The Love list.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-19-2011, 11:34 AM

Ok we need more lists people!!

MrSunshine · 06-19-2011, 11:36 AM

1. Sweet

everything else is cake

Mr Nice Guy · 06-19-2011, 11:40 AM

I like that. Quick and to the point.

cinderella · 06-20-2011, 09:51 PM

You are one very easy dude...or are you?

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrSunshine

1. Sweet

everything else is cake

Puplove · 06-20-2011, 11:06 PM

I have one:

Be the Oiler.

Funny how all those MUSTS become insignificant when you meet the one, because the one just fits. If everything was exactly according to the requirements I'd planned, it would be kind of creepy. How would I know the Oiler was a real person and not just a a co-dependent extension of myself? Someone with real wishes, self-determination, quirks and flaws that don't depend on my approval? A real person I can love and trust to be himself while loving me for who I am too.

A key ingredient is that I had to love and be confident in myself and my flaws, and quirks first, to be truly happy with myself and my own company. Then, the person right for you can find you because you're showing your true self in every situation.

bigbutchmistie · 06-19-2011, 12:02 PM

My List

Honest

Loyal

Trustworthy I can trust her with my life. This is VERY important

Extremely girly but aggressive

Is over 30.

Believes In God

Doesn't have children to raise

Romantic. Someone who doesn't expect me to just be romantic with her. Someone who loves treating her butch like a king as she will be treated as my queen.

Employed. Self sufficient

Non Smoker

No drugs social drinker is fine no drunks

Doesn't have cats. I'm highly allergic

Can handle me with ease

Has Common Sense

Tender

Patient

Affectionate

Nurturing

Understanding

Inuitive of my needs

Emotionally Supportive

Knows how to be on time

Someone who is highly sexual and isn't a pillow princess

Someone who puts relationships a priority and not an option

Someone is who is spontaneous. Who can and will drop everything at a moments notice to go a way together.

Someone who loves being femme but can be relaxed in just shorts and a t shirt.

Isn't materialistic. Enjoys the little things.

Has and uses manners

Protective of me as I am of her.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-19-2011, 12:08 PM

Great list!! I'm glad you all are filling it out. I believe it works. It did for some on another site. Oh you all can call me Handsome or Elusive or the King love bumper. Always here to help find love.

bigbutchmistie · 06-19-2011, 09:21 PM

Oh yea and someone who wants to have a commitment ceremony traditional with her in a long flowing white wedding dress and me in tuxedo.

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lillith · 06-19-2011, 10:30 PM

I have 1, as well:

Integrity

When a person has integrity all the traits of honesty, loyalty, honor, etc don't need to be stated, ya know? For me, they are all interrelated, and you cannot have one without the others. So it is just one. Well, maybe brown eyes too, but that is flexible.

siam_blue · 06-20-2011, 01:31 AM

Hi all,

Well, here goes--off the top of my head (before bed).

-handsome butch
-Top
-Daddy
-good sense of humour
-serious
-intelligent
-possesses good spelling and grammar
-well-employed and enjoys their job
-Canadian!
-someone who won't let me get away with shit!
-believes in honesty and lives their life with integrity and compassion
-gentle but firm
-prioritizes travelling
-someone who drives
-someone who loves cats and dogs and animals in general
-someone who speaks more than one language
-someone who wants a committed relationship
-someone aged 40-45 or so
-someone who accepts me for me and is not bothered that i have a mobility disability

There you have it! You did say to be specific!

Mr Nice Guy · 06-20-2011, 02:37 PM

Keep it going peeps!! Love the lists and yes, we all will find love.

chai~ · 11-19-2011, 12:50 AM

-someone who won't let me get away with shit!

ahhhh, this goes on my list too.....I want someone to challenge me when I need to be challenged.

greeneyedgrrl · 07-04-2011, 01:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lillith

I have 1, as well:

Integrity

When a person has integrity all the traits of honesty, loyalty, honor, etc don't need to be stated, ya know? For me, they are all interrelated, and you cannot have one without the others. So it is just one. Well, maybe brown eyes too, but that is flexible.

agreed...cept for the eye color... i'm not picky bout that, more about how they look at me with those eyes than the color of em.

but i agree that integrity just about covers it. i don't think that my "ideal" partner has to agree with me all the time (in fact, how boring would that be??) or share the same beliefs (again...where's the fun in that?). i think it's more about being able to be true to themselves while allowing me to do the same. oh... and they must love kid... not all of em...just mine!

bigbutchmistie · 07-04-2011, 08:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bigbutchmistie

My List

Honest

Loyal

Trustworthy I can trust her with my life. This is VERY important

Extremely girly but aggressive

Is over 30.

