Women-identified Lesbians Loving/Living with other Woman-identified Lesbians

[1QuirkyKiwi]

I live in a semi-rural area and most lesbians are partnered, those that aren’t are too young for me or a little older than I’d comfortably like – I’m only 41, but, I’ve travelled and experienced many things in my life and want a woman who has also experienced life and the world – who can be my equal on an emotional, intellectual, spiritual and physical level.

I also want a woman who can hold her own when my unyielding determination (read as stubborn) kicks in and I try to do too much only to end up in pain, in tears and on crutches. I’m NOT wanting a carer – that is the last thing I want (when I’m old, completely Ga-ga and sporting a pink rinse hair-do, then yes! More like I’d need a rubber room in a Psychiatric unit, lol!), yet, what I do seek is a woman who is able to allow me to remain independent as I am now, yet, when I need/ask for help, she is willing to do so and not feel put-upon.

I appreciate that me having a form of Spina Bifida and Alpha-Thalassaemia (treated with high doses of Folic Acid) isn’t what every woman wants to have in a partner, especially is they love hiking, and other sports. I am active with regular Yoga practice, swimming and walking – I can walk about 2 miles at a fairly steady pace……OK! I can’t do that everyday, but, I CAN still do it! (Unless of course it’s traipsing round shops for hours, then I’d rather watch paint dry! LOL!).

When I’m on my crutches, I’m slower doing my daily activities and have to be fairly strict in organising myself and plan ahead.

When I’m getting to know a woman, I’m open hearted and vulnerable - I do feel insecure and feel embarrassed about some of the challenges that come with Spina Bifida, yet, I’m comfortable confronting the necessary issues and not be dishonest about them to her…..Sometimes even the most confident, self assured, carefree spirit has moments of weaknesses.

[*Anya*]

To 1QuirkyKiwi: my sweet dear femme sister, thank you for your vulnerability and sharing. You really have no idea how many of us on the planet deal with being differently-abled every day (me, arthritis & thyroid cancer to name a couple)!

We all deal with our frailties and our strenghts in our own way and as we age, even if we were totally healthy at 40, it does not mean we still will be as the years go by.

I believe with all my heart (well ok I do get scared) that I will find love again in spite of my outer wrapper being a little tattered and torn, that just like the Velveteen Rabbitt, when I am loved, I will look like a shiny new one in her eyes.

[1QuirkyKiwi]

Originally Posted by Anya/Georgia

To 1QuirkyKiwi: my sweet dear femme sister, thank you for your vulnerability and sharing. You really have no idea how many of us on the planet deal with being differently-abled every day (me, arthritis & thyroid cancer to name a couple)!

We all deal with our frailties and our strenghts in our own way and as we age, even if we were totally healthy at 40, it does not mean we still will be as the years go by.

I believe with all my heart (well ok I do get scared) that I will find love again in spite of my outer wrapper being a little tattered and torn, that just like the Velveteen Rabbitt, when I am loved, I will look like a shiny new one in her eyes.

Anya/Georgia,

Thank you so much for you sweet words.

All too often we don’t see how others see us - we are usually much stronger than others think – that comes from our vulnerabilities and acceptance to say “We’re not perfect, yet, we are worthy of being loved, cherished and adored.”

We will find love again with ‘That One Special Woman for Us’, but, she/they will find us when she/they are ready as we will be, too.

I wish you every health and happiness.

[Okiebug61]

I just want to say that I love being a woman, I love being a light butch and I love loving Red who is simply a wonderful woman ID'd lesbian. It just rocks!

[girl_dee]

love this thread, love loving a Female identified butch woman!

[eclectic_fox]

love this thread too… and looking for that female identified butch woman

[TruTexan]

I'm just a lesbian that happens to be butch that accepts my being female and embraces that part of me. My masculinity is female not male.I live in a small town where there aren't any lesbians, butches, femmes or even gays. I miss the advantage of a larger city for community. I do the butch-femme dance with femmes only. I can't do a butch-butch relationship because I'm not into butches and I certainly don't wanna share my clothes and shoes. NO offense to those who do, but it's not for me.
Glad I found the site. Been reading lots of things here and finding out more than I knew about how people differently ID. Perplexing at times, but that's ok, to each their own.