Regrets...Do You Have One or Some?

princessbelle · 11-22-2011, 10:05 AM

One regret that stands out in my mind is not having more children. Being married to a bio man it is really a wonder i had any at all, looking back....lol.

But, knowing what i know now, i would have left that relationship way before 17 years of it and would have been artificially inseminated at least a couple of more times.

I would have loved to have had a girl, but even if i had continued to have boys, i enjoyed being pregnant and i loved raising children. It is very hard for me to know i am too old to do this anymore and honestly it has been a very painful acceptance.

If i had to do over, i would definitely had more children, probably had a house full.

Quintease · 11-22-2011, 01:14 PM

Regrets... I have a few... but then again... too few to mention...

Growing old is a privilege denied to many...Never leave behind regrets...

I regret the things I didn't do, it's true. I regret not saving, I regret not caring more about others, I regret not sticking to things that I was good at. I regret not walking when I was unhappy, I regret not holding my peace when it didn't matter. I regret not accepting help when I was offered to me, I regret not accepting that some things I just could not do on my own. I regret not finishing my degree, I regret that I didn't know what love was until it found me. I regret wasting my time on the unworthy. I regret not thinking about the future until it forced itself upon me. I regret so much and yet so little.

I don't regret ending up the person that I now am.

Cowboi · 11-22-2011, 06:18 PM

Regrets.....I have a few. Whats done is done. I'm thinkin without them though, I might not be where I am today. It has been a interesting trip though, and as I always say...Its all about the road trip.

durrrrrrrr · 11-22-2011, 06:44 PM

should of, would of, could of

ayup, I have regrets.

not spending more time with my Mother, but at the age of 13, why would I been thinking she was going to pass away.

Regret, not speaking up to my Dad sooner then what I had. but , i did, finally.

not letting people get close to me, my heart, when I was younger ( 20's )

some others, may have been regrets at the time, but I am where i am right now because of those choices, and everything is alright.

Kenna · 01-11-2012, 10:34 PM

Yeah.... after my dad passed away, my brother asked me to move closer to him and his girls. I regret not taking him up on his offer...I really miss them bad. After being separated from him for most our lives... I shouldn't have answered " this place is a ghost town, I can't find a job here". ...when in fact I had made a selfish decision to move some place else but should have put my family first. If I had...then I could be watching my nieces grow up now.

Thamca74 · 01-11-2012, 11:29 PM

I regret not being a better partner to my ex girlfriend. She was my soulmate. I am not just saying that-- no one will ever "get" me like she did. I miss her so much but know that to much has happened to go back. (glad to get that off my chest)

I also regret not going back to school -- I am not sure that I have it in me now to even care to try. That is a very mild regret. I think there are some regrets that you can easily live with.

Wish I would have spent more time with my son when he was young instead of putting it off. If you have young kids-- be warned : the time sneaks up fast....All of a sudden one day you get home from work and the damn kid is a man.. true story. Life is full of regrets and guilt. BUT darn it, I did what I thought was right at the time.. Life goes on. Live and learn

Gráinne · 01-11-2012, 11:39 PM

I regret if my words or actions hurt another person, that's true. But whatever I've done has taught me something, so I try not to regret. If I chose differently, I wouldn't have the same friends (or family) as I do now.

I've made mistakes, but I've also had great experiences, and it's been quite a ride.

Strappie · 11-22-2011, 06:47 PM

Still to this day and everyday since that day I said the 2 powerful words to my mom as a young teen... "Fuck You".... She never said a word to me about it.. because she knew I would regret it till the day I die.... God Mom's are so smart!!

I don't regret much at all ... Because it's the path I've chose to take there for it's not a regret.... I just regret those two powerful words.

