Women-identified Lesbians Loving/Living with other Woman-identified Lesbians

sweetiefemme · 09-04-2011, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by paintedleofemme

I live in central Washington. the city that I live in has an ok gay community but its just that, gay, not really lesbian. Here in Yakima its mostly butch on butch love or older lesbians who are at a different place in time than me, or butches who are into drugs or open relationships, it makes it hard.

Hello Painted, I am on the same side of WA as you, nice to meet you.

I don't think there is a gay/lesbian community where I live.

The few people I know in town are my ex and her friends, so leaves me with nothing. I however come from Eugene OR, and I have to say there is a good mix of gay/lesbians there for a smaller city, and the straight people are very open minded.

*Anya* · 09-04-2011, 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by sweetiefemme

I however come from Eugene OR, and I have to say there is a good mix of gay/lesbians there for a smaller city, and the straight people are very open minded.

Small world, my 1st love, a femme, moved to Eugene after we split. There was a thriving lesbian community last time I visited her there but it has been a while so that may have changed.

kissinfemme · 09-04-2011, 07:54 PM

I'm from a small, very conservative, right wing "church" town (there are 153 churches here) & there is no "open" lgbt community where I live at all.... Butch women? Forget it! I think my ex is the only butch in town.

For any type of lgbt atmosphere I have to travel at least 3 hours... I live for gay pride in June to get my fill till the next summer.... so I finally decided to do something in my own town.... I started a PFLAG chapter here in the hopes of stimulating (no pun intended) the lgbt community & to some degree has worked... with the younger crowd. If there are available butch women in this town, around my age, they're hiding out & I don't appreciate it! lol In the year we've been around we've had our first prom, which was fabulous but mostly young kids.... in October we're having a Masquerade Ball, hopefully more adults will turn out... it's important that we know we're not alone here or in this life, especially our life.

kissinfemme

CherylNYC · 09-04-2011, 08:41 PM

The bad news is that I haven't been finding many butch women that fit my criteria, either. I live in NYC, so like Toughy I'm thirsty in an oasis. It seems to be hard to find partners everywhere, but I'm really grateful for a thriving lgbt community. I try not to take that for granted.

NorCalStud · 09-04-2011, 09:54 PM

If u are in santa rosa , albuq, or gallup. Im passing thru tomorrow

kissinfemme · 09-04-2011, 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by NorCalStud

If u are in santa rosa , albuq, or gallup. Im passing thru tomorrow

None of the above

I live in Roswell...

Toughy · 09-05-2011, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by kissinfemme

None of the above

I live in Roswell...

It's a max 3 hr drive to the I-40 Santa Rosa truck stop or Clines Corners.......the drive is beautiful..............come on.........it's a nice drive .............ya might have fun

just saying............

femmepoet · 09-25-2011, 06:14 PM

I feel less alone now, after reading all of your posts. I'm in South Florida, and there seem to be so few butch women here. I'm 54, and would like to date within my own age group, but the butches my age, who are on the online dating sites, are looking for younger women. The few good butch women I know are partnered and happy. So . . . coast to coast, NYC or South Florida or CA, we're all having difficulty. Thankfully, good friends are everywhere, but it's hard to be without that special someone sometimes. Thanks to everyone for your comments. I'm glad I read them.

Inuus · 09-25-2011, 06:26 PM

That's one thing good about forums of any sorts. One can find like people to share experiences etc with and perhaps ease the feeling of being "the only one".

Although I don't micromanage (as I put it) my butchness. I do claim female identified Butch, and I do appreciate a femme who can understand and embrace that small facet.

Toughy · 09-04-2011, 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by kissinfemme

I'm from a small, very conservative, right wing "church" town (there are 153 churches here) & there is no "open" lgbt community where I live at all.... Butch women? Forget it! I think my ex is the only butch in town.

