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The process of exploring who you are in terms of your own unique style is very daunting - this is a path that nearly all of us have travelled before we became comfortable within ourselves and in our own style. Those people who make rude comment and give disapproving looks feel unsettled when THEIR perception and belief of what is right FOR THEM is challenged.
We each have our own lives to live and we must live it how we feel is right for ourselves. I'm with Anya and Macele in saying; be gentle with yourself. I identify as a Femme, yet, I always wear Palazzo trousers. I feel more comfortable in trousers and enjoy the feeling of the loose, wide leg trousers floaty like a skirt as I move. It took me 20 years and a lot of wardrobe changes for me to realise that I can still feel Feminine, be gay and wear trousers.
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So, please don't let a couple of busybodies interfer with you coming to terms with you, your identity and self-expression. If it makes it easier on you, if someone asks you if you're shopping for someone of the male persuassion, then lie. Lie your ass off. Ask them for suggestions, even. Say things like, "I'm shopping for my twin and we're built the same. Do you think this would look good?" You owe them nothing, not even the truth if telling it makes you feel less than. Find yourself and the rest will follow. |
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I dont think you should give up on the men's section. I think most people don't really think much about it in terms of labeling you as a queer. They probably think you ARE shopping for a brother or husband. I've worn mens clothing most of my life and generally just walk in, get what I want or drag a salesperson in to help me. You should see me at the boxer shorts rack. LOL
People will think what they will. We can't change what they think so we must embrace who we are and not be influenced by THEIR small mindedness. Of course if you feel that uncomfortable with it, as Anya stated, buying online is always a good option.
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Your self-expression is not a reflection of the nay say-ers. It is a reflection of you and who you will become. Fashions change and you will too. I came out almost 11 years ago, and I continue to struggle with the non-Out world and being seen. I constantly get the "well you look straight" card. I feel like saying, why thank you ... " you look and sound like an idiot." Be you, and if that means not revealing the full truth to those who do not deserve it... so be it. Good luck and congrats on coming out. I am Proud of everyone on this site, for just doing that. hp |
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