Anger and Gender Smashing

smouldering · 10-30-2011, 03:36 PM

Hi Dario and welcome to the BFP!, I hope you don't mind a femme speaking up? I agree with Strappie, words can be just as hurtful and I too would have a hard time trusting or respecting anyone that every time you are in a fight or disagreement, they throw low blows such as attacking the person you are, That is emotional and verbally abusive and I am sorry to hear this is something you've had to experience.

ButchEire · 10-30-2011, 03:42 PM

This sums it up. If they are choosing to berate you when they are angry, it isn't about you, this is their "stuff." No excuses though, bad behavior is bad behavior.

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Originally Posted by Dario

why do some women (not all!!!) when angry and/irrate, kick you is in your gender or your cock?

10-30-2011, 03:43 PM

i supose i have learned years ago, that no matter the situation, you never attack a persons physical or emotional arenas. i do not understand the concept of being callous to folks especially ones yuo love. no matter how intense the fight is, for me it is just wrong to try and purposefully inflict pain.

i welcome thoughts and replies from anyone, opinions are much welcomed and un=judged.

persiphone · 10-31-2011, 05:49 AM

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Originally Posted by smouldering

Hi Dario and welcome to the BFP!, I hope you don't mind a femme speaking up? I agree with Strappie, words can be just as hurtful and I too would have a hard time trusting or respecting anyone that every time you are in a fight or disagreement, they throw low blows such as attacking the person you are, That is emotional and verbally abusive and I am sorry to hear this is something you've had to experience.

i agree. a person that resorts to character assassination is not worth contemplation, much less anything else.

10-31-2011, 11:11 AM

i totally understand vulnerabilities, i understand anger and rage, i understnd most emotions....what i do not undertsand is the intention with which people attack. when you proclaim love whether it be a relationship, friendship or companionshp you have entered in to an 'emotional contract of trust and respect'. anger at any of its hieghts for me, has never resulted in such distainful words with intention of destruction.

in so far as how you can hurt a person, that is not in question for me we all know the answer.... but how you can one look yourself in the mirror after attemting to 'murder' someone emotionally, is the question do you see a monster? do you see pain? do you see a lack of respect?

if i say something truely horrible to someone i carefor, it takes me months to live with myself. so now, no matter how angry or enraged i am, i stay mindful of potential pains i can cause, they can last a lifetime!
i fight fairly i expect that from soemone i have allowed in my life.

10-30-2011, 03:36 PM	#1
smouldering Member How Do You Identify?: Punky girly girl, glittery femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, etc. Relationship Status: Single, Recovering Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,288 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,306 Thanked 3,974 Times in 924 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Hi Dario and welcome to the BFP!, I hope you don't mind a femme speaking up? I agree with Strappie, words can be just as hurtful and I too would have a hard time trusting or respecting anyone that every time you are in a fight or disagreement, they throw low blows such as attacking the person you are, That is emotional and verbally abusive and I am sorry to hear this is something you've had to experience. __________________ ~~Smouldering~~ Suit the action to the word, the word to the action. ~William Shakespeare

10-30-2011, 03:43 PM	#3
Dario Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	i supose i have learned years ago, that no matter the situation, you never attack a persons physical or emotional arenas. i do not understand the concept of being callous to folks especially ones yuo love. no matter how intense the fight is, for me it is just wrong to try and purposefully inflict pain. i welcome thoughts and replies from anyone, opinions are much welcomed and un=judged.

10-31-2011, 11:11 AM	#5
Dario Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	i totally understand vulnerabilities, i understand anger and rage, i understnd most emotions....what i do not undertsand is the intention with which people attack. when you proclaim love whether it be a relationship, friendship or companionshp you have entered in to an 'emotional contract of trust and respect'. anger at any of its hieghts for me, has never resulted in such distainful words with intention of destruction. in so far as how you can hurt a person, that is not in question for me we all know the answer.... but how you can one look yourself in the mirror after attemting to 'murder' someone emotionally, is the question do you see a monster? do you see pain? do you see a lack of respect? if i say something truely horrible to someone i carefor, it takes me months to live with myself. so now, no matter how angry or enraged i am, i stay mindful of potential pains i can cause, they can last a lifetime! i fight fairly i expect that from soemone i have allowed in my life.