Stone Butches

[Electrocell]

Originally Posted by MaggieBluIze

It feels so wonderful to be able to do that ... I agree!!

I think that's really great you're going to be helping your friend with her truck ... I would give anything (just about ) to have a friend close by that knew how to work on vehicles when needed. That is an amazingly wonderful skill to have.

I just do what needs to be done lol definetly don't want to be a full time mechanic lol.

[msW8ing]

[Electrocell]

Wanders in ,looks around, shrugs and leaves.

[Converse]

Originally Posted by Electrocell

Wanders in ,looks around, shrugs and leaves.

Hello.

[Converse]

Ok Lets try this….

For the people who have partnered with a Stone Butch, I’m curious what was the “thought process” that you went through the very first time- did you discuss it before/afterwards with the Butch or others, was it a surprise, something you had to adjust to – or did you know that you were looking for a Stone, and what that would mean?

[princessbelle]

Originally Posted by Converse

Ok Lets try this….

For the people who have partnered with a Stone Butch, I’m curious what was the “thought process” that you went through the very first time- did you discuss it before/afterwards with the Butch or others, was it a surprise, something you had to adjust to – or did you know that you were looking for a Stone, and what that would mean?

Good questions. For me, i had been on the dash site and dance awhile before i had my first experience with a Stone. I had read a lot, so i was at least somewhat knowledgable of what stone meant. I adjusted quite easily and just tried to be polite and respectful and i certainly hope that was accomplished.

What i have found, however, is that even with the ID as stone, it is still so individualized that nothing is written in...yes i'm gonna say it....stone.

I, personally, don't seek out stone, or FTM or whatever the ID. If i'm attracted, i'm attracted. If it goes farther than that and things get moving, communication is the key of course. Yes i would ask the questions of boundries which are VERY important with any ID.

I've dated a couple, ok a few, stones and none of them are exactly the same with the way they see themselves or their boundries.

Dating someone who IDs as stone, in my experience, is not a cut and dry identity and thankfully it is unique, informative, and exciting each time.

[lillith]

Originally Posted by Converse

Ok Lets try this….

For the people who have partnered with a Stone Butch, I’m curious what was the “thought process” that you went through the very first time- did you discuss it before/afterwards with the Butch or others, was it a surprise, something you had to adjust to – or did you know that you were looking for a Stone, and what that would mean?

The very first time I heard the term, I thought, "OK. They must smoke a lot of weed." I asked that question, and was very fortunate to have someone in my life who gently laughed and said, "No." When hy explained things to me, it made sense to me, but I also felt a curious mixture of excitement and repulsion. I told hym that I needed some time to digest what hy said. I understood why I was excited, but I couldn't wrap my head around why I was repulsed. After a couple of days and some serious searching, I came to the conclusion that it was too hetero. I was dedicated to my lesbian sex. I explained all of this to hym, and we agreed friends would be best. There was a nagging, deep feeling I couldn't shake about it all, though. I approached hym and asked hym to show me. And good God-Almighty, did hy ever! Things were so profound that I could no longer say that I was lesbian. I had been "flipped," as it were.

It has been many years since that story, and I have learned that there is no predescribed definition. I have met stones who are hardcore no you don't touch me except for my back to stones who don't look at their biological sex as something other than a mini cock that should be worshiped. I think the point for me is that I am who I am. I am a pleaser and giver and a receiver. What all those mean depends on the relationship and what is agreed to and at any point agreements can change because there are no set rules for me.

[CherylNYC]

Because I'm a stonefemme my ideal partner would be a stone butch. My late gf was nearly stone, so it worked out very well for us. She allowed a certain amount of touching under some rare circumstances, but it wasn't common for her to be very interested in that sort of thing.

Originally Posted by lillith

... There was a nagging, deep feeling I couldn't shake about it all, though. I approached hym and asked hym to show me. And good God-Almighty, did hy ever! Things were so profound that I could no longer say that I was lesbian. I had been "flipped," as it were.

...I have met stones who are hardcore no you don't touch me except for my back to stones who don't look at their biological sex as something other than a mini cock that should be worshiped.

I don't see why being a stonefemme, or a stone butch for that matter, means that we aren't lesbians. My late gf IDed as such, and I certainly do, too. She was an old school butch who IDed as a lesbian, stone butch, butch dyke, and/or leatherdyke top. All of those IDs were female to her, and she didn't feel compelled to call herself anything other than a woman. A very, VERY butch woman. She had a vagina and a clit, just like any other woman. Being stone meant that she was the pitcher. My stonefemme nature means I'm the catcher. No more, no less.

I'm a lesbian and my sex is stone sex. I assume that no one on this site is going to be foolish enough to tell me that I'm not a lesbian because I'm a stonefemme.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Converse

Ok Lets try this….

For the people who have partnered with a Stone Butch, I’m curious what was the “thought process” that you went through the very first time- did you discuss it before/afterwards with the Butch or others, was it a surprise, something you had to adjust to – or did you know that you were looking for a Stone, and what that would mean?

I don't think I had a conscious thought process in the matter, but looking back on past relationships, I see a very distinct movement...a graduation from one end of the spectrum to the other, with Stone being the final destination. So, when I was finally with someone who was Stone, I just *knew*.

Sure, there were specific boundaries to define and outline and, as previously mentioned, those are very specific to the individual, but relationships felt right for the first time ever. I didn't have to try so hard to be 'right' or do the 'right' things and I wasn't made to feel guilty or selfish about my own boundaries. I felt seen for the first time in forever.

That fact....the ease of it all...was surprising to me. I tend to unintentionally...subconsciously...make things more difficult than they need to be but not this.

[daisyfm]

Originally Posted by Converse

Ok Lets try this….

For the people who have partnered with a Stone Butch, I’m curious what was the “thought process” that you went through the very first time- did you discuss it before/afterwards with the Butch or others, was it a surprise, something you had to adjust to – or did you know that you were looking for a Stone, and what that would mean?

to me there is no thought process, when i have partnered with a Stone Butch i have always known what to expect, which is awesome because i don't like surprises. when there is too much to figure out it means that something is not for you, otherwise things just flow. i knew exactly what i was looking for. there is nothing as wonderful as knowing what you want and finding it. i think...

[ScandalAndy]

Originally Posted by daisyfm

to me there is no thought process, when i have partnered with a Stone Butch i have always known what to expect, which is awesome because i don't like surprises. when there is too much to figure out it means that something is not for you, otherwise things just flow. i knew exactly what i was looking for. there is nothing as wonderful as knowing what you want and finding it. i think...

But how did you know what to expect if not all stone identities encompass the same things? What kind of questions do you ask? Do you ask any questions at all? How could you tell you had addressed their desires, how could they tell they had addressed yours? This may sound dumb, but I'm not sure how to accomplish any of that without at least some dialogue.

[Electrocell]

Originally Posted by Converse

Hello.

Hi and welcome.