Accomplishments ~ Your Life as A List

cane · 07-05-2011, 02:06 AM

Accomplishments:

I've survived this far...

LadyFlamezzz · 07-08-2011, 05:30 AM

bumpin'

this thread
because I think sometimes people need to be reminded how unique they are and what better way than to list what your life has gifted you thus far :}

Scorp · 07-08-2011, 06:21 AM

Scene Set: Kitchen area at work while folks are getting coffee, etc:

Co-Worker(s): "Good Morning, how is everyone today?"

Me: (with a smile on my face) my response is: "I'm able to sit up and take nourishment".

And of course everyone gets a chuckle out of my response and it becomes a smiling chain reaction. It's always nice to start a day off like that.

I guess this really makes folks think. So in other words be thankful you're alive and able to do the things that we may take for granted, that others may not have the privilege to do. We're blessed in so many ways.

Gemme · 07-08-2011, 09:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gemme

I have:

survived a less than stellar childhood and came out no more scathed than anyone else

survived two marriages (and finally learned my lesson!)

like Linus, paid all my debt off....once.....and am working on it again

bought multiple homes with others, but bought and sold my own home as well

graduated college, and want to go back to further my education

moved cross country into the unknown and will do so again

written some really good stories and poems

won an award in 3rd grade for art

went to State for Advanced Placement Latin III and IV

driven a full-sized 53 foot semi around in a lot (it doesn't sound like much, but it's pretty cool for someone who doesn't know how to drive a stick)

gotten quite a lot of praise for a job well done over the years in the hospitality field

been privileged to have had some really good relationships in my life

Since I posted last, I've have some other fantastic things happen to me.

I have been published in an online magazine.

I drove from Washington down to Texas, by myself, and in less than 37 hours and moved via the USPS. On a related note, I survived driving through the lowlands at 3 in the morning and the fog being thicker'n split pea soup. That was pretty darn scary!

I went to the first reunion here last year and met some folks I've wanted to meet for years!!!

I snatched up a pretty awesome guy.

I have gone from being hired on part time to running my own store in six months and 2 days, after being unemployed for 4 months and change.

Oiler41 · 07-09-2011, 07:37 AM

In spite of being a high school drop out, I did get back to school and eventually earned a Bachelor’s and a Master’s degree.

I was the intramural racquetball champion in college in 1981.

I served my country in the U.S. Army. Later, I marched with the uniformed veterans/color guard for the 1993 and 2000 GLBT Marches on Washington.

I have been published in two gay and lesbian publications.

Helped form, and was vice-president of the Mississippi Gay and Lesbian Task Force in Mississippi in the early 90’s and helped the students at the three major public universities there form GLBT student groups.

Worked with the Mississippi ACLU to bring to light GLBT discrimination cases in the state of Mississippi. The victim of one of those cases brought forward ultimately testified before Congress about this.

I designed a refinery turnaround system while working for a very large refining company. Six months after I left the company I was offered a very lucrative consulting position with the same company to show them how to implement that system across all of their domestic refineries.

I bought three houses; still have two of them and inherited five more; so in addition to working, I’ve been remotely managing the rental/repairs of them for nearly four years now. They are in Mississippi and New York.

I’ve stood for justice and doing what is right my whole life. I've slipped here and there a time or two, (I am human!) but I stand solidly on my history.

And best of all, I met the love of my life and married her!

I'm thinking that is it for now!

Glynn

Sweet Bliss · 07-20-2011, 08:55 PM

let's see, looking backwards with my rose colored granny glasses, (remember those? hee hee hee!)

Graduated high school (drug and alcohol free during the 70's) (major accomplishment, little joke there ya'll)

Won 2nd place in the U.G.L.Y. Bartender contest in Hawaii (fundraiser for MS)

Lived past 30.......ya, whodathunkit?

Lived in Europe for several years, wanna go back...

Discovered Love is possible, and all around me...

Am writing my first of what I hope will be many novels...

learned to give MYSELF an orgasm..... (you have no idea....

)

Found my voice.... Thank you BF community!!

and today..... living in Grace

Kätzchen · 01-21-2025, 06:04 PM

Life growing up had lots of positive experiences but also had its heartbreak too. I lived with my family on a farm, raised my brothers and sisters, and made sure all the daily chores were done as expected (school work and church stuff too).

