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This last week would have been challenging for me even if I was not quitting smoking. It has been touch and go, and I would not consider myself successful except that progress is evident. I am not back to my regular habit nor do I give up. Just trying to get a grip so Quitting does not = Nervous Breakdown.
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I discovered that as long as I maintained the very positive self-talk I created for myself before starting the process it was easier to say no to the 'stress ciggies'. Not to mention I was scared stiff. I am pleased to report that Non-Mrs.I has smoked what is hopefully her last real ciggie and is currently using an e-cig. She has circulatory problems in her legs which are hugely exacerbated by smoking. We recently found out that an acquaintance who has similar circulatory problems has now lost a leg upto mid-thigh. He's only in his 30s. The fear has finally hit her. Keep the faith and don't give up giving up. |
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I fell!
A couple days ago - I had a meltdown. A genuine meltdown directed at my three son's. I became hysterical (lol omg so dramatic) and stole one of Isa's (middle son's) cigs and smoked it, as if I had never quit. And then another. And then the next morning, snuck into his room and stole one out of his pack, and then another. Then yesterday same routine - except Isa left for the week and then some of Ben's friends came over who smoked and when they were not looking, I stole theirs! How Pathetic! I just charged my e-cig and at some point this morning will go get some mild filters. I am not sure why I cannot manage my emotions, except ---- I did just get my period, a week early and I am emotional for a variety of reasons -- But why the cigs? Why do we always reach for the cigs? That is all - I am not ashamed, just a bit disappointed in myself. I am glad the kids left for a few days - I need to regroup and find some *me* time and get back on track. AND - I told Isa, you cannot come back home with cigarettes. I am not strong enough yet. Julie
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For me the meltdowns make me want to smoke as well...they are emotionally charged..for me those bad days i want more than anything to smoke and i do not...for me it was always about , are you ready for this....i smoked to "AVOID" emotion.....nice huh... now im 41 with the emotions of a teenager wtf is that about.... so now i dont smoke and i have these things called "emotions" creeping up on me all the time...learning to deal with them one at a time... there was this old thought "If i smoke i don't have to deal with the bad stuff" Here is a new thought "the bad stuff is gonna happen anyway, no need to smoke"
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There, you hit it on the head Julie, there's no need for shame just a bit of disappointment in yourself...none of us will be ashamed or disappointed in you. We're here to support not knock folks down. You've charged your e-cig...well done!! I think you have every right to expect some support in this from your sons if they live with you. The line I will continue to use is... Keep the faith and don't give up giving up ![]() |
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