*Menopause*

[Sparx1_1]

As a female id'd butch I haven't had the issues that might be less than pleasant for some male id'd butches facing menopause; so for me it's been a lot easier to just sit and bitch and suck up all the sympathy and advice I can get without any strangeness or discomfort.

So far I am peri-menopausal - for me this has been bursts of menopause followed by bursts of raging hormones that would make any young girl in the first flushes of puberty proud.

The best and worst so far was going 9 months without a period - absolute heaven except that my body decided I was going to bleed "any day now", meaning 9 months of bitching and bloat. The only reason my lovely wife did not divorce me is because "I'm used to you being an asshole, besides it's kinda funny watching you cry at EVERYTHING tee hee." Yes without her loving support, this would be much more difficult.

So far I've been lucky actually. I have a bad knee so the hot flashes (still mild so far) can actually feel really good as it heats up my extremely cold sensitive legs. The night sweats and all the other symptoms are there but they too are also still mild. On the days when the symptoms aren't so mild I just remind myself that Menopause isn't fatal - except to innocent bystanders, but the kids can outrun me.

[jelli]

Originally Posted by Sparx1_1

The only reason my lovely wife did not divorce me is because "I'm used to you being an asshole, besides it's kinda funny watching you cry at EVERYTHING tee hee." Yes without her loving support, this would be much more difficult.

My Cruel would say your wife sounds like me!!!!

[jelli]

I was looking around to find some information about apples supposedly helping you to lose weight, a friend said it was on Dr. Oz, and I stumbled upon this:

http://www.healthy-eating-made-easy....ause-diet.html

[jelli]

[jelli]

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[Toughy]

My ex-wife tried the Diva Cup and she damn sure could not go 12 hours without changing it. Overnight was impossible. She had really heavy periods, so maybe that was why.

I posted this in another menopause thread, but will cross post it here:

It's a perfectly natural thing to happen. All my butch friends and I have talked about and still talk about it with great humor. None of us find it embarrassing or any kind of specially cruel joke for butches. One of my favorite conversations occurred outside The Stud one evening. over a cigarette. 4 of us stone cold passing butches (the old terminology) were talking about menopause. We said all the words and were all waiting for the day it all ends. War stories about dripping wet sheets, which movies made us cry the most, etc went on for about 20 or so minutes. I have talked about it with my femme friends who are experiencing the same things.

I haven't bleed in almost 30 years, had my cervix & uterus removed but they left my fine healthy ovaries. So about 10 years ago, the ovaries did their natural slowdown and those wonderful symptoms appeared.

I cried at stupid commercials on TV and steamed up car windows with hot flashes. The crying slowed down, but the hot flashes were like 50 a day and sleeping with me was like being in a steamy jungle. The hot flashes did not stop until I completely permanently stopped drinking alcohol....it took about a month. In the last couple of three years I might have had 3 or four hot flashes.

I turned 59 in June and now that menopause is over.....well that makes me a crone. Another phase in my born butch woman life.

I've been using a Moon(Diva) Cup since Un-Mrs.I introduced me to them a few years ago. Highly recommended. I love that I've not had to buy any more 'female' products at the supermarket/shop since I got one.

Thanks for posting here Toughy. I see no need for a seperate 'Butch' menopause thread, especially as several of us male-id and/or butch folks have posted here already and raised the issue of how this affects us.

[jelli]

Originally Posted by Toughy

My ex-wife tried the Diva Cup and she damn sure could not go 12 hours without changing it. Overnight was impossible. She had really heavy periods, so maybe that was why.

I posted this in another menopause thread, but will cross post it here:

It's a perfectly natural thing to happen. All my butch friends and I have talked about and still talk about it with great humor. None of us find it embarrassing or any kind of specially cruel joke for butches. One of my favorite conversations occurred outside The Stud one evening. over a cigarette. 4 of us stone cold passing butches (the old terminology) were talking about menopause. We said all the words and were all waiting for the day it all ends. War stories about dripping wet sheets, which movies made us cry the most, etc went on for about 20 or so minutes. I have talked about it with my femme friends who are experiencing the same things.

I haven't bleed in almost 30 years, had my cervix & uterus removed but they left my fine healthy ovaries. So about 10 years ago, the ovaries did their natural slowdown and those wonderful symptoms appeared.

I cried at stupid commercials on TV and steamed up car windows with hot flashes. The crying slowed down, but the hot flashes were like 50 a day and sleeping with me was like being in a steamy jungle. The hot flashes did not stop until I completely permanently stopped drinking alcohol....it took about a month. In the last couple of three years I might have had 3 or four hot flashes.

I turned 59 in June and now that menopause is over.....well that makes me a crone. Another phase in my born butch woman life.

I appreciate your posting Toughster!!!!

You are right about the heavy periods though. I was quoting the site itself. It will go overnight, but again maybe not with heavy bleeding.

Respectfully, jelli*