Growing up, I was lucky to study piano (for many years). I also loved to sing and dance and be part of an English Handbell Choir.

My young adult life got off to a very rough start (which this has tempered my outlook on life, for years).

Looking to make my life better, I earned two very expensive college degrees but also earned a separate certificate of completion for my long held career in the beauty industry (45 years and still active).

I raised my two sons on my own. They are the loves of my life. My sons are awesome.

Late in life, I lost my dad to dementia and Alzheimer’s, and just last fall my eldest brother (and abuser) passed on, too.

I am very private and guard my privacy as well as I can and to me, that is a really big achievement.

Stone-Butch · 01-23-2025, 02:36 AM

As a butch teen I was a dawg. So many girls , so little time. I grew up. LOL

I went to nursing school and passed and worked till I injured my back and had to wear a brace for 8 months. But it still has not really healed.

I went to work at a vet clinic for 12 yrs and quit because of politics.
I also went to work at the first Canadian Animal Emergency clinic (in the paper)

That clinic closed and I went to work as a Private Investigator for the OPP.

I left there and went to work at Purolator driving. Reinjured my back.

Went to night school and got my 13, then University for 5 y rs for my Sociology degree, the college for two years to get my addictions papers, my teaching papers so I could teach Sociology or English.

Invited on graduation to join "Just for Today" addictions counselling and retired from there.

I do not cook bad but could not bake to save my soul. I had two real relationships , one for 22 yrs and one for 12. Not up for discussion,

I now live alone in Canada in a one bedroom apt. Life is ok.

easygoingfemme · 01-23-2025, 05:58 PM

Kätzchen, thank you for sharing. I'm glad that you were able to infuse music and education into your life as you did.

Stone-Butch- what is the OPP? It can stand for so many things.

Mine: Hmmm
I was raised in a basic no frills 70s household. I had a library card and a bicycle and didn't need much more than that.

I graduated high school a year early by doubling up. Then went to community college at 16, then transferred to a 2 year college to get my AAS and then to a 4 year where I got a double BA in Women's studies, secondary education, and English literature. I worked my way through college as a nanny, cook in the college kitchen, and a nude model in an art school in Woodstock. By Jr. year I had good enough grades that I was able to disappear from time to time to follow the Grateful Dead so long as I came back and caught up. I always did and I graduated with honors.

I floated around for a little after that, moved to New Mexico, trained to be a birth doula and assisted with births on a reservation out there. Had my own baby at 23 years old and then moved back to NY with my baby to get settled.

From there I've been invested in not-for-profit work serving women and children. I started as a case manager for teen parents in my city and then was recruited to manage our county domestic violence shelter. I've been with the same not-for-profit organization for most of the past 20 years, minus 5 years I took a break and worked from home as a counselor while homeschooling my daughter and then ended up dealing with cancer. I went back to the same organization in 2017 and grew from a program manager to the director of a massive housing program for women and children in our city. We are about to embark on a multi million dollar housing expansion to double our capacity to house women and children who are homeless due to trafficking, domestic violence, addiction, mental health struggles, and poverty.

My rough patches: In 2015 I was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. I had a bilateral mastectomy, chemo, radiation. I think I came back strong from that but it changed me for sure. I was on track working and living my life when my brother unexpectedly died in 2019. We had been on the phone just two hours before his heart stopped in his sleep. That changed me in a deeper way that.. I'll never be the person I was before. He was my only sibling so I dug in deep taking care of his children and my parents.

I got into a relationship soon after that A move of vulnerability and fear. We married in 2021. It was not a good choice. My wife became increasingly mentally abusive and controlling. I became a shell of who I used to be and lived in fear. My health was suffering greatly. I left her in January 2024- a middle of the night bolt with a backpack and a friends house to crash in. Soon after that my parents needed help with my father's worsening health and they asked me to stay with them to help, which I did.

I'm rebuilding from that and am poised to buy my house in the coming weeks. It's just down the road from my parents so I can continue to help but also have my space to take care of myself and find my footing again.

I know there will be more struggles ahead but I'm laying down roots for a stronger foundation. I'm active in hiking and in a local rowing/crew team. I cherish my friends and small family. I'm getting back into art and enjoying slow no pressure creativity.

So that's... the first 50 years.

