The Love list.

bigbutchmistie · 07-04-2011, 08:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bigbutchmistie

My List

Honest

Loyal

Trustworthy I can trust her with my life. This is VERY important

Extremely girly but aggressive

Is over 30.

Believes In God

Doesn't have children to raise

Romantic. Someone who doesn't expect me to just be romantic with her. Someone who loves treating her butch like a king as she will be treated as my queen.

Employed. Self sufficient

Non Smoker

No drugs social drinker is fine no drunks

Doesn't have cats. I'm highly allergic

Can handle me with ease

Has Common Sense

Tender

Patient

Affectionate

Nurturing

Understanding

Inuitive of my needs

Emotionally Supportive

Knows how to be on time

Someone who is highly sexual and isn't a pillow princess

Someone who puts relationships a priority and not an option

Someone is who is spontaneous. Who can and will drop everything at a moments notice to go a way together.

Someone who loves being femme but can be relaxed in just shorts and a t shirt.

Isn't materialistic. Enjoys the little things.

Has and uses manners

Protective of me as I am of her.

I added likes to cook

But oh loves to kiss.

Loves things girlie Bubble baths mani/pedi. Perfume lotion

Must be ok with the fact I have no family.

justkim · 07-04-2011, 08:24 PM

List's are for grocery shopping...

We are always changing and growing...

Why limit yourself?

Happy List making...

T4Texas · 07-04-2011, 09:25 PM

There are lots of things I could put on a list I suppose, but I sat and thought about this a lot and decided to condense it to the things I felt were really the most important to me.

1. Must be able to have intelligent conversation.

2. Must be willing to communicate

3. Must have a kind heart

4. Must love me for who I am, try to understand the flaws and embrace the positives, and I will do the same for you.

5. Must be more than just vanilla

Mr Nice Guy · 07-04-2011, 09:29 PM

Great lit T4T. Good luck in finding love.

LaneyDoll · 07-04-2011, 09:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by T4Texas

There are lots of things I could put on a list I suppose, but I sat and thought about this a lot and decided to condense it to the things I felt were really the most important to me.

1. Must be able to have intelligent conversation.

2. Must be willing to communicate

3. Must have a kind heart

4. Must love me for who I am, try to understand the flaws and embrace the positives, and I will do the same for you.

5. Must be more than just vanilla

Well said! I could add these to my list-well, the ones that are not already there.

msW8ing · 08-07-2011, 08:32 AM

Of course the obvious attributes..confident, sense of humor, honest, faithful, loving, affectionate, animal lover and the like. For me it's the one that can look at the wrinkles (worry lines) on my face and see that they were earned from years of worrying about loved ones being a nurturer it happens..see the stretch marks from carrying two lives inside of me and know that I brought two beautiful, amazing children into this world and not be jealous of my love for them or my two amazing grandaughters..respect one anothers morals, values, ethics and beliefs. Gets that entering my kitchen would be like me entering thier garage..only touch what you have to and put everything back as I had it..I wont put your hammer in the screw driver drawer if you don't put my spatula in with the scrapers..laughing together..willing to grow and change as all people do with me, together. Not having to be attached at the hip 24/7. Not belittling one another in front of others..call me out when I'm wrong but do so in private I will love and respect you for that and do the same for you. Know that when I prepare your meals it's with love, I do it because it's WHO I am not what I think is required. Doesn't think I'm wierd because I full face sniff your shirts sometimes before I put them in the washer. Wrap me in your arms when you feel me shaking because it's a bad storm outside. When the world has kicked your ass and your frusterated..let me make it go away. You don't always have to be big and brave. Know that no matter our differences I will always have your back. Days I feel ugly, make me feel beautiful and I will do the same for you. Talk WITH me..not AT or TO me. Gets that for me it's old fashioned in the home. I may be a leader, self confident, strong, decisive, and bold in the work place..but at home I am the nurturer, lover, wife, romantic and caretaker. Look into my eyes and see the love and admiration I have for you. I am me, I'm not your ex/exes do not confuse or compare us. I live by the saying."Lady in the streets, whore in the sheets". And speaking of streets..doesn't ogle other women in front of me, or acknowledge when being flirted with by others. Dang no wonder I'm single I didn't realize until I typed it out just how finicky I am.

Morgan · 11-16-2011, 06:19 PM

There are a number of things I am looking for in a relationship, but will list only the most important items, anything else is nice, but not a must.