Believes In God

Doesn't have children to raise

Romantic. Someone who doesn't expect me to just be romantic with her. Someone who loves treating her butch like a king as she will be treated as my queen.

Employed. Self sufficient

Non Smoker

No drugs social drinker is fine no drunks

Doesn't have cats. I'm highly allergic

Can handle me with ease

Has Common Sense

Tender

Patient

Affectionate

Nurturing

Understanding

Inuitive of my needs

Emotionally Supportive

Knows how to be on time

Someone who is highly sexual and isn't a pillow princess

Someone who puts relationships a priority and not an option

Someone is who is spontaneous. Who can and will drop everything at a moments notice to go a way together.

Someone who loves being femme but can be relaxed in just shorts and a t shirt.

Isn't materialistic. Enjoys the little things.

Has and uses manners

Protective of me as I am of her.

I added likes to cook

But oh loves to kiss.

Loves things girlie Bubble baths mani/pedi. Perfume lotion

Must be ok with the fact I have no family.

justkim · 07-04-2011, 08:24 PM

List's are for grocery shopping...

We are always changing and growing...

Why limit yourself?

Happy List making...

T4Texas · 07-04-2011, 09:25 PM

There are lots of things I could put on a list I suppose, but I sat and thought about this a lot and decided to condense it to the things I felt were really the most important to me.

1. Must be able to have intelligent conversation.

2. Must be willing to communicate

3. Must have a kind heart

4. Must love me for who I am, try to understand the flaws and embrace the positives, and I will do the same for you.

5. Must be more than just vanilla

Mr Nice Guy · 07-04-2011, 09:29 PM

Great lit T4T. Good luck in finding love.

LaneyDoll · 07-04-2011, 09:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by T4Texas

There are lots of things I could put on a list I suppose, but I sat and thought about this a lot and decided to condense it to the things I felt were really the most important to me.

1. Must be able to have intelligent conversation.

2. Must be willing to communicate

3. Must have a kind heart

4. Must love me for who I am, try to understand the flaws and embrace the positives, and I will do the same for you.

5. Must be more than just vanilla

Well said! I could add these to my list-well, the ones that are not already there.

msW8ing · 08-07-2011, 08:32 AM

Of course the obvious attributes..confident, sense of humor, honest, faithful, loving, affectionate, animal lover and the like. For me it's the one that can look at the wrinkles (worry lines) on my face and see that they were earned from years of worrying about loved ones being a nurturer it happens..see the stretch marks from carrying two lives inside of me and know that I brought two beautiful, amazing children into this world and not be jealous of my love for them or my two amazing grandaughters..respect one anothers morals, values, ethics and beliefs. Gets that entering my kitchen would be like me entering thier garage..only touch what you have to and put everything back as I had it..I wont put your hammer in the screw driver drawer if you don't put my spatula in with the scrapers..laughing together..willing to grow and change as all people do with me, together. Not having to be attached at the hip 24/7. Not belittling one another in front of others..call me out when I'm wrong but do so in private I will love and respect you for that and do the same for you. Know that when I prepare your meals it's with love, I do it because it's WHO I am not what I think is required. Doesn't think I'm wierd because I full face sniff your shirts sometimes before I put them in the washer. Wrap me in your arms when you feel me shaking because it's a bad storm outside. When the world has kicked your ass and your frusterated..let me make it go away. You don't always have to be big and brave. Know that no matter our differences I will always have your back. Days I feel ugly, make me feel beautiful and I will do the same for you. Talk WITH me..not AT or TO me. Gets that for me it's old fashioned in the home. I may be a leader, self confident, strong, decisive, and bold in the work place..but at home I am the nurturer, lover, wife, romantic and caretaker. Look into my eyes and see the love and admiration I have for you. I am me, I'm not your ex/exes do not confuse or compare us. I live by the saying."Lady in the streets, whore in the sheets". And speaking of streets..doesn't ogle other women in front of me, or acknowledge when being flirted with by others. Dang no wonder I'm single I didn't realize until I typed it out just how finicky I am.

WomenMoveMe · 11-17-2011, 05:46 PM

A woman that embodies the very essence of what a woman should be. A woman that wants and needs to be adored...cared for...and protected. A woman who shall come first...and in return...will protect my vulnerabilities and bestow unto me the respect and adoration bestowed unto her.

