Femme C*ck

pinkajl · 09-16-2011, 07:21 AM

I think calling femme cock "common" to butches and FTMs is really going to be unique to each and every individual femme who embraces that part of their sexual identity.

In my opinion and experience, we all attract and are attracted to a certain type of person - and that changes over time. When I was younger and less self-aware, I attracted and accepted attention from a different type of person than I do today. Would it have been fair for me to say back then that it's common for butches to be emotional manipulative of femmes? Absolutely not. That was just, sadly, where I was in my life's journey. Today, those types of butches have no place in my life.

So, I understand that it's not my place to contradict anyone on this thread and say it's actually more common for butches and FTMs to *not* be attracted to femme cock - although in my experience, I have never met a butch or FTM who would entertain such a notion. All I can say is that the type of butch I attract, as well as the type of femme that I am, don't embrace the femme cock concept at any level.

It doesn't make it right or wrong. It doesn't make anyone more or less a femme. It doesn't make anyone a better lover. It just makes it what it is.

Pink.

The_Lady_Snow · 09-16-2011, 07:26 AM

Maybe the reason you've never met a butch or ftm who would "entertain' the notion because they've been shamed for having those thoughts or desires.

Interesting how butches and ftm's have to entertain and femmes are expected to like cock period. Very interesting

pinkajl · 09-16-2011, 07:45 AM

No, my dear Lady Snow, I have no shame in my sexuality, thoughts, or desires. At the age of 40, I am quite confident in what I like and what I want. I can say unequivocally that femme cock is not a part of my identity. Nor, do I feel any less equipped as a femme or as a lover by not embracing that concept.

Pink.

The_Lady_Snow · 09-16-2011, 08:01 AM

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Originally Posted by pinkajl

No, my dear Lady Snow, I have no shame in my sexuality, thoughts, or desires. At the age of 40, I am quite confident in what I like and what I want. I can say unequivocally that femme cock is not a part of my identity. Nor, do I feel any less equipped as a femme or as a lover by not embracing that concept.

Pink.

So it's not a common practice in your relationships, I get that for some of us Femme's, butches, and ftm's it is... Hence the start of this thread. I don't think anyone has said you are less equipped as a femme for your lack of having one.

I'm going to assume you support Femme Cock and those who like it hence why you came in here and posted as a supporter of our sex.

PS-- I do still find it interesting the fact butches and ftms have to "entertain" the idea while Femme's are expected to like it... It's interesting....

*Anya* · 09-16-2011, 08:31 AM

Thank you Lady Snow (& all planeteers)!

I learn much from you, i.e., that "service" did have another meaning or context.

Signed,

Your fairly sheltered and coming-from-a-kinda-vanilla place friend.

Hugs,

Tawse · 09-16-2011, 08:30 AM

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Originally Posted by pinkajl

I think calling femme cock "common" to butches and FTMs is really going to be unique to each and every individual femme who embraces that part of their sexual identity.

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Originally Posted by pinkajl

So, I understand that it's not my place to contradict anyone on this thread and say it's actually more common for butches and FTMs to *not* be attracted to femme cock.

I'm not trying to attack you for having your own opinion - but aren't these two statements contradicting themselves?

On one hand you say it's unique and then on the other hand you give a broad generalization.

apretty · 09-16-2011, 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by pinkajl

...So, I understand that it's not my place to contradict anyone on this thread and say it's actually more common for butches and FTMs to *not* be attracted to femme cock - although in my experience, I have never met a butch or FTM who would entertain such a notion...
Pink.

Would you please speak to your choice in making this post here, in a thread so obviously supportive of femme cock and the femme cock-admirers?

Just_G · 09-16-2011, 09:46 AM

I "entertained" the idea once....that was all it took!

When some of my femme friends have said they would love to be a fly on the wall when we are having a boys night or when I am with a group of butches...believe me when I say, you would hear some interesting conversations about things that some of us (not all of us mind you) actually enjoy, but never talk about.

5 years ago, I never would have mentioned anything about thinking that femme cock is hot, but I think it is time to start talking about it! It doesn't make me one tiny bit less butch (or any other negative connotation I have ever heard...see Lady Snow's post with the list of things said earlier in this thread...I have heard more than one of those in my time!) because I like femme cock and think it is hot!

Chancie · 09-16-2011, 10:17 AM

As soon as someone starts quoting their own idiosyncratic experiences as fact,

I want to do a survey to collect some qualitative/quantitive data.

Field research might interest me.

Dreams · 09-16-2011, 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Just_G

I "entertained" the idea once....that was all it took!

When some of my femme friends have said they would love to be a fly on the wall when we are having a boys night or when I am with a group of butches...believe me when I say, you would hear some interesting conversations about things that some of us (not all of us mind you) actually enjoy, but never talk about.

5 years ago, I never would have mentioned anything about thinking that femme cock is hot, but I think it is time to start talking about it! It doesn't make me one tiny bit less butch (or any other negative connotation I have ever heard...see Lady Snow's post with the list of things said earlier in this thread...I have heard more than one of those in my time!) because I like femme cock and think it is hot!

pervert..

Just_G · 09-16-2011, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Dreams

pervert..

Thank you! (you have known this from the day we met buddy!

)

Dreams · 09-16-2011, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Just_G

Thank you! (you have known this from the day we met buddy!

)

this is so true...

AtLast · 09-16-2011, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Dreams

pervert..

ROTFL!

There may very well be more "perverted" butches, transguys, etc. around than anyone might imagine!