1. Kind (must have a big heart)
2. Faithful (you only get one chance)
3. Honest (don’t lie, big deal breaker)
4. Femme (oh yes, very, very important)
5. Intelligent (need to be able to carry on good conversations)
6. Sense of Humor (make me laugh)
7. Deep (not afraid of showing or expressing feelings and emotions)
8. Willing to work through the rough times (I don’t want someone who
gives up on a whim)
9. Sexually uninhibited, kinky, willing to experiment (no vanilla sex)
10. Cuddling, touching, nurturing and loving behavior (both receiving and
giving)
11. No bitching or nagging (no ands, ifs, or buts on this topic)
12. Independent, has a life outside the relationship (go hang out-you need
friends and activities on your own)
13. Stable/Self-sufficient (employed or looking)
14. Playful (I enjoy the serious side, but playing must come natural)
15. Clean and neat (includes self and home)
16. Somewhat Organized (I am weak in this area, need all the help I can
get)
17. Kind to children and pets (show me)
18. Emotionally strong (lean on me, but do not suffocate me)
19. Not afraid to give up control (give me the control)
20. Open and able to express what is going on (I cannot read minds)
21. Spunky and fiery behavior (if you don’t like something, tell me, I can
agree to disagree)
22. Respectful (no snide comments or innuendos)
23. Enjoys being pampered and spoiled (willing to reciprocate)
24. Likes going to movies, dinners out, relaxing at home, family
outings, vacations, traveling and trying new things (very important)
25. Must be somewhat active (cannot tolerate laziness)
26. No heavy drinking (absolutely)
27. Treat me as if I am the most important person in your life as I will
you (aside from children)
28. Wants to look good (does not spend an excessive amount of time in
front of a mirror on a daily basis, in order to do this)
29. Spontaneous (most times willing to do things on the spur of the
moment)
30. No drama (leave the drama at the door)

WomenMoveMe · 11-17-2011, 05:46 PM

A woman that embodies the very essence of what a woman should be. A woman that wants and needs to be adored...cared for...and protected. A woman who shall come first...and in return...will protect my vulnerabilities and bestow unto me the respect and adoration bestowed unto her.

She shall be a lady...feminine...with all that entails.
Passionate...genuine...warm... kind...adventurous...and creative. She shall be honest and spontaneous. She shall possess humor...wit...and compassion. She shall give...she shall take. She shall perpetrate grace under pressure and the ability to adapt to the ever changing perplexities of life. She shall have a mind of her own with opinions she is unafraid to share. She shall come to me with wants...needs...and desires...knowing they will be fulfilled. She knows her worth and will not settle for less.

tazz · 11-17-2011, 06:10 PM

a Butch that is strong enough, is able to Love enough, give enough, is able to accept another enough, forgiving enough, is able to communicate, have a sense of self awareness, trust, respect, who takes good care of themselves, and supportive of my ventures, just as much as i'm supportive of hers/hym.

Leigh · 11-17-2011, 06:53 PM

I've come to realize that I am not going to put some drawn out list in the thread because for Me, personally, what truly matters to Me is that I find someone who will love Me for Me and I will love them for who they are ~ no relationship will be perfect and we will both have flaws but as long as we love each other then that to Me is all that matters

07-04-2011, 08:24 PM	#2
justkim Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Relationship Status: <3 myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 2,023 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,062 Thanked 6,799 Times in 1,553 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	List's are for grocery shopping... We are always changing and growing... Why limit yourself? Happy List making... __________________ Kim "A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success." - Unknown -

07-04-2011, 09:25 PM	#3
T4Texas Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Ready to play again! Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 233 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 436 Thanked 647 Times in 167 Posts Rep Power: 6739721	There are lots of things I could put on a list I suppose, but I sat and thought about this a lot and decided to condense it to the things I felt were really the most important to me. 1. Must be able to have intelligent conversation. 2. Must be willing to communicate 3. Must have a kind heart 4. Must love me for who I am, try to understand the flaws and embrace the positives, and I will do the same for you. 5. Must be more than just vanilla __________________ Chivalry is when you meet a woman you would rather die for, than live with.

08-07-2011, 08:32 AM	#6
msW8ing Member How Do You Identify?: multi-faceted gem, femme, submissive babygirl if the chemistry is there. Preferred Pronoun?: lady Relationship Status: working on myself Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Lewiston, Idaho Posts: 920 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,700 Thanked 2,497 Times in 654 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Of course the obvious attributes..confident, sense of humor, honest, faithful, loving, affectionate, animal lover and the like. For me it's the one that can look at the wrinkles (worry lines) on my face and see that they were earned from years of worrying about loved ones being a nurturer it happens..see the stretch marks from carrying two lives inside of me and know that I brought two beautiful, amazing children into this world and not be jealous of my love for them or my two amazing grandaughters..respect one anothers morals, values, ethics and beliefs. Gets that entering my kitchen would be like me entering thier garage..only touch what you have to and put everything back as I had it..I wont put your hammer in the screw driver drawer if you don't put my spatula in with the scrapers..laughing together..willing to grow and change as all people do with me, together. Not having to be attached at the hip 24/7. Not belittling one another in front of others..call me out when I'm wrong but do so in private I will love and respect you for that and do the same for you. Know that when I prepare your meals it's with love, I do it because it's WHO I am not what I think is required. Doesn't think I'm wierd because I full face sniff your shirts sometimes before I put them in the washer. Wrap me in your arms when you feel me shaking because it's a bad storm outside. When the world has kicked your ass and your frusterated..let me make it go away. You don't always have to be big and brave. Know that no matter our differences I will always have your back. Days I feel ugly, make me feel beautiful and I will do the same for you. Talk WITH me..not AT or TO me. Gets that for me it's old fashioned in the home. I may be a leader, self confident, strong, decisive, and bold in the work place..but at home I am the nurturer, lover, wife, romantic and caretaker. Look into my eyes and see the love and admiration I have for you. I am me, I'm not your ex/exes do not confuse or compare us. I live by the saying."Lady in the streets, whore in the sheets". And speaking of streets..doesn't ogle other women in front of me, or acknowledge when being flirted with by others. Dang no wonder I'm single I didn't realize until I typed it out just how finicky I am. __________________ *Don't judge me by my past..I don't live there anymore* A lady who knows the ropes..will never be bound. ~Mae West

