A.D.D. /A.D.H.D .. support group

kannon · 11-15-2011, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by guihong

Bumping this thread, as after nearly 50 years on the planet, I now know what is going on with me. I'm not "stupid", "unmotivated", "not applying myself", "ditzy", or especially "special education". I have ADD.

What happened was that my son can not remember the nose on his face to save his life, I haven't seen the floor of his room for a year, and he's brilliant but does his homework in a way only he understands. So, on a hunch, I took him to a child psychologist for evaluation. As she asked him questions, I found myself thinking "That was me" or "Yeah, me too". So I got myself evaluated. Now I know why I do the things I do, and why I make my life so hard. I'm not crazy or some kind of failure. The counselor pointed out that I'd finished college and a masters' degree, and raised my kids in the best way I knew. I'd coped around ADD without knowing it.

The good news for both my son and I is that the problems can be addressed, and how fortunate for my son that schools know something about this and won't lump him as "slow", "stupid", "slob". Back when I was his age, ADD was unheard of, and it was a moral failing that my desk was a mess, I forgot slips and homework, and I'd lose mittens, my jacket, library books. Now we both have a lot of work to do, but at least I can work with myself and not fight it.

A great book: The ADD-Friendly Way to Organize Your Life, by Kolberg and Nadeau. I found it today at B&N.

Thanks for this link.

kannon · 11-15-2011, 11:31 PM

People with ADHD are different thinker, not stupid. I took the WAIS and scored like 149 on the perceptual reasoning index (top 1 percentile). I scored below average ( 98) on the processing speed index (timed test that demands high concentration). This is why I lose stuff or forget what I was doing and get sidetracked. I always have like 5 or 6 projects going on at the same time. I've gotten better at finishing projects. I still have many that get abandoned. I don't take meds but I exercise and I take ginseng. I have different gadgets and people(daily planner, smart phone, friends and family) to keep me on track. ADHD can be difficult but manageable.

morningstar55 · 11-16-2011, 05:13 AM

wow good morning planet dwellers
ha...... ty for bumping ..... i forgot all about this thread.. lol
and wow ..... very interesting stories. ty all for sharing

11-16-2011, 05:13 AM	#3
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kannon Member How Do You Identify?: bloke Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Happy is the heart that believes in angels Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Land of Milk and Honey Posts: 884 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,920 Thanked 2,066 Times in 584 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	People with ADHD are different thinker, not stupid. I took the WAIS and scored like 149 on the perceptual reasoning index (top 1 percentile). I scored below average ( 98) on the processing speed index (timed test that demands high concentration). This is why I lose stuff or forget what I was doing and get sidetracked. I always have like 5 or 6 projects going on at the same time. I've gotten better at finishing projects. I still have many that get abandoned. I don't take meds but I exercise and I take ginseng. I have different gadgets and people(daily planner, smart phone, friends and family) to keep me on track. ADHD can be difficult but manageable.