Leigh · 11-22-2011, 07:07 PM

Yes I do have regrets and I will probably have them for awhile, however I wil no longer let them dictate to Me who I will be in future years

smouldering · 12-06-2011, 03:04 PM

I do have some regrets but I think the biggest one that I have would be with my mom.. I regret not spending more time with her, I feel guilty that she had a stroke that caused her health to deteriorate rapidly until she passed in March, A part of me feels like if spent more time with her, i might have been able to prevent the direction her health took.. This is something that will pain me and i will think about until the day i die..

ruby_woo · 12-06-2011, 03:25 PM

I'm already regretting not spending more time back home with my family. We used to be a close-knit family, but it's hard to feel close to everyone when you're 2000 miles away and in a different country.

Strangely, not sure if I regret not finishing college or not. If I hadn't finished college, I may not have moved to San Francisco where I had a great and hilarious three years, I may not have met my partner...Hmm.

cuddlyfemme · 12-08-2011, 07:16 AM

I regret hurting a close friend, verbally
I regret not finishing college...maybe (key word "maybe') finding a job would be easier
I regret not being closer with m family

Delish · 12-09-2011, 10:38 AM

Most recent regret....dating a liar -sigh-

Soon · 01-11-2012, 10:17 PM

Regret: assuming the worst, instead of hoping for the best.

Novelafemme · 11-22-2011, 02:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by princessbelle

One regret that stands out in my mind is not having more children. Being married to a bio man it is really a wonder i had any at all, looking back....lol.

But, knowing what i know now, i would have left that relationship way before 17 years of it and would have been artificially inseminated at least a couple of more times.

I would have loved to have had a girl, but even if i had continued to have boys, i enjoyed being pregnant and i loved raising children. It is very hard for me to know i am too old to do this anymore and honestly it has been a very painful acceptance.

If i had to do over, i would definitely had more children, probably had a house full.

*packing up one sassy ten year old girl and shipping her off to Princessbelle ASAP.

julieisafemme · 11-22-2011, 02:30 PM

Not too many. The number one is getting married to my former spouse a second time in a religious ceremony. Worst mistake I have ever made in my life and hurtful to so many people. The shame of that mistake kept me paralyzed before finally coming out and living an authentic life as a lesbian femme.

Miss July · 11-22-2011, 03:15 PM

When I was younger, not believing in myself, settling for far less than I deserved.
Staying in a relationship that was unfulfilling, to make some one else happy.
Letting other's dictate how the out come of situtations should be.

Thankfully I am learning every day to try and live with no more regrets.

turasultana · 11-22-2011, 03:19 PM

not buying that damn apartment in the LES for 70K back in the day cause it was "too small." It's worth over 700K now. oy.

UofMfan · 11-22-2011, 05:53 PM

I see everything that I have done and lived through as building blocks of who I am today. I have made many mistakes, but regrets, very few.

I rather spend my time learning from than regretting.

Deborah · 03-13-2012, 03:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by princessbelle

One regret that stands out in my mind is not having more children. Being married to a bio man it is really a wonder i had any at all, looking back....lol.

But, knowing what i know now, i would have left that relationship way before 17 years of it and would have been artificially inseminated at least a couple of more times.

I would have loved to have had a girl, but even if i had continued to have boys, i enjoyed being pregnant and i loved raising children. It is very hard for me to know i am too old to do this anymore and honestly it has been a very painful acceptance.

If i had to do over, i would definitely had more children, probably had a house full.

Belle, I pray one day you will have grandchildren....mine have been the joy of my life. My son is and always will be everything to me but we're young and struggling when we have our children (usually) it's so special with the grandchildren..its one of the best parts of having children.

