Women-identified Lesbians Loving/Living with other Woman-identified Lesbians

ruthie14 · 09-20-2011, 07:46 PM

I am loving this thread! I love a female identified butch! Love the butch/femme thing. Most of my friends are butch (but won't identify with the label), andro, Tweeners, butch ...very few femmes. You would think that would get me a lot of dates.. uhhh NO! A lot of attention, yes... dates... once they figure out I won't have sex outside of a relationship... gone...done.... an occational flirt maybe. My friends keep telling me to give up on the butch/femme thing. Ok, you give up on the lesbian thing and go straight and I'll think about it. lolol.. Really, I am who I am. I LOVE a butch... one that lets me love her back, even better!!!

Jagg.... you are very funny my dear. Here's a wink just for you! ;-) hiya handsome!

Ok, this femme is headed to bed.

Night all!
Ruthie

1QuirkyKiwi · 09-25-2011, 05:15 PM

I live in a semi-rural area and most lesbians are partnered, those that aren’t are too young for me or a little older than I’d comfortably like – I’m only 41, but, I’ve travelled and experienced many things in my life and want a woman who has also experienced life and the world – who can be my equal on an emotional, intellectual, spiritual and physical level.

I also want a woman who can hold her own when my unyielding determination (read as stubborn) kicks in and I try to do too much only to end up in pain, in tears and on crutches. I’m NOT wanting a carer – that is the last thing I want (when I’m old, completely Ga-ga and sporting a pink rinse hair-do, then yes! More like I’d need a rubber room in a Psychiatric unit, lol!), yet, what I do seek is a woman who is able to allow me to remain independent as I am now, yet, when I need/ask for help, she is willing to do so and not feel put-upon.

I appreciate that me having a form of Spina Bifida and Alpha-Thalassaemia (treated with high doses of Folic Acid) isn’t what every woman wants to have in a partner, especially is they love hiking, and other sports. I am active with regular Yoga practice, swimming and walking – I can walk about 2 miles at a fairly steady pace……OK! I can’t do that everyday, but, I CAN still do it! (Unless of course it’s traipsing round shops for hours, then I’d rather watch paint dry! LOL!).

When I’m on my crutches, I’m slower doing my daily activities and have to be fairly strict in organising myself and plan ahead.

When I’m getting to know a woman, I’m open hearted and vulnerable - I do feel insecure and feel embarrassed about some of the challenges that come with Spina Bifida, yet, I’m comfortable confronting the necessary issues and not be dishonest about them to her…..Sometimes even the most confident, self assured, carefree spirit has moments of weaknesses.

*Anya* · 09-25-2011, 05:42 PM

To 1QuirkyKiwi: my sweet dear femme sister, thank you for your vulnerability and sharing. You really have no idea how many of us on the planet deal with being differently-abled every day (me, arthritis & thyroid cancer to name a couple)!

We all deal with our frailties and our strenghts in our own way and as we age, even if we were totally healthy at 40, it does not mean we still will be as the years go by.

I believe with all my heart (well ok I do get scared) that I will find love again in spite of my outer wrapper being a little tattered and torn, that just like the Velveteen Rabbitt, when I am loved, I will look like a shiny new one in her eyes.

1QuirkyKiwi · 09-25-2011, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Anya/Georgia

To 1QuirkyKiwi: my sweet dear femme sister, thank you for your vulnerability and sharing. You really have no idea how many of us on the planet deal with being differently-abled every day (me, arthritis & thyroid cancer to name a couple)!

We all deal with our frailties and our strenghts in our own way and as we age, even if we were totally healthy at 40, it does not mean we still will be as the years go by.

I believe with all my heart (well ok I do get scared) that I will find love again in spite of my outer wrapper being a little tattered and torn, that just like the Velveteen Rabbitt, when I am loved, I will look like a shiny new one in her eyes.

Anya/Georgia,

Thank you so much for you sweet words.

All too often we don’t see how others see us - we are usually much stronger than others think – that comes from our vulnerabilities and acceptance to say “We’re not perfect, yet, we are worthy of being loved, cherished and adored.”

We will find love again with ‘That One Special Woman for Us’, but, she/they will find us when she/they are ready as we will be, too.

I wish you every health and happiness.

