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Old 07-08-2011, 11:45 AM   #1
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Okay, if the kid got equally upset and embarrassed because the adult accompanying him carried and wore Zuni fetishes, sexualized or not, I would still handle the situation by starting with the kid and his feelings about it. I would not just make him "deal with it." He's a child. That's why children have parents--to help them deal with things. In case anyone wonders, I would approach it this same way if the issue were with lesbians. For example, if my kid didn't want both mommies going to the parent-teacher conference. Just that kind of parent, I guess. And I understand that there are other kinds.
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Old 07-08-2011, 03:00 PM   #2
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When my kind was about 7, and I had recently come out, he asked me not to talk about my girlfriend in front of his friends. I respected his wishes and was more careful. My coming out did not mean forcing my kid out too. He got to have his own process in his own time. We talked about things of course, but I did not violate his personal and public space. About a year later, he came came home from school and told me about a diversity assembly where a male teacher talked about marrying his same-sex partner. I asked M. if his friends knew he had a lesbian mom. His reply: "Of course! I'm the kid that always stands up for you people!"

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