She shall be a lady...feminine...with all that entails.
Passionate...genuine...warm... kind...adventurous...and creative. She shall be honest and spontaneous. She shall possess humor...wit...and compassion. She shall give...she shall take. She shall perpetrate grace under pressure and the ability to adapt to the ever changing perplexities of life. She shall have a mind of her own with opinions she is unafraid to share. She shall come to me with wants...needs...and desires...knowing they will be fulfilled. She knows her worth and will not settle for less.

06-20-2011, 11:06 PM	#5
Puplove Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Austin TX Posts: 904 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 879 Thanked 3,215 Times in 705 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I have one: Be the Oiler. Funny how all those MUSTS become insignificant when you meet the one, because the one just fits. If everything was exactly according to the requirements I'd planned, it would be kind of creepy. How would I know the Oiler was a real person and not just a a co-dependent extension of myself? Someone with real wishes, self-determination, quirks and flaws that don't depend on my approval? A real person I can love and trust to be himself while loving me for who I am too. A key ingredient is that I had to love and be confident in myself and my flaws, and quirks first, to be truly happy with myself and my own company. Then, the person right for you can find you because you're showing your true self in every situation. __________________ Alice laughed: "There's no use trying," she said; "one can't believe impossible things." "I daresay you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "...Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." Last edited by Puplove; 06-20-2011 at 11:07 PM. Reason: oh grammar - a flaw!

06-19-2011, 12:02 PM	#6
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	My List Honest Loyal Trustworthy I can trust her with my life. This is VERY important Extremely girly but aggressive Is over 30. Believes In God Doesn't have children to raise Romantic. Someone who doesn't expect me to just be romantic with her. Someone who loves treating her butch like a king as she will be treated as my queen. Employed. Self sufficient Non Smoker No drugs social drinker is fine no drunks Doesn't have cats. I'm highly allergic Can handle me with ease Has Common Sense Tender Patient Affectionate Nurturing Understanding Inuitive of my needs Emotionally Supportive Knows how to be on time Someone who is highly sexual and isn't a pillow princess Someone who puts relationships a priority and not an option Someone is who is spontaneous. Who can and will drop everything at a moments notice to go a way together. Someone who loves being femme but can be relaxed in just shorts and a t shirt. Isn't materialistic. Enjoys the little things. Has and uses manners Protective of me as I am of her. Last edited by bigbutchmistie; 06-19-2011 at 12:05 PM.

06-19-2011, 10:30 PM	#9
lillith Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her, hey you! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 204 Thanked 688 Times in 225 Posts Rep Power: 5173242	I have 1, as well: Integrity When a person has integrity all the traits of honesty, loyalty, honor, etc don't need to be stated, ya know? For me, they are all interrelated, and you cannot have one without the others. So it is just one. Well, maybe brown eyes too, but that is flexible. __________________ now how can you ignore a dancing pink elephant? and how i so wish it would rain here.

07-04-2011, 08:24 PM	#15
justkim Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Relationship Status: <3 myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 2,023 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,062 Thanked 6,799 Times in 1,553 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	List's are for grocery shopping... We are always changing and growing... Why limit yourself? Happy List making... __________________ Kim "A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success." - Unknown -

07-04-2011, 09:25 PM	#16
T4Texas Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Ready to play again! Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 233 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 436 Thanked 647 Times in 167 Posts Rep Power: 6739722	There are lots of things I could put on a list I suppose, but I sat and thought about this a lot and decided to condense it to the things I felt were really the most important to me. 1. Must be able to have intelligent conversation. 2. Must be willing to communicate 3. Must have a kind heart 4. Must love me for who I am, try to understand the flaws and embrace the positives, and I will do the same for you. 5. Must be more than just vanilla __________________ Chivalry is when you meet a woman you would rather die for, than live with.

06-19-2011, 11:34 AM	#1
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Ok we need more lists people!!

06-19-2011, 11:36 AM	#2
MrSunshine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?: Ummmm Relationship Status: Nah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine Posts: 2,616 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,577 Thanked 3,891 Times in 1,155 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	1. Sweet everything else is cake

06-19-2011, 11:40 AM	#3
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	I like that. Quick and to the point.

06-19-2011, 12:08 PM	#7
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Great list!! I'm glad you all are filling it out. I believe it works. It did for some on another site. Oh you all can call me Handsome or Elusive or the King love bumper. Always here to help find love.

06-19-2011, 09:21 PM	#8
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Oh yea and someone who wants to have a commitment ceremony traditional with her in a long flowing white wedding dress and me in tuxedo. .

