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			 Practically Lives Here 
			
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			married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 
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			sitting at the beach, or on the beach...seeing the dolphins frolic in multiples....smiles
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			
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	To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault  | 
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			 Just a guy. 
			
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			The beach. 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	Flying a kite. The woods. Her voice (when in a relationship) Her touch (when in a relationship) Her presence (when in a relationship) The quiet dark.  | 
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			 Timed Out 
			
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			something i dont do nearly enough---going to the beach.....just walking up the path to the beach,the sound of the waves i can actually start to feel all the negative crap starting to slip away....sometimes if i let things build up,and dont go for a long time,then usually i have to spend some time there for it to work its magic,but it always works! 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	also-sometimes-just driving in the car,windows down,music blaring!  | 
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			Walking on a dirt trail in the woods along side a creek with dog in tow.  Or biking on a dirt trail in the woods. 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			Driving with the top down. Sitting on the beach watching the waves. 
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			 Just a guy. 
			
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			The beach. 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	Flying a kite. The woods. Her voice (when in a relationship) Her touch (when in a relationship) Her presence (when in a relationship) The quiet dark.  | 
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			A few months ago, I began meditating every morning........I love it! 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	I meditate with special, quiet and soothing music (no lyrics). That gives me peace for the rest of my day. I paint. That gives me massive amounts of peace. Third, while it has been a difficult task at times, I found that toxic people took away my peace, so I got rid of those who brought toxicity to my life. Easier said than done. But well worth it. I am peace~filled and happy. LIFE. IS. GOOD!  | 
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			It’s all good. Join Date: Dec 2009 
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			The quietness and peace one can sense in my church sanctuary on a weekday afternoon when the outside world is way too stressed. 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			Postage stamps that are unique and support something dear to me. My mother spending the night at my house...those late night conversations and fabulous snacks. My daughter texting me when it gets late just to make sure I am home and safe. Any one of my 3 precious cats sleeping in my lap. Waking only because the sun is shining through my blinds and curtains. October breezes. The newspaper being delivered to my door. Order in my home. Memories of San Francisco. Pens in an array of different colors. The smell of a freshly painted room. The deep forest. Understanding pain so I can recognize and dwell in happiness and joy. 
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			 Laughter True, proven, and lasting friendships Ruby, who cracks me the hell up almost every day The Kittehs ![]() My time alone, love it! 
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			Right now? Nothing.
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
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			Staying out of confrontations 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			Smelling freshly cut grass Birds chirping in the spring The right song coming on just at the right time Being in her arms, looking into those beautiful green eyes Enjoying "me" time in silence 
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