07-05-2011, 02:06 AM	#1
cane Member How Do You Identify?: male identified butch Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2010 Location: Sweden Posts: 294 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 119 Thanked 357 Times in 122 Posts Rep Power: 1030324	Accomplishments: I've survived this far... __________________ "Vivamus, mea Lesbia, atque amemus"

07-08-2011, 05:30 AM	#2
LadyFlamezzz Member How Do You Identify?: Femme who lives with A DayWalker Preferred Pronoun?: who cares just yell for Mrs Day Relationship Status: Very attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In hys heart Posts: 241 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 263 Thanked 492 Times in 148 Posts Rep Power: 3181107	bumpin' this thread because I think sometimes people need to be reminded how unique they are and what better way than to list what your life has gifted you thus far :} __________________

07-09-2011, 07:37 AM	#5
Oiler41 Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him Relationship Status: Happily Single! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nunya Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,355 Thanked 2,574 Times in 789 Posts Rep Power: 18276167	Things I'm Proud Of In spite of being a high school drop out, I did get back to school and eventually earned a Bachelor’s and a Master’s degree. I was the intramural racquetball champion in college in 1981. I served my country in the U.S. Army. Later, I marched with the uniformed veterans/color guard for the 1993 and 2000 GLBT Marches on Washington. I have been published in two gay and lesbian publications. Helped form, and was vice-president of the Mississippi Gay and Lesbian Task Force in Mississippi in the early 90’s and helped the students at the three major public universities there form GLBT student groups. Worked with the Mississippi ACLU to bring to light GLBT discrimination cases in the state of Mississippi. The victim of one of those cases brought forward ultimately testified before Congress about this. I designed a refinery turnaround system while working for a very large refining company. Six months after I left the company I was offered a very lucrative consulting position with the same company to show them how to implement that system across all of their domestic refineries. I bought three houses; still have two of them and inherited five more; so in addition to working, I’ve been remotely managing the rental/repairs of them for nearly four years now. They are in Mississippi and New York. I’ve stood for justice and doing what is right my whole life. I've slipped here and there a time or two, (I am human!) but I stand solidly on my history. And best of all, I met the love of my life and married her! I'm thinking that is it for now! Glynn

07-20-2011, 08:55 PM	#6
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Well.... let's see, looking backwards with my rose colored granny glasses, (remember those? hee hee hee!) Graduated high school (drug and alcohol free during the 70's) (major accomplishment, little joke there ya'll) Won 2nd place in the U.G.L.Y. Bartender contest in Hawaii (fundraiser for MS) Lived past 30.......ya, whodathunkit? Lived in Europe for several years, wanna go back... Discovered Love is possible, and all around me... Am writing my first of what I hope will be many novels... learned to give MYSELF an orgasm..... (you have no idea....) Found my voice.... Thank you BF community!! and today..... living in Grace

01-21-2025, 06:04 PM	#7
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: As a very feminine woman. Relationship Status: Unavailable. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Near smoke signals in the sky. Posts: 16,191 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,460 Thanked 33,606 Times in 10,705 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	Life then and life now Life growing up had lots of positive experiences but also had its heartbreak too. I lived with my family on a farm, raised my brothers and sisters, and made sure all the daily chores were done as expected (school work and church stuff too). Growing up, I was lucky to study piano (for many years). I also loved to sing and dance and be part of an English Handbell Choir. My young adult life got off to a very rough start (which this has tempered my outlook on life, for years). Looking to make my life better, I earned two very expensive college degrees but also earned a separate certificate of completion for my long held career in the beauty industry (45 years and still active). I raised my two sons on my own. They are the loves of my life. My sons are awesome. Late in life, I lost my dad to dementia and Alzheimer’s, and just last fall my eldest brother (and abuser) passed on, too. I am very private and guard my privacy as well as I can and to me, that is a really big achievement. __________________ “The way someone treats you is not a reflection of your worth: It’s a reflection of their emotional capacity,” — Jillian Turecki. “The smartest people are clearly the best listeners,” — Audible. I’m doing my part, as an American citizen, who is concerned about losing our Democracy: I boycott agencies and businesses and service providers who do not support the US Constitution and the Bill of Rights. Support Democracy: Vote Blue

07-08-2011, 06:21 AM	#3
Scorp Italian Stallion How Do You Identify?: DNA Usually... Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: In a van, down by the river.. Posts: 2,702 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,557 Thanked 4,714 Times in 1,263 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Scene Set: Kitchen area at work while folks are getting coffee, etc: Co-Worker(s): "Good Morning, how is everyone today?" Me: (with a smile on my face) my response is: "I'm able to sit up and take nourishment". And of course everyone gets a chuckle out of my response and it becomes a smiling chain reaction. It's always nice to start a day off like that. I guess this really makes folks think. So in other words be thankful you're alive and able to do the things that we may take for granted, that others may not have the privilege to do. We're blessed in so many ways.