11-22-2011, 10:05 AM	#1
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	One regret that stands out in my mind is not having more children. Being married to a bio man it is really a wonder i had any at all, looking back....lol. But, knowing what i know now, i would have left that relationship way before 17 years of it and would have been artificially inseminated at least a couple of more times. I would have loved to have had a girl, but even if i had continued to have boys, i enjoyed being pregnant and i loved raising children. It is very hard for me to know i am too old to do this anymore and honestly it has been a very painful acceptance. If i had to do over, i would definitely had more children, probably had a house full. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

11-22-2011, 01:14 PM	#2
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	Regrets... I have a few... but then again... too few to mention... Growing old is a privilege denied to many...Never leave behind regrets... I regret the things I didn't do, it's true. I regret not saving, I regret not caring more about others, I regret not sticking to things that I was good at. I regret not walking when I was unhappy, I regret not holding my peace when it didn't matter. I regret not accepting help when I was offered to me, I regret not accepting that some things I just could not do on my own. I regret not finishing my degree, I regret that I didn't know what love was until it found me. I regret wasting my time on the unworthy. I regret not thinking about the future until it forced itself upon me. I regret so much and yet so little. I don't regret ending up the person that I now am. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

11-22-2011, 06:18 PM	#3
Cowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Holding My Red Circle Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Louisiana Posts: 1,811 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,051 Thanked 3,962 Times in 1,230 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Regrets.....I have a few. Whats done is done. I'm thinkin without them though, I might not be where I am today. It has been a interesting trip though, and as I always say...Its all about the road trip. __________________ Let There Be Cowgirls

11-22-2011, 06:44 PM	#4
durrrrrrrr Senior Member How Do You Identify?: TG Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: he , him Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: ayup Posts: 3,603 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,299 Thanked 10,217 Times in 2,504 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	should of, would of, could of ayup, I have regrets. not spending more time with my Mother, but at the age of 13, why would I been thinking she was going to pass away. Regret, not speaking up to my Dad sooner then what I had. but , i did, finally. not letting people get close to me, my heart, when I was younger ( 20's ) some others, may have been regrets at the time, but I am where i am right now because of those choices, and everything is alright. __________________ http://img1.jurko.net/avatar_1303.gif well, butter my butt and call me a biscuit

01-11-2012, 11:29 PM	#6
Thamca74 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: single Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Temple,texas Posts: 12 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 19 Thanked 50 Times in 10 Posts Rep Power: 644260	Regrets I regret not being a better partner to my ex girlfriend. She was my soulmate. I am not just saying that-- no one will ever "get" me like she did. I miss her so much but know that to much has happened to go back. (glad to get that off my chest) I also regret not going back to school -- I am not sure that I have it in me now to even care to try. That is a very mild regret. I think there are some regrets that you can easily live with. Wish I would have spent more time with my son when he was young instead of putting it off. If you have young kids-- be warned : the time sneaks up fast....All of a sudden one day you get home from work and the damn kid is a man.. true story. Life is full of regrets and guilt. BUT darn it, I did what I thought was right at the time.. Life goes on. Live and learn

01-11-2012, 10:34 PM	#5
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,191 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Yeah.... after my dad passed away, my brother asked me to move closer to him and his girls. I regret not taking him up on his offer...I really miss them bad. After being separated from him for most our lives... I shouldn't have answered " this place is a ghost town, I can't find a job here". ...when in fact I had made a selfish decision to move some place else but should have put my family first. If I had...then I could be watching my nieces grow up now.

01-11-2012, 11:39 PM	#7
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,864 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,118 Thanked 7,386 Times in 1,457 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I regret if my words or actions hurt another person, that's true. But whatever I've done has taught me something, so I try not to regret. If I chose differently, I wouldn't have the same friends (or family) as I do now. I've made mistakes, but I've also had great experiences, and it's been quite a ride. __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck

11-22-2011, 06:47 PM	#8
Strappie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I know who I am... Doesn't matter Relationship Status: It's a new day.... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Mpls, MN Posts: 3,283 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,813 Thanked 4,945 Times in 1,350 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Still to this day and everyday since that day I said the 2 powerful words to my mom as a young teen... "Fuck You".... She never said a word to me about it.. because she knew I would regret it till the day I die.... God Mom's are so smart!! I don't regret much at all ... Because it's the path I've chose to take there for it's not a regret.... I just regret those two powerful words.