11-17-2011, 05:46 PM	#8
WomenMoveMe Member How Do You Identify?: I just wander about and be! Relationship Status: Caution: Dead End Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Kentucky Posts: 561 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,473 Thanked 2,099 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Shouldn't be too difficult to find... A woman that embodies the very essence of what a woman should be. A woman that wants and needs to be adored...cared for...and protected. A woman who shall come first...and in return...will protect my vulnerabilities and bestow unto me the respect and adoration bestowed unto her. She shall be a lady...feminine...with all that entails. Passionate...genuine...warm... kind...adventurous...and creative. She shall be honest and spontaneous. She shall possess humor...wit...and compassion. She shall give...she shall take. She shall perpetrate grace under pressure and the ability to adapt to the ever changing perplexities of life. She shall have a mind of her own with opinions she is unafraid to share. She shall come to me with wants...needs...and desires...knowing they will be fulfilled. She knows her worth and will not settle for less.

11-17-2011, 06:10 PM	#9
tazz Member How Do You Identify?: Athlete/tomboi Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, cutie Relationship Status: Estoy recibiendo cómodo con él Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: you never know where i might end up ;) Posts: 1,365 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,807 Thanked 1,759 Times in 642 Posts Rep Power: 20456639	i know she/hy's out there... a Butch that is strong enough, is able to Love enough, give enough, is able to accept another enough, forgiving enough, is able to communicate, have a sense of self awareness, trust, respect, who takes good care of themselves, and supportive of my ventures, just as much as i'm supportive of hers/hym. __________________ "She walks a different path than some of us, but those on her wavelength enjoy the journey with her." --DLOS

07-04-2011, 09:29 PM	#4
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Great lit T4T. Good luck in finding love.

11-16-2011, 06:19 PM	#7
Morgan Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, hy, hym, does not matter Relationship Status: I am enjoying life.... Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Arizona Posts: 643 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,753 Thanked 1,604 Times in 411 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	There are a number of things I am looking for in a relationship, but will list only the most important items, anything else is nice, but not a must. 1. Kind (must have a big heart) 2. Faithful (you only get one chance) 3. Honest (don’t lie, big deal breaker) 4. Femme (oh yes, very, very important) 5. Intelligent (need to be able to carry on good conversations) 6. Sense of Humor (make me laugh) 7. Deep (not afraid of showing or expressing feelings and emotions) 8. Willing to work through the rough times (I don’t want someone who gives up on a whim) 9. Sexually uninhibited, kinky, willing to experiment (no vanilla sex) 10. Cuddling, touching, nurturing and loving behavior (both receiving and giving) 11. No bitching or nagging (no ands, ifs, or buts on this topic) 12. Independent, has a life outside the relationship (go hang out-you need friends and activities on your own) 13. Stable/Self-sufficient (employed or looking) 14. Playful (I enjoy the serious side, but playing must come natural) 15. Clean and neat (includes self and home) 16. Somewhat Organized (I am weak in this area, need all the help I can get) 17. Kind to children and pets (show me) 18. Emotionally strong (lean on me, but do not suffocate me) 19. Not afraid to give up control (give me the control) 20. Open and able to express what is going on (I cannot read minds) 21. Spunky and fiery behavior (if you don’t like something, tell me, I can agree to disagree) 22. Respectful (no snide comments or innuendos) 23. Enjoys being pampered and spoiled (willing to reciprocate) 24. Likes going to movies, dinners out, relaxing at home, family outings, vacations, traveling and trying new things (very important) 25. Must be somewhat active (cannot tolerate laziness) 26. No heavy drinking (absolutely) 27. Treat me as if I am the most important person in your life as I will you (aside from children) 28. Wants to look good (does not spend an excessive amount of time in front of a mirror on a daily basis, in order to do this) 29. Spontaneous (most times willing to do things on the spur of the moment) 30. No drama (leave the drama at the door)

11-17-2011, 06:53 PM	#10
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I've come to realize that I am not going to put some drawn out list in the thread because for Me, personally, what truly matters to Me is that I find someone who will love Me for Me and I will love them for who they are ~ no relationship will be perfect and we will both have flaws but as long as we love each other then that to Me is all that matters __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"