What is your fondest coming out memory?

Chancie · 07-20-2011, 06:28 AM

Years ago, when I lived and taught in New York City,

I worked in a welfare-to-work program.

For the sake of this story, ignore my anger and disappointment when I realized

The program wasn't going to help women prepare for real job opportunities.

Because the women were adults,

There were plenty of conversations about children and families.

I wore a traditional wedding ring with a diamond band and

My students always wanted to know if I was married.

I would give some corny answer, like, Oh, yeah, to mathematical concepts, but

One day, I decided, enough with this crap, and when someone asked my husband's name, I said,

I have a partner, and her name is 'fill in the feminine name'.

The students were so moved by my 'realness' that

I had the most incredible relationship with them, and maybe I felt different too.

Sachita · 07-20-2011, 07:46 AM

I was 16 and lied about my age to get into this lesbian club in South Florida. Up until that point I had only been with 2 women, nothing but heavy petting and experimenting. So I took my fake ID and hitched a ride to another part of town. I was so stupid but I just had to figure out what was going on with me. I remember going to a gay bookstore to find a listing of places. This one sounded good and wasn't as far as the others.

My heart was racing. I had long hair down to my waist pulled back in a pigtail. I had on a short denim skirt and a cropped top, pair of cowboy boots. This big Dyke approaches me, pushes me against the wall and kisses me deeply on the mouth. My head was spinning.

I went every weekend after that until they closed the place.

*Anya* · 07-20-2011, 08:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Sachita

I was 16 and lied about my age to get into this lesbian club in South Florida. Up until that point I had only been with 2 women, nothing but heavy petting and experimenting. So I took my fake ID and hitched a ride to another part of town. I was so stupid but I just had to figure out what was going on with me. I remember going to a gay bookstore to find a listing of places. This one sounded good and wasn't as far as the others.

My heart was racing. I had long hair down to my waist pulled back in a pigtail. I had on a short denim skirt and a cropped top, pair of cowboy boots. This big Dyke approaches me, pushes me against the wall and kisses me deeply on the mouth. My head was spinning.

I went every weekend after that until they closed the place.

Oh, so hot, so awesome! I am smiling at your memory!

Lord, love our butches! Hey just thought of a new thread for femmes! Thanks for your memory

Glenn · 07-20-2011, 09:52 AM

I became a musician in a lesbian/feminist band when I was eighteen. We played in local gay clubs, coffee houses, private parties, etc.

clay · 07-20-2011, 10:22 AM

[COLOR="Blue"]For me, I knew at age 5 I was a lesbian! I LOVED girls!!! I was always "daddi" when we played house! <wink> So all through school, it was always a GIRL I was crushing on! So, "ageing "myself here...I came out at age 23...with a 36 yr. old woman! I remember we went to dinner, I was so nervous, so giddy...and so exuberant at finally being able to be with a woman!!! Well, that night, we put on an album, for ambiance...and I came out to......"drum roll" please.... "Help Me Make It Through the Night" by Sammi Smith! Everytime I hear that song, I smile inwardly...knowing that Sammi Smith did just that...she helped me make it through the night! We lived together for a year...until she broke my heart....cheated on me with my best friend! Have I ever come a looongggg way, baby!!! I will always be grateful for that one woman who helped me to "come out"...and I have never looked back!!![ /COLOR]

Gaige · 07-20-2011, 10:44 AM

I was 19 and in my second relationship (first one living together). I was having nightmares every night about my parents disowning me after finding out just how close of a friend my "roommate" was. I would wake with tears in my eyes. Hiding the real me was really stressing me out. I decided I had to live my life for me. Pretending to be who I thought they wanted me to be was making me miserable. I came out to my sister first. I needed someone to talk to about coming out to Mom & Dad. She was very accepting as I expected and full of good advice. My fondest memory was when I came out to my Mom. We were sitting on the couch and the tears just started streaming down my face due to my expectation of how she would take it. She wrapped her arms around me and held me tight and said, "You're my daughter. I will love you no matter what." I felt such enormous relief and the nightmares stopped. oh yeah, she also said she already knew. :-)

