Office Etiquette / Advice

Tawse · 09-21-2011, 05:31 AM

I haven't worked in a shared office for some time - but I have to say it wouldn't have bothered me if anyone had a mirror on their computer.

Sounds to me like someone is spending too much time on FB and doesn't want to get busted... after all - if she were busy working why would she care what you saw? She's up to something.

Keep your mirror.

PS: It's funny she thought that - because I personally would have just thought you wanted to see who was coming so you could switch out of FB and not get busted lol

tapu · 09-21-2011, 05:38 AM

I agree that it's her thing, not yours.

I'd just put it back where I wanted it. Then if she says something again, say the minimal. (I find the minimal always to be the safest bet.) Like, say, oh, yeah, sorry, but I never even look in there unless someone comes up. End of your part of discussion.

If she continues talking just nod and be pleasant but stay on message: I do understand but I promise you I don't even see what's way back there.

Then it's up to her to escalate if she wants, and she's not going to do that because she probably is just squatting on FB.

Good luck.

(Try to channel Jim from The Office when you get to the nod and be pleasant part.)

Dominique · 09-21-2011, 05:44 AM

I used to work in cubeland. Then they modernized a bit and
put the dividers up to 6 feet and the only open space was the entrance into the cube space.

One of my tricks, was to keep my extra chair full of stuff, my brief case, my coat, usually a stack of papers~ clearly sending a message visitors unwanted.

Somedays, it was hard to get my work done because people would just drop in and want to hang...Hang someplace else.

Because I know people can make a mountain out of seemingly nothing, do you have a floor supervisor? I'd seek them out and see if they have issue with it. If it's the little concave type of mirror you stick on a side view mirror, the further away you try to look into the mirror, the more distorted the object becomes. I'd point that out.

I completely understand when you are concentrating on your work and someone comes into a quiet space, it can rattle you. When I worked in cubeland...it would often take me a few minutes to regroup and get back to what I was doing.
(thats why I made my cube feel uninvited). Good luck with this.

09-21-2011, 05:38 AM	#2
tapu Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Understated butch. Preferred Pronoun?: I Relationship Status: Party of One Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Maine Posts: 1,654 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,324 Thanked 3,115 Times in 1,103 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I agree that it's her thing, not yours. I'd just put it back where I wanted it. Then if she says something again, say the minimal. (I find the minimal always to be the safest bet.) Like, say, oh, yeah, sorry, but I never even look in there unless someone comes up. End of your part of discussion. If she continues talking just nod and be pleasant but stay on message: I do understand but I promise you I don't even see what's way back there. Then it's up to her to escalate if she wants, and she's not going to do that because she probably is just squatting on FB. Good luck. (Try to channel Jim from The Office when you get to the nod and be pleasant part.) __________________ Really? That's not funny to you?

09-21-2011, 05:31 AM	#1
Tawse Member How Do You Identify?: TG Gender Queer Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Atlanta Posts: 730 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,973 Thanked 2,733 Times in 642 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I haven't worked in a shared office for some time - but I have to say it wouldn't have bothered me if anyone had a mirror on their computer. Sounds to me like someone is spending too much time on FB and doesn't want to get busted... after all - if she were busy working why would she care what you saw? She's up to something. Keep your mirror. PS: It's funny she thought that - because I personally would have just thought you wanted to see who was coming so you could switch out of FB and not get busted lol

09-21-2011, 05:44 AM	#3
Dominique Member How Do You Identify?: Female/Lesbian/half the athlete I used to be Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: Dates Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: So proud to be a Pittsburgher Posts: 1,484 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,645 Thanked 3,730 Times in 1,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I used to work in cubeland. Then they modernized a bit and put the dividers up to 6 feet and the only open space was the entrance into the cube space. One of my tricks, was to keep my extra chair full of stuff, my brief case, my coat, usually a stack of papers~ clearly sending a message visitors unwanted. Somedays, it was hard to get my work done because people would just drop in and want to hang...Hang someplace else. Because I know people can make a mountain out of seemingly nothing, do you have a floor supervisor? I'd seek them out and see if they have issue with it. If it's the little concave type of mirror you stick on a side view mirror, the further away you try to look into the mirror, the more distorted the object becomes. I'd point that out. I completely understand when you are concentrating on your work and someone comes into a quiet space, it can rattle you. When I worked in cubeland...it would often take me a few minutes to regroup and get back to what I was doing. (thats why I made my cube feel uninvited). Good luck with this.