15-Enjoys a variety of activities and likes trying new things 16-Enjoys going out just as much as they enjoy staying in 17-Protective 18-Has a sense of humor 19-Manages time (if I can be on time you can) and money well (but is not cheap) 20-Has manners and uses them 21-Likes their career 22-Has a high sex drive and initiates sleepy sex b/c I like waking up that way in the middle of the night 23-Takes care of themselves & supports that I may want my ultra femme time upon occasion 24-Does not expect me to always be in ultra femme mode 25-Doesn't live in the past (I do not want to feel like I come up short in comparisons) 26-Not a "taker" (I am a giver who is getting tired of always giving and not getting) 27-Either in my lifestyle or supportive of my place in it 28-Likes to take control but is not a control freak 29-Non Smoker 30-Social or Non-Drinker __________________ There are beauties who stop traffic and then there are beauties who grow obsessively in the hearts of the susceptible. Last edited by LaneyDoll; 06-01-2011 at 08:44 AM.

06-01-2011, 09:50 AM	#2
cinderella Member How Do You Identify?: Pinky's mommy :) Preferred Pronoun?: Su Majestad Relationship Status: Happy with my puppy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Pocono Mtns., Pa. Posts: 1,238 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4 Thanked 1,501 Times in 638 Posts Rep Power: 14266108	Laney Doll I love your signature line!! I've read the lists, and they are commendable. I'm not listing because I am burnt out, old, jaded, and bitter...I will now leave this thread 'cause y'all certainly don't need my negativity. Good luck all in finding that elusive 'perfect life-mate'. I have only truly loved once in my life. I have spent 40 years trying to find that again without success, so I quit. I have my puppy Pinky - now that's what I call unconditional love! __________________ Who needs reality when you have Turner Classic Movies!! The is an organ of fire.

06-01-2011, 11:02 AM	#3
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,864 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,118 Thanked 7,386 Times in 1,457 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	For me, a list like this is not only about seeking "out there", but is really a list of traits we want in ourselves-a list of our highest selves, so to speak. I'm not talking about butch seeking femme and vice versa, or physical traits-those count, too, but I suspect the inner traits are within our own souls, or we wish them to be. If relationships are truly mirrors, then we seek what we already have within. At heart, we want what makes us grow. So, my list isn't what I seek in a partner (though if one showed up, great!), but rather what I want to grow in myself over the next year, June to June: 1. Patience 2. Tolerance 3. Openness (general) 4. Outgoingness 5. Appreciation of beauty in art, music, and writing, 6. Self-expression 7. Peace within; calmness 8. Having said that, great passion and fire within 9. Greater mind-body connection 10. High level of self-care 11. Respect and care for friendships 12. Hard work 13. Creativity 14. Inner joy 15. Care of surroundings 16. Experimental (in food, art, music, etc.) 17. Sense of humor 18. Compassion 19. Having a cause 20. Independence 21. Confidence 22. Sensuality 23. Sexuality, inner and perhaps with partners 24. Sense of adventure 25. Time on more hobbies 26. Education, always growing 27. Joy at work 28. Openness and readiness for love 29. Good physical health 30. Mentally tough __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck

06-19-2011, 12:02 PM	#9
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	My List Honest Loyal Trustworthy I can trust her with my life. This is VERY important Extremely girly but aggressive Is over 30. Believes In God Doesn't have children to raise Romantic. Someone who doesn't expect me to just be romantic with her. Someone who loves treating her butch like a king as she will be treated as my queen. Employed. Self sufficient Non Smoker No drugs social drinker is fine no drunks Doesn't have cats. I'm highly allergic Can handle me with ease Has Common Sense Tender Patient Affectionate Nurturing Understanding Inuitive of my needs Emotionally Supportive Knows how to be on time Someone who is highly sexual and isn't a pillow princess Someone who puts relationships a priority and not an option Someone is who is spontaneous. Who can and will drop everything at a moments notice to go a way together. Someone who loves being femme but can be relaxed in just shorts and a t shirt. Isn't materialistic. Enjoys the little things. Has and uses manners Protective of me as I am of her. Last edited by bigbutchmistie; 06-19-2011 at 12:05 PM.

06-19-2011, 11:34 AM	#5
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Ok we need more lists people!!

06-19-2011, 11:36 AM	#6
MrSunshine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?: Ummmm Relationship Status: Nah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine Posts: 2,616 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,577 Thanked 3,891 Times in 1,155 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	1. Sweet everything else is cake

06-19-2011, 11:40 AM	#7
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	I like that. Quick and to the point.

06-19-2011, 12:08 PM	#10
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Great list!! I'm glad you all are filling it out. I believe it works. It did for some on another site. Oh you all can call me Handsome or Elusive or the King love bumper. Always here to help find love.