Okiebug61 · 02-27-2012, 07:53 PM

I just want to say that I love being a woman, I love being a light butch and I love loving Red who is simply a wonderful woman ID'd lesbian. It just rocks!

girl_dee · 02-27-2012, 08:37 PM

love this thread, love loving a Female identified butch woman!

eclectic_fox · 09-23-2012, 12:08 AM

love this thread too… and looking for that female identified butch woman

09-25-2011, 05:15 PM	#2
1QuirkyKiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: BBW. Unique femininity that does not encompass the western paradigm. Preferred Pronoun?: Anything Respectful! Relationship Status: Single, Happy, not Desparate or Looking, but Open to Possibilities... Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Europe and Aotearoa on a 5:2 ratio. Posts: 2,308 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,003 Thanked 6,035 Times in 1,617 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I live in a semi-rural area and most lesbians are partnered, those that aren’t are too young for me or a little older than I’d comfortably like – I’m only 41, but, I’ve travelled and experienced many things in my life and want a woman who has also experienced life and the world – who can be my equal on an emotional, intellectual, spiritual and physical level. I also want a woman who can hold her own when my unyielding determination (read as stubborn) kicks in and I try to do too much only to end up in pain, in tears and on crutches. I’m NOT wanting a carer – that is the last thing I want (when I’m old, completely Ga-ga and sporting a pink rinse hair-do, then yes! More like I’d need a rubber room in a Psychiatric unit, lol!), yet, what I do seek is a woman who is able to allow me to remain independent as I am now, yet, when I need/ask for help, she is willing to do so and not feel put-upon. I appreciate that me having a form of Spina Bifida and Alpha-Thalassaemia (treated with high doses of Folic Acid) isn’t what every woman wants to have in a partner, especially is they love hiking, and other sports. I am active with regular Yoga practice, swimming and walking – I can walk about 2 miles at a fairly steady pace……OK! I can’t do that everyday, but, I CAN still do it! (Unless of course it’s traipsing round shops for hours, then I’d rather watch paint dry! LOL!). When I’m on my crutches, I’m slower doing my daily activities and have to be fairly strict in organising myself and plan ahead. When I’m getting to know a woman, I’m open hearted and vulnerable - I do feel insecure and feel embarrassed about some of the challenges that come with Spina Bifida, yet, I’m comfortable confronting the necessary issues and not be dishonest about them to her…..Sometimes even the most confident, self assured, carefree spirit has moments of weaknesses. __________________ What will make the difference to me is your strength of character and what's in your heart...

09-25-2011, 05:42 PM	#3
Anya Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Committed to being good to myself Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: West Coast Posts: 8,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,306 Thanked 40,447 Times in 7,284 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	To 1QuirkyKiwi: my sweet dear femme sister, thank you for your vulnerability and sharing. You really have no idea how many of us on the planet deal with being differently-abled every day (me, arthritis & thyroid cancer to name a couple)! We all deal with our frailties and our strenghts in our own way and as we age, even if we were totally healthy at 40, it does not mean we still will be as the years go by. I believe with all my heart (well ok I do get scared) that I will find love again in spite of my outer wrapper being a little tattered and torn, that just like the Velveteen Rabbitt, when I am loved, I will look like a shiny new one in her eyes. __________________ ~Anya~ Democracy Dies in Darkness ~Washington Post "...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable." UN Human Rights commissioner

02-27-2012, 07:53 PM	#5
Okiebug61 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Light Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Hitched to Red Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,528 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,261 Thanked 5,378 Times in 1,245 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I just want to say that I love being a woman, I love being a light butch and I love loving Red who is simply a wonderful woman ID'd lesbian. It just rocks! __________________ "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawake." ~ Anatole France

09-20-2011, 07:46 PM	#1
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	I am loving this thread! I love a female identified butch! Love the butch/femme thing. Most of my friends are butch (but won't identify with the label), andro, Tweeners, butch ...very few femmes. You would think that would get me a lot of dates.. uhhh NO! A lot of attention, yes... dates... once they figure out I won't have sex outside of a relationship... gone...done.... an occational flirt maybe. My friends keep telling me to give up on the butch/femme thing. Ok, you give up on the lesbian thing and go straight and I'll think about it. lolol.. Really, I am who I am. I LOVE a butch... one that lets me love her back, even better!!! Jagg.... you are very funny my dear. Here's a wink just for you! ;-) hiya handsome! Ok, this femme is headed to bed. Night all! Ruthie

02-27-2012, 08:37 PM	#6
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,830 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	love this thread, love loving a Female identified butch woman!

09-23-2012, 12:08 AM	#7
eclectic_fox Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Lesbian Feminist Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Canada Posts: 8 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 66 Thanked 47 Times in 8 Posts Rep Power: 0	love this thread too… and looking for that female identified butch woman