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Old 06-09-2011, 09:50 AM   #1
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Bumping for peace. These statements of Medusa are good to remember for how we treat ALL members of the Planet.
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Bumping for peace. These statements of Medusa are good to remember for how we treat ALL members of the Planet.
I second this!

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I ran across this today and thought it was advice I could use. So I thought I'd share.

"Disagreeing agreeably requires two behaviors up-front and one more as a refinement. The two required behaviors up-front are:

1. Acknowledge the other person's idea is valid.
2. Assert that your position is different. Not better, just different.

The refinement that helps you avoid a defensive reaction is to keep listening to their idea longer than you normally would. Ask questions. Be curious. Really hear them out.

If you can accept that the disagreement of others doesn't diminish your ideas, then you can afford to be patient and generous."

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I ran across this today and thought it was advice I could use. So I thought I'd share.

"Disagreeing agreeably requires two behaviors up-front and one more as a refinement. The two required behaviors up-front are:

1. Acknowledge the other person's idea is valid.
2. Assert that your position is different. Not better, just different.

The refinement that helps you avoid a defensive reaction is to keep listening to their idea longer than you normally would. Ask questions. Be curious. Really hear them out.

If you can accept that the disagreement of others doesn't diminish your ideas, then you can afford to be patient and generous."

- Tom Henschel
I think the 2nd point is an important one. I think we often confuse disagreement with someone trying to "look better" or make ourselves feel like we're inadequate or something like that.

Thanks for posting this, Nat.
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Bumpity Bump!

Hey folks -

Please read the first post in this thread! This is a thread centering around the request for our community to be super welcoming to newbies and also to lay down our defenses if someone appears to say something clumsy or that you feel offended by.

Many times, people are merely speaking from their place and they don't have the long history of language and definers that we all have with one another and I'd hate for someone to feel unwelcome for not phrasing something correctly or in the framework of "how we do things 'round here".

Let's all remember that this Planet is only as good as we make it and that our bubbles of experience here on the Planet are not "the" experience. We all come from different places and we can learn just as much from newbies as they can learn from us.

Thanks to you all who make this a welcoming and diverse place!

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Bumpity Bump!

Hey folks -

Please read the first post in this thread! This is a thread centering around the request for our community to be super welcoming to newbies and also to lay down our defenses if someone appears to say something clumsy or that you feel offended by.

Many times, people are merely speaking from their place and they don't have the long history of language and definers that we all have with one another and I'd hate for someone to feel unwelcome for not phrasing something correctly or in the framework of "how we do things 'round here".

Let's all remember that this Planet is only as good as we make it and that our bubbles of experience here on the Planet are not "the" experience. We all come from different places and we can learn just as much from newbies as they can learn from us.

Thanks to you all who make this a welcoming and diverse place!

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Time to bump the donuts....
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Bumpity Bump!

Hey folks -

Please read the first post in this thread! This is a thread centering around the request for our community to be super welcoming to newbies and also to lay down our defenses if someone appears to say something clumsy or that you feel offended by.

Many times, people are merely speaking from their place and they don't have the long history of language and definers that we all have with one another and I'd hate for someone to feel unwelcome for not phrasing something correctly or in the framework of "how we do things 'round here".

Let's all remember that this Planet is only as good as we make it and that our bubbles of experience here on the Planet are not "the" experience. We all come from different places and we can learn just as much from newbies as they can learn from us.

Thanks to you all who make this a welcoming and diverse place!

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