MissPriss · 07-20-2011, 02:11 PM

My oldest sister had just turned 21 and recently moved out. My girlfriend was over for the night, mom and dad were in bed. When my sister moved out I moved into the bigger room. My sister went out for her birthday and naturally got slobbery drunk so instead of going to her apartment that she apparently had forgotten all about it, she came to my parents house. Now, its important to know that I was raised by my grandmother and never had much to do with my parents until this time, but anyway my sister stumbles into her old room catches us naked and flops down in the bed with us she crawls up on my girlfriends back to look down at me and says "Sissy are you a lesbian"? I said "apparently" and started laughing till I had tears in my eyes, all the while she is still on my gfs back. She grabs my face in her hands and says..ITS WONDERFUL!!! Then she takes off through the house beating on doors to my brothers and parents room singing " My Sister is lesbian l-e-s-b-i-an how cool is that" ?

Rockinonahigh · 07-20-2011, 03:04 PM

There has never been any doubt about my tomboy ways as a kid,mom thought they would go away over time,well it only got worse to her dismay.WEll did the stupid thig of getting hitched to a boi guy...now dont anyone have a cow..take a deep breath and breath ok?The only good thig that came from that was my son who is like me made over.I never had jobs that normal women have,I worked hard labor jobs that paid some good bucks cause it seems that life just went that way, so I folowed my path.I never sid I was queer nor did I ever denye it either it was just not brought up,so now sonny boy is grown and newly home from the army after a 15year hitch after he got caught up in the downsiseing of the forces.He was in his room playing vidio games so I desied to finaly takle to him and tell him after all these years.so hear I go it went like this...son can we talk a bit..shure mom whats up...well son ya know ahhh thers is something I got to say... so hear it is...im a flamin queer!Gee mom I knew that when I was a kid,u finaly telling me..(me) yeah I gess so...sonny said..no prob hear if thats whats on your mind..never was..I said okk any questions..No mom not a one..just have fun oh and be carefull.Then he goes back to his vidio games.I go off shakeing my head thinking he knew allll these years,thats my boy.

07-20-2011, 07:46 AM	#2
Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,994 Times in 2,247 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I was 16 and lied about my age to get into this lesbian club in South Florida. Up until that point I had only been with 2 women, nothing but heavy petting and experimenting. So I took my fake ID and hitched a ride to another part of town. I was so stupid but I just had to figure out what was going on with me. I remember going to a gay bookstore to find a listing of places. This one sounded good and wasn't as far as the others. My heart was racing. I had long hair down to my waist pulled back in a pigtail. I had on a short denim skirt and a cropped top, pair of cowboy boots. This big Dyke approaches me, pushes me against the wall and kisses me deeply on the mouth. My head was spinning. I went every weekend after that until they closed the place. __________________ You either like me or you don't. It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don't have that kinda time to convince somebody else. ~ Daniel Franzese

07-20-2011, 06:28 AM	#1
Chancie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme-inist Relationship Status: I'm lucky. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Western Mass Posts: 3,774 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,518 Thanked 14,541 Times in 2,744 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Years ago, when I lived and taught in New York City, I worked in a welfare-to-work program. For the sake of this story, ignore my anger and disappointment when I realized The program wasn't going to help women prepare for real job opportunities. Because the women were adults, There were plenty of conversations about children and families. I wore a traditional wedding ring with a diamond band and My students always wanted to know if I was married. I would give some corny answer, like, Oh, yeah, to mathematical concepts, but One day, I decided, enough with this crap, and when someone asked my husband's name, I said, I have a partner, and her name is 'fill in the feminine name'. The students were so moved by my 'realness' that I had the most incredible relationship with them, and maybe I felt different too.

07-20-2011, 09:52 AM	#4
Glenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Dear ol butch bones. Preferred Pronoun?: Old G Relationship Status: Too old to play. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: :rolleyes: Posts: 1,547 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,601 Thanked 3,729 Times in 1,095 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I became a musician in a lesbian/feminist band when I was eighteen. We played in local gay clubs, coffee houses, private parties, etc.

