Healthy Weight Loss

PinkieLee · 08-02-2011, 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by sweetfemme247

my family is way bigger then me and she gets pissed if i lose weight and she dont

I know it has to be hard when family and/or friends don't support you on this journey. But remember, you are doing this for YOU, not for them. People use those bullying tactics out of jealousy. (they are miserable, so they want you to be miserable, too). So, you keep moving in the right direction... and know that you have lots of support here!

sweetfemme247 · 08-02-2011, 02:55 PM

thank you...

Medusa · 08-02-2011, 03:21 PM

What Pinkie says is so true. I would seriously question a friend or family member who did some form of sabotage around my health routine. Whether it be finding reasons why you shouldnt exercise or shaming and blaming around losing weight, I think there can be a lot of enabling stuff around codependant relationships and someone working to keep you unhealthy or immobile.

Not saying at all that anyone but me is responsible for my health but I do think that we have to be super-diligent about surrounding ourselves with people who are positive, supportive, evolved, and invested in US in healthy ways.

If someone wants to be your "diet buddy", make sure they aren't really asking you to be their emotional support/punching bag in ways that are going to drain your energy.

If a family member or friend can't say "I am so happy for you" or "Im proud of you" when you make strides to be healthier, consider limiting their access to your space.

Most of all, you need to be able to say to yourself that your health is a priority for YOU and than nobody has the right to stand in the way of that. You need to be able to look around at the people in your orbit and know that they love you, support you, and want nothing but the best for you not because it will bring something good to *them* but because it will be good for *you*.

Also, don't base your happiness on the "what you'll do when...." stuff. Don't get caught up in "when I lose weight, I'll go on a cruise..." or "when I lose weight, I'll buy a new car...".
Because ultimately, you're alive right now. Get the car. Go on the cruise. Wear that dress. LIVE. Unabashedly.

We're perfect just the way we are. We'll be perfect when we are both larger and smaller, fatter and thinner. Our bodies are not the single determining factor in our "acceptability". We're acceptable NOW!

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08-02-2011, 03:21 PM	#3
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