The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[blueeyes226_l]

Originally Posted by blueeyes226_l

Well.in Nov. I'll be 55 years young...LOL I may have found someone for my life. How ever she lives in N.J. and I'm in N.Y. Nether one of us can afor the $$$$$ for her to come up this way to visit. She seems to have a heart of gold. We talk every night after 9pm and email each other alot. I hope this works out. I told her about my family and she is very understanding. Best of all she dosen't hold how my family is agance me.By the way she will be 60 July 30 or 31.
blueeyes226_l

Well, Things didn't "work out" for this gal and me. She didn't want to move here. I told her I have a responceabilaty looking aftetr my Mom. I gave my word to my dad and my brother. By the way Mom had a bad spell yester day and also this AM. The spell she had I wanted to take her to the ER in Olean,NY. It ended up I slept on the other side of her bed till she felt better.
Any ways I prmest I would take care or look after her and I don't give my word unless I mean it. I don't go back on my word unles its a emurgence and then,I have to.

[morningstar55]

morning Lofter dwellers

this thread needs some bumpin......

Blue.. hope your mom is feeling better soon.
having someone move .. in with someone in a short time of knowing each other is not always the best. always take time to get to know each other in person. just my 2 cents.

ok howz everyones summer going so far???

[Sweet_Amor_Taino]

Well, Things didn't "work out" for this gal and me. She didn't want to move here. I told her I have a responceabilaty looking aftetr my Mom. I gave my word to my dad and my brother.
By Blueeyes 226_1


LDR could be difficult and costly. My last partner lived in California and I lived in Boston and we did the long distance for almost 2 years we visited each other every three months. Finally I moved to California and the relationship had a 7 year run after.

LDR could work out but there has to be trust !! love !! and honest daily communication.


Its important not to rush things, we have responsibilities in our individual lives and we can not expect to pick up and go ASAP. I have heard and seen people pick up and go ASAP and it has been a terrible mistake.

Love grows when you nurture it gently and slowly, developing deep roots that will stand strong when difficult times arise.

[blueeyes226_l]

Thanks,I hope she gets better soon. But,she is 85 now COPD and she never smok in her life its from other people smoking around her. She has worked all her life. I dread when,she passes over.
Thanks to all

[OS Butch]

Originally Posted by blueeyes226_l

Well, Things didn't "work out" for this gal and me. She didn't want to move here. I told her I have a responceabilaty looking aftetr my Mom. I gave my word to my dad and my brother. By the way Mom had a bad spell yester day and also this AM. The spell she had I wanted to take her to the ER in Olean,NY. It ended up I slept on the other side of her bed till she felt better.
Any ways I prmest I would take care or look after her and I don't give my word unless I mean it. I don't go back on my word unles its a emurgence and then,I have to.

Yep, I am in the same spot. I decided since it messed up my relationship with the love of my life, I will just be single and I am ok with that. I have elderly parents and will not leave. It would not be fair to anyone to even date because I can't give a 100 percent.