07-20-2011, 10:22 AM	#5
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,674 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	[COLOR="Blue"]For me, I knew at age 5 I was a lesbian! I LOVED girls!!! I was always "daddi" when we played house! <wink> So all through school, it was always a GIRL I was crushing on! So, "ageing "myself here...I came out at age 23...with a 36 yr. old woman! I remember we went to dinner, I was so nervous, so giddy...and so exuberant at finally being able to be with a woman!!! Well, that night, we put on an album, for ambiance...and I came out to......"drum roll" please.... "Help Me Make It Through the Night" by Sammi Smith! Everytime I hear that song, I smile inwardly...knowing that Sammi Smith did just that...she helped me make it through the night! We lived together for a year...until she broke my heart....cheated on me with my best friend! Have I ever come a looongggg way, baby!!! I will always be grateful for that one woman who helped me to "come out"...and I have never looked back!!![ /COLOR]

07-20-2011, 10:44 AM	#6
Gaige Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: above my boots Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,649 Thanked 3,755 Times in 1,171 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I was 19 and in my second relationship (first one living together). I was having nightmares every night about my parents disowning me after finding out just how close of a friend my "roommate" was. I would wake with tears in my eyes. Hiding the real me was really stressing me out. I decided I had to live my life for me. Pretending to be who I thought they wanted me to be was making me miserable. I came out to my sister first. I needed someone to talk to about coming out to Mom & Dad. She was very accepting as I expected and full of good advice. My fondest memory was when I came out to my Mom. We were sitting on the couch and the tears just started streaming down my face due to my expectation of how she would take it. She wrapped her arms around me and held me tight and said, "You're my daughter. I will love you no matter what." I felt such enormous relief and the nightmares stopped. oh yeah, she also said she already knew. :-)

07-20-2011, 02:11 PM	#7
MissPriss Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: only lasting realtionship I have is with my job, my gun and my truck. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Tennessee Posts: 566 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 789 Thanked 580 Times in 259 Posts Rep Power: 2223294	My oldest sister had just turned 21 and recently moved out. My girlfriend was over for the night, mom and dad were in bed. When my sister moved out I moved into the bigger room. My sister went out for her birthday and naturally got slobbery drunk so instead of going to her apartment that she apparently had forgotten all about it, she came to my parents house. Now, its important to know that I was raised by my grandmother and never had much to do with my parents until this time, but anyway my sister stumbles into her old room catches us naked and flops down in the bed with us she crawls up on my girlfriends back to look down at me and says "Sissy are you a lesbian"? I said "apparently" and started laughing till I had tears in my eyes, all the while she is still on my gfs back. She grabs my face in her hands and says..ITS WONDERFUL!!! Then she takes off through the house beating on doors to my brothers and parents room singing " My Sister is lesbian l-e-s-b-i-an how cool is that" ?

07-20-2011, 03:04 PM	#8
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	There has never been any doubt about my tomboy ways as a kid,mom thought they would go away over time,well it only got worse to her dismay.WEll did the stupid thig of getting hitched to a boi guy...now dont anyone have a cow..take a deep breath and breath ok?The only good thig that came from that was my son who is like me made over.I never had jobs that normal women have,I worked hard labor jobs that paid some good bucks cause it seems that life just went that way, so I folowed my path.I never sid I was queer nor did I ever denye it either it was just not brought up,so now sonny boy is grown and newly home from the army after a 15year hitch after he got caught up in the downsiseing of the forces.He was in his room playing vidio games so I desied to finaly takle to him and tell him after all these years.so hear I go it went like this...son can we talk a bit..shure mom whats up...well son ya know ahhh thers is something I got to say... so hear it is...im a flamin queer!Gee mom I knew that when I was a kid,u finaly telling me..(me) yeah I gess so...sonny said..no prob hear if thats whats on your mind..never was..I said okk any questions..No mom not a one..just have fun oh and be carefull.Then he goes back to his vidio games.I go off shakeing my head thinking he knew allll these years,thats my boy.