For the life of me, I don't get some of this stuff sometimes- couples of every type and kind- from heterosexual to the queerist of queer have been enjoying and using "femme" cock for a very long time. Lots of straight men enjoy back door sex via dildo worn by their wives/girl friends. It does not have a thing to do with gender identity or roles- it has to do with pleasure and what a couple wants to share.

I so agree with Just G about what can be heard among butches about all of this. But something that bothers me is that there is some kind of secret code about it- as well as for butches that are not focused on butch cock as the sexual main event.

For such a diverse, "open" and sex positive community, I often just shake my head.

The_Lady_Snow · 09-16-2011, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by AtLastHome

ROTFL!

There may very well be more "perverted" butches, transguys, etc. around than anyone might imagine!

For the life of me, I don't get some of this stuff sometimes- couples of every type and kind- from heterosexual to the queerist of queer have been enjoying and using "femme" cock for a very long time. Lots of straight men enjoy back door sex via dildo worn by their wives/girl friends. It does not have a thing to do with gender identity or roles- it has to do with pleasure and what a couple wants to share.

I so agree with Just G about what can be heard among butches about all of this. But something that bothers me is that there is some kind of secret code about it- as well as for butches that are not focused on butch cock as the sexual main event.

For such a diverse, "open" and sex positive community, I often just shake my head.

I only experience this Femme Cock phobia here online, I do truly think it's all them isms that leak into our LGBTQ canvas, it's a heteronormative expectation.

I think it's something that men experience as well because like you stated that it's a biggo secret. I don't know what the word is exactly to use to describe what it is.

AtLast · 09-17-2011, 06:25 AM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I only experience this Femme Cock phobia here online, I do truly think it's all them isms that leak into our LGBTQ canvas, it's a heteronormative expectation.
I think it's something that men experience as well because like you stated that it's a biggo secret. I don't know what the word is exactly to use to describe what it is.

I agree- so very heteronormative. And I think connected to the whole male ego garbage. Firstly, I am female and lesbian. Secondly, cock as sex toy or accessory is not gender specific. As I have said before, for me it is about clit extension and celebration anyway. My orgasms are products of my clitoris- no matter how and with what might be part of the stimulation that sends it into glory.

Fergoddessakes, in heterosexual sex, the guys penis was just part of the stimulative configuration. There are aspects of every human sense being excited during sex which all work quite well together, each doing their part to promote pleasure.

I really appreciate femmes wanting to talk about femme cock and take their rightful ownership of cock usage as femmes. In fact, it is refreshing.

I would also honmor a femme lover's feelings about not wanting to use or explore femme cock as I would any kind of sexual boundary.

09-16-2011, 07:26 AM	#2
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09-16-2011, 08:31 AM	#5
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Just_G Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Switch, Comedian...G...whichever. Preferred Pronoun?: He....with an e! Relationship Status: I'll take kinky & twisted for $200, Alex!! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the middle Posts: 2,281 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 874 Thanked 6,165 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I "entertained" the idea once....that was all it took! When some of my femme friends have said they would love to be a fly on the wall when we are having a boys night or when I am with a group of butches...believe me when I say, you would hear some interesting conversations about things that some of us (not all of us mind you) actually enjoy, but never talk about. 5 years ago, I never would have mentioned anything about thinking that femme cock is hot, but I think it is time to start talking about it! It doesn't make me one tiny bit less butch (or any other negative connotation I have ever heard...see Lady Snow's post with the list of things said earlier in this thread...I have heard more than one of those in my time!) because I like femme cock and think it is hot! __________________ Happy are those who dream and are ready to pay the price to make them come true!

09-16-2011, 07:21 AM	#1
pinkajl Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Relationship Status: Happily Unavailable Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Maryland Posts: 41 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12 Thanked 116 Times in 30 Posts Rep Power: 282674	I think calling femme cock "common" to butches and FTMs is really going to be unique to each and every individual femme who embraces that part of their sexual identity. In my opinion and experience, we all attract and are attracted to a certain type of person - and that changes over time. When I was younger and less self-aware, I attracted and accepted attention from a different type of person than I do today. Would it have been fair for me to say back then that it's common for butches to be emotional manipulative of femmes? Absolutely not. That was just, sadly, where I was in my life's journey. Today, those types of butches have no place in my life. So, I understand that it's not my place to contradict anyone on this thread and say it's actually more common for butches and FTMs to not be attracted to femme cock - although in my experience, I have never met a butch or FTM who would entertain such a notion. All I can say is that the type of butch I attract, as well as the type of femme that I am, don't embrace the femme cock concept at any level. It doesn't make it right or wrong. It doesn't make anyone more or less a femme. It doesn't make anyone a better lover. It just makes it what it is. Pink.

09-16-2011, 07:45 AM	#3
pinkajl Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Relationship Status: Happily Unavailable Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Maryland Posts: 41 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12 Thanked 116 Times in 30 Posts Rep Power: 282674	No, my dear Lady Snow, I have no shame in my sexuality, thoughts, or desires. At the age of 40, I am quite confident in what I like and what I want. I can say unequivocally that femme cock is not a part of my identity. Nor, do I feel any less equipped as a femme or as a lover by not embracing that concept. Pink.

09-16-2011, 10:17 AM	#9
Chancie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme-inist Relationship Status: I'm lucky. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Western Mass Posts: 3,774 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,518 Thanked 14,541 Times in 2,744 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	As soon as someone starts quoting their own idiosyncratic experiences as fact, I want to do a survey to collect some qualitative/quantitive data. Field research might interest me.