What TO DO in a relationship.....

Soft*Silver · 10-27-2011, 02:57 PM

chose her above any friend you might have. ANY friend. Make HER your best friend. Its ok to have other friends,important to have other friends, but not at the cost of your relationship

be faithful. Or get out. Either way you are the hero in your relationship. Even if you dont follow thru but want to, know she Knows you want to. It hurts. Like Dee said, if you need out, get out, dont make her suffer because you lack balls to be a hero in your relationship.

like yourself more than she loves you. Dont let her carry your self esteem. She isnt strong enuf, no matter how strong she is

ONLY · 10-27-2011, 05:02 PM

At the end of the day, ask her how her day went, pay attention to her, look her in the eyes when she is speaking to you, and if she had a rough day, let her vent if she needs to, listen and then bring her close to you and hug her tight.....with option to then whisper in her ear..... "now let me take your mind off work........" If her day made her sad, then comfort her, hold her.......
OR

depending on situation (if she is pissed off, not sad) you might wanna stop her mid sentence and make mad passionate love to her then do some talking

Greco · 10-27-2011, 05:27 PM

read together on the same sofa

read to each other on sofa, or bed
or in tent

read to her.

Greco

girl_dee · 10-28-2011, 08:15 AM

leave your baggage behind, that's where it belongs.

ONLY · 10-29-2011, 03:44 PM

She reads to me (over the phone) before bed and most times I fall asleep within 5 minutes and she thinks that's adorable and loves it

She says I snore (not all the time, right baby? ) and think it's peaceful, comforting and cute lol

Now you tell me, is that love or what?
I love listening to her read to me, very calming, comforting, relaxing I love you SS

* these are things (fall asleep while she reads and snore) NOT to do in a relationship but for us it works lol *

SoulShineFemme · 10-30-2011, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by ONLY

She reads to me (over the phone) before bed and most times I fall asleep within 5 minutes and she thinks that's adorable and loves it

She says I snore (not all the time, right baby? ) and think it's peaceful, comforting and cute lol

Now you tell me, is that love or what?
I love listening to her read to me, very calming, comforting, relaxing I love you SS

* these are things (fall asleep while she reads and snore) NOT to do in a relationship but for us it works lol *

I love it that we have this bedtime ritual and that my voice is the last thing you hear before you drift off.... AND you have the cutest lil snore in the world!! I love you with all my heart.

girl_dee · 10-30-2011, 07:37 PM

enjoy Jello together!

bigbutchmistie · 11-21-2011, 05:48 PM

Honesty and Communication.

Honesty even if the truth hurts the truth is still the truth and both parties deserve it... ALWAYS

Communication.. Talk about it all! Even if it is insignificant to you it may not be insignificant to your partner.

Sachita · 11-21-2011, 05:53 PM

fuck long and hard. Decide who does what- assign roles.

girl_dee · 11-21-2011, 06:16 PM

Have goals as a couple!

Elijah · 11-21-2011, 06:20 PM

Know when to say when, for both your sakes.

Leigh · 11-21-2011, 07:12 PM

Communication is definately key, so DO communicate at ALL times

girl_dee · 11-21-2011, 07:37 PM

Yes, talk and be present during the talk!

ONLY · 11-21-2011, 08:30 PM

Remember her favorite snacks and .......and have it in the house at all times for those days that she just needs to unwind, put her feet up and have "her" time ....... when she is done with them, put them away (secret place) for the next time she needs it cause we know....that to leave it in the open is just gonna get you in trouble
I am teasin' Oh have I ever mentioned teasin' each other as in being silly/ funny
Also leave her phone message at home (when she is at work) that you miss her and play a a few lines of both your favorite song

VintageFemme · 11-21-2011, 08:40 PM

do.... all the little things. they add up to way more than even one big thing.

girl_dee · 11-21-2011, 08:57 PM

Go on trips together, get out of the house and enjoy each other!

Hot monkey sex is a bonus!

bright_arrow · 11-21-2011, 11:29 PM

Remind each other that you are a partnership, not a competition.. and so therefore, it's "One for all and all for one!"

10-27-2011, 02:57 PM	#1
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,903 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	chose her above any friend you might have. ANY friend. Make HER your best friend. Its ok to have other friends,important to have other friends, but not at the cost of your relationship be faithful. Or get out. Either way you are the hero in your relationship. Even if you dont follow thru but want to, know she Knows you want to. It hurts. Like Dee said, if you need out, get out, dont make her suffer because you lack balls to be a hero in your relationship. like yourself more than she loves you. Dont let her carry your self esteem. She isnt strong enuf, no matter how strong she is __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