For any type of lgbt atmosphere I have to travel at least 3 hours... I live for gay pride in June to get my fill till the next summer.... so I finally decided to do something in my own town.... I started a PFLAG chapter here in the hopes of stimulating (no pun intended) the lgbt community & to some degree has worked... with the younger crowd. If there are available butch women in this town, around my age, they're hiding out & I don't appreciate it! lol In the year we've been around we've had our first prom, which was fabulous but mostly young kids.... in October we're having a Masquerade Ball, hopefully more adults will turn out... it's important that we know we're not alone here or in this life, especially our life.

kissinfemme

Where in NM? I was born and raised in lovington........

kissinfemme · 09-04-2011, 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Toughy

Where in NM? I was born and raised in lovington........

Roswell....

Toughy · 09-04-2011, 11:57 PM

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Originally Posted by kissinfemme

Roswell....

I assume you mean RosHell......

...

however you do have to admit the craftsman homes are stunning...........I only have to go to parts of Alameda CA and I think I am in Roswell..........

kissinfemme · 09-05-2011, 12:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Toughy

I assume you mean RosHell......

...

however you do have to admit the craftsman homes are stunning...........I only have to go to parts of Alameda CA and I think I am in Roswell..........

Lol, yes RosHell!!! This place sucks & I can't wait to leave it!

And as soon as I figure out where my next adventure begins, I'm outa here!

09-04-2011, 08:41 PM	#4
CherylNYC Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: I'm a woman. Behave accordingly. Relationship Status: Single, not looking. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NYC Posts: 1,467 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,474 Thanked 7,111 Times in 1,205 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	The bad news is that I haven't been finding many butch women that fit my criteria, either. I live in NYC, so like Toughy I'm thirsty in an oasis. It seems to be hard to find partners everywhere, but I'm really grateful for a thriving lgbt community. I try not to take that for granted. __________________ Cheryl

09-25-2011, 06:26 PM	#9
Inuus Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Relationship Status: Single Not Looking Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 265 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 242 Thanked 377 Times in 143 Posts Rep Power: 3733068	That's one thing good about forums of any sorts. One can find like people to share experiences etc with and perhaps ease the feeling of being "the only one". Although I don't micromanage (as I put it) my butchness. I do claim female identified Butch, and I do appreciate a femme who can understand and embrace that small facet. __________________ “Kindness and compassion toward all living things is the mark of a civilized society.”- Cesar Chavez

09-04-2011, 07:54 PM	#3
kissinfemme Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Footloose & fancy free Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Out west, ya'll Posts: 185 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,131 Thanked 1,112 Times in 164 Posts Rep Power: 17721833	I'm from a small, very conservative, right wing "church" town (there are 153 churches here) & there is no "open" lgbt community where I live at all.... Butch women? Forget it! I think my ex is the only butch in town. For any type of lgbt atmosphere I have to travel at least 3 hours... I live for gay pride in June to get my fill till the next summer.... so I finally decided to do something in my own town.... I started a PFLAG chapter here in the hopes of stimulating (no pun intended) the lgbt community & to some degree has worked... with the younger crowd. If there are available butch women in this town, around my age, they're hiding out & I don't appreciate it! lol In the year we've been around we've had our first prom, which was fabulous but mostly young kids.... in October we're having a Masquerade Ball, hopefully more adults will turn out... it's important that we know we're not alone here or in this life, especially our life. kissinfemme

09-04-2011, 09:54 PM	#5
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09-25-2011, 06:14 PM	#8
femmepoet Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: West Palm Beach, FL Posts: 9 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14 Thanked 15 Times in 3 Posts Rep Power: 0	I feel less alone now, after reading all of your posts. I'm in South Florida, and there seem to be so few butch women here. I'm 54, and would like to date within my own age group, but the butches my age, who are on the online dating sites, are looking for younger women. The few good butch women I know are partnered and happy. So . . . coast to coast, NYC or South Florida or CA, we're all having difficulty. Thankfully, good friends are everywhere, but it's hard to be without that special someone sometimes. Thanks to everyone for your comments. I'm glad I read them.