06-20-2011, 01:31 AM	#10
siam_blue Junior Member How Do You Identify?: queer grrl dyke Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 21 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 12 Times in 6 Posts Rep Power: 17	Hi all, Well, here goes--off the top of my head (before bed). -handsome butch -Top -Daddy -good sense of humour -serious -intelligent -possesses good spelling and grammar -well-employed and enjoys their job -Canadian! -someone who won't let me get away with shit! -believes in honesty and lives their life with integrity and compassion -gentle but firm -prioritizes travelling -someone who drives -someone who loves cats and dogs and animals in general -someone who speaks more than one language -someone who wants a committed relationship -someone aged 40-45 or so -someone who accepts me for me and is not bothered that i have a mobility disability There you have it! You did say to be specific!

06-20-2011, 02:37 PM	#11
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Keep it going peeps!! Love the lists and yes, we all will find love.

11-19-2011, 12:50 AM	#12
chai~ Member How Do You Identify?: Self possessed Aquarian Preferred Pronoun?: Don't call me baby~ Relationship Status: Deliciously single and loving it. Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: lotus land Posts: 1,173 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,937 Thanked 3,381 Times in 864 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	-someone who won't let me get away with shit! ahhhh, this goes on my list too.....I want someone to challenge me when I need to be challenged.

07-04-2011, 09:29 PM	#17
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Great lit T4T. Good luck in finding love.

08-07-2011, 08:32 AM	#19
msW8ing Member How Do You Identify?: multi-faceted gem, femme, submissive babygirl if the chemistry is there. Preferred Pronoun?: lady Relationship Status: working on myself Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Lewiston, Idaho Posts: 920 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,700 Thanked 2,497 Times in 654 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Of course the obvious attributes..confident, sense of humor, honest, faithful, loving, affectionate, animal lover and the like. For me it's the one that can look at the wrinkles (worry lines) on my face and see that they were earned from years of worrying about loved ones being a nurturer it happens..see the stretch marks from carrying two lives inside of me and know that I brought two beautiful, amazing children into this world and not be jealous of my love for them or my two amazing grandaughters..respect one anothers morals, values, ethics and beliefs. Gets that entering my kitchen would be like me entering thier garage..only touch what you have to and put everything back as I had it..I wont put your hammer in the screw driver drawer if you don't put my spatula in with the scrapers..laughing together..willing to grow and change as all people do with me, together. Not having to be attached at the hip 24/7. Not belittling one another in front of others..call me out when I'm wrong but do so in private I will love and respect you for that and do the same for you. Know that when I prepare your meals it's with love, I do it because it's WHO I am not what I think is required. Doesn't think I'm wierd because I full face sniff your shirts sometimes before I put them in the washer. Wrap me in your arms when you feel me shaking because it's a bad storm outside. When the world has kicked your ass and your frusterated..let me make it go away. You don't always have to be big and brave. Know that no matter our differences I will always have your back. Days I feel ugly, make me feel beautiful and I will do the same for you. Talk WITH me..not AT or TO me. Gets that for me it's old fashioned in the home. I may be a leader, self confident, strong, decisive, and bold in the work place..but at home I am the nurturer, lover, wife, romantic and caretaker. Look into my eyes and see the love and admiration I have for you. I am me, I'm not your ex/exes do not confuse or compare us. I live by the saying."Lady in the streets, whore in the sheets". And speaking of streets..doesn't ogle other women in front of me, or acknowledge when being flirted with by others. Dang no wonder I'm single I didn't realize until I typed it out just how finicky I am. __________________ *Don't judge me by my past..I don't live there anymore* A lady who knows the ropes..will never be bound. ~Mae West

11-17-2011, 05:46 PM	#20
WomenMoveMe Member How Do You Identify?: I just wander about and be! Relationship Status: Caution: Dead End Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Kentucky Posts: 561 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,473 Thanked 2,099 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Shouldn't be too difficult to find... A woman that embodies the very essence of what a woman should be. A woman that wants and needs to be adored...cared for...and protected. A woman who shall come first...and in return...will protect my vulnerabilities and bestow unto me the respect and adoration bestowed unto her. She shall be a lady...feminine...with all that entails. Passionate...genuine...warm... kind...adventurous...and creative. She shall be honest and spontaneous. She shall possess humor...wit...and compassion. She shall give...she shall take. She shall perpetrate grace under pressure and the ability to adapt to the ever changing perplexities of life. She shall have a mind of her own with opinions she is unafraid to share. She shall come to me with wants...needs...and desires...knowing they will be fulfilled. She knows her worth and will not settle for less.