10-27-2011, 05:02 PM	#2
ONLY Senior Member How Do You Identify?: well my girl calls me honeybear, sugarbear, sexy beast, hot tamale..... Preferred Pronoun?: female pronouns Relationship Status: Married to my Rare Beauty with a Beautiful Soul.....SS Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: eastern ontario, canada Posts: 2,783 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 975 Thanked 1,735 Times in 679 Posts Rep Power: 15139964	At the end of the day, ask her how her day went, pay attention to her, look her in the eyes when she is speaking to you, and if she had a rough day, let her vent if she needs to, listen and then bring her close to you and hug her tight.....with option to then whisper in her ear..... "now let me take your mind off work........" If her day made her sad, then comfort her, hold her....... OR depending on situation (if she is pissed off, not sad) you might wanna stop her mid sentence and make mad passionate love to her then do some talking __________________ *"If you talk about it, it's a dream, if you envision it, it's possible, but if you schedule it, it's real. "*

10-27-2011, 05:27 PM	#3
Greco Senior Member How Do You Identify?: GNC, not Trans, REAL. TIME. ONLY. Preferred Pronoun?: REAL. TIME. ONLY. Relationship Status: REAL. TIME. ONLY. Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: In a good life. Posts: 3,200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,160 Thanked 6,616 Times in 2,285 Posts Rep Power: 0	for readers read together on the same sofa read to each other on sofa, or bed or in tent read to her. Greco

10-29-2011, 03:44 PM	#5
ONLY Senior Member How Do You Identify?: well my girl calls me honeybear, sugarbear, sexy beast, hot tamale..... Preferred Pronoun?: female pronouns Relationship Status: Married to my Rare Beauty with a Beautiful Soul.....SS Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: eastern ontario, canada Posts: 2,783 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 975 Thanked 1,735 Times in 679 Posts Rep Power: 15139964	She reads to me (over the phone) before bed and most times I fall asleep within 5 minutes and she thinks that's adorable and loves it She says I snore (not all the time, right baby? ) and think it's peaceful, comforting and cute lol Now you tell me, is that love or what? I love listening to her read to me, very calming, comforting, relaxing I love you SS * these are things (fall asleep while she reads and snore) NOT to do in a relationship but for us it works lol * __________________ *"If you talk about it, it's a dream, if you envision it, it's possible, but if you schedule it, it's real. "*

11-21-2011, 05:53 PM	#9
Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,994 Times in 2,247 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	fuck long and hard. Decide who does what- assign roles. __________________ You either like me or you don't. It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don't have that kinda time to convince somebody else. ~ Daniel Franzese

10-28-2011, 08:15 AM	#4
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,831 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	leave your baggage behind, that's where it belongs.

10-30-2011, 07:37 PM	#7
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,831 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	enjoy Jello together!

11-21-2011, 05:48 PM	#8
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Honesty and Communication. Honesty even if the truth hurts the truth is still the truth and both parties deserve it... ALWAYS Communication.. Talk about it all! Even if it is insignificant to you it may not be insignificant to your partner.

11-21-2011, 06:16 PM	#10
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,831 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Have goals as a couple!

11-21-2011, 06:20 PM	#11
Elijah Member How Do You Identify?: Genderqueer Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones Relationship Status: Open to healthy possibilities... Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Michigan Posts: 554 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 738 Thanked 1,629 Times in 393 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Know when to say when, for both your sakes. __________________ "There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness but of power. They are messengers of overwhelming grief and of unspeakable love." ~Washington Irving

11-21-2011, 07:12 PM	#12
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Communication is definately key, so DO communicate at ALL times __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

11-21-2011, 07:37 PM	#13
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,831 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Yes, talk and be present during the talk!

11-21-2011, 08:30 PM	#14
ONLY Senior Member How Do You Identify?: well my girl calls me honeybear, sugarbear, sexy beast, hot tamale..... Preferred Pronoun?: female pronouns Relationship Status: Married to my Rare Beauty with a Beautiful Soul.....SS Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: eastern ontario, canada Posts: 2,783 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 975 Thanked 1,735 Times in 679 Posts Rep Power: 15139964	Remember her favorite snacks and .......and have it in the house at all times for those days that she just needs to unwind, put her feet up and have "her" time ....... when she is done with them, put them away (secret place) for the next time she needs it cause we know....that to leave it in the open is just gonna get you in trouble I am teasin' *Oh have I ever mentioned teasin' each other as in being silly/ funny* *Also leave her phone message at home (when she is at work) that you miss her and play a a few lines of both your favorite song* __________________ *"If you talk about it, it's a dream, if you envision it, it's possible, but if you schedule it, it's real. "*

11-21-2011, 08:40 PM	#15
VintageFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Outside Posts: 2,299 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,828 Thanked 7,620 Times in 1,655 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	do.... all the little things. they add up to way more than even one big thing. __________________ Unfinished Business & Open to Serendipity

11-21-2011, 08:57 PM	#16
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,831 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Go on trips together, get out of the house and enjoy each other! Hot monkey sex is a bonus!

11-21-2011, 11:29 PM	#17
bright_arrow ☆ the stars are aligned ☆ How Do You Identify?: one queer mama Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: married to my Boo Daddy <3 Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: nor cal Posts: 2,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,644 Thanked 9,363 Times in 2,296 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Remind each other that you are a partnership, not a competition.. and so therefore, it's "One for all and all for one!"