11-22-2011, 07:07 PM	#9
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Yes I do have regrets and I will probably have them for awhile, however I wil no longer let them dictate to Me who I will be in future years __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

12-06-2011, 03:04 PM	#10
smouldering Member How Do You Identify?: Punky girly girl, glittery femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, etc. Relationship Status: Single, Recovering Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,288 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,306 Thanked 3,974 Times in 924 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I do have some regrets but I think the biggest one that I have would be with my mom.. I regret not spending more time with her, I feel guilty that she had a stroke that caused her health to deteriorate rapidly until she passed in March, A part of me feels like if spent more time with her, i might have been able to prevent the direction her health took.. This is something that will pain me and i will think about until the day i die.. __________________ ~~Smouldering~~ Suit the action to the word, the word to the action. ~William Shakespeare

12-06-2011, 03:25 PM	#11
ruby_woo Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,848 Thanked 1,939 Times in 376 Posts Rep Power: 17615392	I'm already regretting not spending more time back home with my family. We used to be a close-knit family, but it's hard to feel close to everyone when you're 2000 miles away and in a different country. Strangely, not sure if I regret not finishing college or not. If I hadn't finished college, I may not have moved to San Francisco where I had a great and hilarious three years, I may not have met my partner...Hmm.

12-08-2011, 07:16 AM	#12
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	I regret hurting a close friend, verbally I regret not finishing college...maybe (key word "maybe') finding a job would be easier I regret not being closer with m family

12-09-2011, 10:38 AM	#13
Delish Member How Do You Identify?: Queen of our castle Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: She put a ring on it and the date is set :) Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Missouri...in her arms :) Posts: 1,089 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,279 Thanked 834 Times in 427 Posts Rep Power: 3888561	Most recent regret....dating a liar -sigh- __________________

01-11-2012, 10:17 PM	#14
Soon Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: attached Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: . Posts: 6,896 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,046 Thanked 13,094 Times in 3,386 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Regret: assuming the worst, instead of hoping for the best.

11-22-2011, 02:30 PM	#16
julieisafemme Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married to Greyson Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In the present Posts: 828 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,156 Thanked 3,434 Times in 660 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Not too many. The number one is getting married to my former spouse a second time in a religious ceremony. Worst mistake I have ever made in my life and hurtful to so many people. The shame of that mistake kept me paralyzed before finally coming out and living an authentic life as a lesbian femme.

11-22-2011, 03:15 PM	#17
Miss July Member How Do You Identify?: Bitchy, Self Sufficient, High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Mizz (Bitch) Relationship Status: Not LOOKING Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunny CA Posts: 362 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 158 Thanked 515 Times in 156 Posts Rep Power: 5207567	I have a few When I was younger, not believing in myself, settling for far less than I deserved. Staying in a relationship that was unfulfilling, to make some one else happy. Letting other's dictate how the out come of situtations should be. Thankfully I am learning every day to try and live with no more regrets. __________________ Sorry...................My Give A Damn Meter Is Broken I Am A Bitch, But I Ain't Yo Bitch http://i166.photobucket.com/albums/u.../ny/ny1303.gif

11-22-2011, 03:19 PM	#18
turasultana Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: spoken for Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: brooklyn Posts: 432 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 226 Thanked 713 Times in 249 Posts Rep Power: 2043785	not buying that damn apartment in the LES for 70K back in the day cause it was "too small." It's worth over 700K now. oy.

11-22-2011, 05:53 PM	#19
UofMfan Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: A very happy Mr. Grumpy Cat Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Neither here or there Posts: 7,987 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 27,733 Thanked 18,935 Times in 4,705 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I see everything that I have done and lived through as building blocks of who I am today. I have made many mistakes, but regrets, very few. I rather spend my time learning from than regretting.