01-23-2025, 02:36 AM	#8
Stone-Butch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stonebutch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 3,697 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,336 Thanked 9,396 Times in 3,062 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Accomplishments As a butch teen I was a dawg. So many girls , so little time. I grew up. LOL I went to nursing school and passed and worked till I injured my back and had to wear a brace for 8 months. But it still has not really healed. I went to work at a vet clinic for 12 yrs and quit because of politics. I also went to work at the first Canadian Animal Emergency clinic (in the paper) That clinic closed and I went to work as a Private Investigator for the OPP. I left there and went to work at Purolator driving. Reinjured my back. Went to night school and got my 13, then University for 5 y rs for my Sociology degree, the college for two years to get my addictions papers, my teaching papers so I could teach Sociology or English. Invited on graduation to join "Just for Today" addictions counselling and retired from there. I do not cook bad but could not bake to save my soul. I had two real relationships , one for 22 yrs and one for 12. Not up for discussion, I now live alone in Canada in a one bedroom apt. Life is ok.

01-23-2025, 05:58 PM	#9
easygoingfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Lil' Miss Sassy Pants Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: My place by the river Posts: 3,692 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,023 Thanked 14,972 Times in 3,318 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Kätzchen, thank you for sharing. I'm glad that you were able to infuse music and education into your life as you did. Stone-Butch- what is the OPP? It can stand for so many things. Mine: Hmmm I was raised in a basic no frills 70s household. I had a library card and a bicycle and didn't need much more than that. I graduated high school a year early by doubling up. Then went to community college at 16, then transferred to a 2 year college to get my AAS and then to a 4 year where I got a double BA in Women's studies, secondary education, and English literature. I worked my way through college as a nanny, cook in the college kitchen, and a nude model in an art school in Woodstock. By Jr. year I had good enough grades that I was able to disappear from time to time to follow the Grateful Dead so long as I came back and caught up. I always did and I graduated with honors. I floated around for a little after that, moved to New Mexico, trained to be a birth doula and assisted with births on a reservation out there. Had my own baby at 23 years old and then moved back to NY with my baby to get settled. From there I've been invested in not-for-profit work serving women and children. I started as a case manager for teen parents in my city and then was recruited to manage our county domestic violence shelter. I've been with the same not-for-profit organization for most of the past 20 years, minus 5 years I took a break and worked from home as a counselor while homeschooling my daughter and then ended up dealing with cancer. I went back to the same organization in 2017 and grew from a program manager to the director of a massive housing program for women and children in our city. We are about to embark on a multi million dollar housing expansion to double our capacity to house women and children who are homeless due to trafficking, domestic violence, addiction, mental health struggles, and poverty. My rough patches: In 2015 I was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. I had a bilateral mastectomy, chemo, radiation. I think I came back strong from that but it changed me for sure. I was on track working and living my life when my brother unexpectedly died in 2019. We had been on the phone just two hours before his heart stopped in his sleep. That changed me in a deeper way that.. I'll never be the person I was before. He was my only sibling so I dug in deep taking care of his children and my parents. I got into a relationship soon after that A move of vulnerability and fear. We married in 2021. It was not a good choice. My wife became increasingly mentally abusive and controlling. I became a shell of who I used to be and lived in fear. My health was suffering greatly. I left her in January 2024- a middle of the night bolt with a backpack and a friends house to crash in. Soon after that my parents needed help with my father's worsening health and they asked me to stay with them to help, which I did. I'm rebuilding from that and am poised to buy my house in the coming weeks. It's just down the road from my parents so I can continue to help but also have my space to take care of myself and find my footing again. I know there will be more struggles ahead but I'm laying down roots for a stronger foundation. I'm active in hiking and in a local rowing/crew team. I cherish my friends and small family. I'm getting back into art and enjoying slow no pressure creativity. So that's... the first 50 years.