Your Death and Post-Death Preferences

[princessbelle]

Originally Posted by Gina

Okay folks...I am in Hospice care at home. Today I got oxygen delivered. I have COPD and there is no cure. Hospice is wonderful and the people are caring and make sure that you have what you need to live out your life as comfortable as possible. I have written my wishes in the booklet they gave me and also have copies for family and I carry a copy in the car. I am still out and about and go out and do things. I was never afraid to live, and I am not afraid to die. I will keep you posted on the process of dying if you want..

Gina

Your courage has left me speechless. I hope that your journey is peaceful and loving.

Thank you for your candid post. It is very brave. Love and prayers to you and yours.

[clay]

((((((((((((((((GINA))))))))))))))
You are a very brave lady....and that was very courageous of you to open yourself up to us here!!! May your days be of comforting and peaceful serenity for you!! I will walk with you in spirit!! You are loved here!!! Clay

[clay]

PRINCESSBELLE In SC, and I believe Florida has, we have paperwork called Five Wishes..that can be filled out (and my deceased partner's had to be notarized....and we carried copies of all the paperwork in a manila envelope everywhere with us..I had a file folder and I kept copies in there!) that I strongly suggest everyone have these filled out..they are legal and binding...and so easy to fill out. You can probably google and find out if your state has them available. Thanks for your very informative posts, Belle!!! and SocialJustice_FSU[/COLOR]

[Babyangeleyez]

I hate death. I hate talking about it. Don't want no part of it..... Until I had to go through it with my son 3 years ago. Now, I'm a firm believer in planning ahead. It's painful enough losing your loved one, but to have to make the decisions while you are grieving is not pleasant either.

I have told my family and ex-partner that if something happens to me please do not dress me all up fancy cuz thats not who I am. Make sure that my casket is lined in pink. I don't care if its a pink shag rug, as long as its pink. I will be buried in the plot beside my son. Donate whatever organs that can be donated. And have a big party afterwards. It's not good-bye.....just see ya later!

[TagHeuer_07]

I have experience NDE (Near Death Experience) twice, first it was stabbed by stranger and lost all my blood i dont remember much seen what happening but remember before i came out of coma saw tunnel with huge white flash etc,

2nd had serve asthma attack due stress i remember seeing tunnel with full of colours and saw many people i know and some dont know (might have met them before) it was full of speed in tunnel and saw the white then bright white it went silent and saw jesus for like few sec and flash lighting that bought me back alive again

If i die my heart will go to heart research for heart hospital, my lungs will go to asthma research but the rest im not sure what to do will have to think about it

i want cremation, before cremation i dont want flowers just gold coins to donation for heart and asthma research etc i want LGBT flag in service to remember that im proud of being LGBT no matter what i am as who i am, who i love, also i want bagpipe before service and after the service to play after the service wish friend and family and some people who have met me will go to service or german club to celebration of my life etc

My stuff (expensive one)some will given to who i trust and other stuff will go charity to give homeless people needs etc

[Electrocell]

My younger days I told my friends to bury me ass up ( so the world could kiss my ass) with a bottle of jack black in one hand and a joint in the other lol.

Now that I am older told my niece to cremate me ( cheaper on the family) and scatter my ashes wherever. Hopefully people will remember me as a kind and giving soul , also a good friend. Want to add my niece will get my life insurance to pay for the cremation.

[~baby~doll~]

Great topic. We have discussed this around here a number of times. It ii am ill terminally i want euthanasia at a celebration like in the movie Barbarian Invasions. i do not want to be in pain or so drugged i can't communicate. i want no procedures which would elongate the suffering for my partner or myself.
i want to be cremated as soon as possible thereafter.

i have a friend who says she would like to be cremated and put into bottles of Summer's Eve so she could spread herself around. Hmmmm

[Aud]

As someone with a serious heart condition, I've probably put in more than my fair share of time thinking about this topic/considering the options. And just when I think I'm certain I know what "my wishes" are, they change!

I do love this idea as a lasting memorial for a loved one though: http://www.lifegem.com/index.aspx?BType=YTxt&BAg=HCrem

As for my 'death preference', quite honestly, I wished to be drugged out of my gourd, feeling no pain, nor fear, if possible.

[imperfect_cupcake]

I am a complete atheist. I do not think there is anything at all after I die except the big switch off. My materials came from the stars and will return to them eventually, like everyone else.

Funerals are not for the dead but the living. Funerals help the community through ritual to come to terms with loss. I have no care whatsoever about what happens to my body. I'm dead, I sure as hell won't know. I am an organ doner but my organs won't be up to snuff to donation. I'm overweight and I smoked for many years and I've had a lot of stressors and medications. But maybe someone can use my eyes if I go young.

To save people money and to give science it's due, I keep meaning to donate my body to science. Maybe my brain can go in the brain bank and the rest can be a learning dissection or something. I have to admit part of me feels a bit squeamish, but since *I* am having the benifits of my medical profession by having access to a cadaver, it would be of benefit for me to do the same thing for others to learn and aide education and research and health professions. I love the thought of something of myself being burned and compressed and turned into a man made diamond to be worn by whomever. But I will be dead and ultimately I won't care.

However, the rituals of death are for the living. So if anyone living has any preference for me, if it matters to them, if *they* need a grave or a memorial site, or to spread my ashes, then that is their privilege. Do that. I'm dead, I won't care. Do what is important to you. I'm an atheist so I would hope the ceremony would reflect that, but if the person(s) need spiritual mention, it's their party and entirely up to them.

If there isn't anyone, then just donate my body and let others learn.

[Happy_Go_Lucky]

Let me preface my comment with a disclaimer. MY OPINION ONLY.

My physical body is a vessel, she gives form and shape and keeps my soul sheltered. I believe my energy has been here a few times before. Each time the wisdom garnered has lead me to this.

Not quite certain if I am done for now, or the universe has other plans. I accept whatever happens. Acceptance has been a valuable lesson for me this time around, hope to take this forward, or not.

My physical body is of little importance to me after her death. My spirit, all things physically intangible will persist.

As you believe it, so it is.