"I see you as a man"

Nadeest · 10-26-2011, 11:09 PM

Andy, we live and learn. Next time, just tell them that those people are being idiots, and that they ARE male, and have always been so.
I, as a transwoman, haven't always handled new situations, and situations like that, the best way that they could have been handled. I just try to learn from my mistakes and go on.

DomnNC · 10-26-2011, 11:26 PM

Like Ender said it just depends on the person. Personally, I don't find it offensive or belittling, I simply see it as someone saying, "I see YOU", the real you, regardless of how you're packaged, I see YOU.

Words · 10-26-2011, 11:49 PM

I'm always having to correct people because when they realize that Blue was born a woman, they assume Hy now thinks of Hymself as a man and say stupid/annoying stuff accordingly.

Third gendered is definitely something that doesn't fit in their nice little binary world and I really feel very strongly about the need for greater public awareness. (When Blue went for Hys first job here in the UK, there were three boxes on the application form when it came to sex - male, female, other. A good start, but by no means enough.)

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betenoire · 10-26-2011, 11:53 PM

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Originally Posted by EnderD_503

Edit: Also wanted to express my initial "omg, it's Calpernia Addams!" reaction. I had no clue she had a youtube channel. I'm totally subscribing to her now. I hearts me some Calpernia

I have always wanted her and Drew Barrymore to take turns reading to me. They've both got that style of voice that I can listen to all day.

Nat · 10-26-2011, 11:57 PM

I think there is an appropriate time to say this: When a person asks how you see them.

ScandalAndy · 10-26-2011, 11:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Nadeest

Andy, we live and learn. Next time, just tell them that those people are being idiots, and that they ARE male, and have always been so.
I, as a transwoman, haven't always handled new situations, and situations like that, the best way that they could have been handled. I just try to learn from my mistakes and go on.

I guess I'm just curious because in my case I used the phrase in the specific context of a conversation with a partner or very close friend who was feeling vulnerable about themselves. I guess it would have been better to have said "well, they're clearly blind because you are obviously a man, there's just something wrong with them". I get that now, I was just curious if she was talking about it in the context of some random person she met in her capacity as a public figure, or if it's always offensive, regardless of intent.

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Words Member How Do You Identify?: Queer femme submissive Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: UK Posts: 969 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,449 Thanked 4,259 Times in 677 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I'm always having to correct people because when they realize that Blue was born a woman, they assume Hy now thinks of Hymself as a man and say stupid/annoying stuff accordingly. Third gendered is definitely something that doesn't fit in their nice little binary world and I really feel very strongly about the need for greater public awareness. (When Blue went for Hys first job here in the UK, there were three boxes on the application form when it came to sex - male, female, other. A good start, but by no means enough.) Words