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[weatherboi]

Originally Posted by Gentle Tiger

No questions. Just dropping by to say hello. Still making my way around the site. Glad to know you guys are here.

Hey Gentle Tiger!! Welcome!!

[Linus]

Hey all.. I was curious if anyone has seen Beautiful Daughters from Logo (you can get it on NetFlix)? It was a documentary on the Vagina Monologues version that was done entirely from the TransWoman's perspective. I have to say: very moving. One of the things that was interesting was the comment that transwomen are like immigrants into womandom (as it were).

And I have to say, it's an apt analogy in many ways.

[Gentle Tiger]

Originally Posted by Linus

Hey all.. I was curious if anyone has seen Beautiful Daughters from Logo (you can get it on NetFlix)? It was a documentary on the Vagina Monologues version that was done entirely from the TransWoman's perspective. I have to say: very moving. One of the things that was interesting was the comment that transwomen are like immigrants into womandom (as it were).

And I have to say, it's an apt analogy in many ways.

I just got it from Netflix. We will be looking at it at the next Living Your Truth meeting.

[Linus]

Good show on transgendered kids and parents.

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=grMYNqe9lIQ"]YouTube- transgender children and their parents speak out part 1[/ame]

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xL2brGdp_kM"]YouTube- transgender children and their parents speak out part 2[/ame]

[Leigh]

Hey guys,

Its thursday and the day has barely begun (literally), but I'm sitting here with so much weighing on My mind and I knew that I could come here and talk to My fellow trans brothers. Some of you may know this already, but for those who don't ....... I officially came out to My parents this past weekend as being FTM, and I guess that I wasn't expecting the reaction that I've gotten from them so far. Usually they are both very supportive (more My mom than anything else), and yet I have been getting almost nothing from them but the silent treatment since sunday evening.

My mom right now is only talking to Me when she absolutely has to, otherwise she is hardly even acknowledging I exist. My dad talks to Me more than My mom is, however its mostly only to complain about what I'm not doing (or what I am doing that he doesn't like). I almost feel like I've turned green, grown a tail and horns and come from outer space ...... its like I'm almost not even welcome here anymore. I don't regret coming out to them, it was something I had to do; however, I am really scared about what may happen in the future if this doesn't change.

I want to hear from My fellow FTM brothers about this .......... what do you guys think of the situation? Should I wait it out? Do I say something? I have no idea where to go from here, so I guess I'm just looking for some guidance (and I knew I could come here). I thank everyone in advance for your responses and support; I'm very thankful to be able to have a place to come to, where I can open up and not have to be afraid of expressing Myself for fear of being judged

[Jet]

Originally Posted by Braedon

Hey guys,

Its thursday and the day has barely begun (literally), but I'm sitting here with so much weighing on My mind and I knew that I could come here and talk to My fellow trans brothers. Some of you may know this already, but for those who don't ....... I officially came out to My parents this past weekend as being FTM, and I guess that I wasn't expecting the reaction that I've gotten from them so far. Usually they are both very supportive (more My mom than anything else), and yet I have been getting almost nothing from them but the silent treatment since sunday evening.

My mom right now is only talking to Me when she absolutely has to, otherwise she is hardly even acknowledging I exist. My dad talks to Me more than My mom is, however its mostly only to complain about what I'm not doing (or what I am doing that he doesn't like). I almost feel like I've turned green, grown a tail and horns and come from outer space ...... its like I'm almost not even welcome here anymore. I don't regret coming out to them, it was something I had to do; however, I am really scared about what may happen in the future if this doesn't change.

I want to hear from My fellow FTM brothers about this .......... what do you guys think of the situation? Should I wait it out? Do I say something? I have no idea where to go from here, so I guess I'm just looking for some guidance (and I knew I could come here). I thank everyone in advance for your responses and support; I'm very thankful to be able to have a place to come to, where I can open up and not have to be afraid of expressing Myself for fear of being judged

Give them the time and space they need. They'll come around but you can't expect them to okay this when they hardly understand. They're grappling. I think it would be selfish of you to expect more right now. My mother disowned me for a year when I told her I was gay and then came around when she was ready. This is shock, fear, and a lot of unanswered questions for them right now. You have to take this as your responsibility for telling them. Be patient, kind, sensitive to them and deal with it.

[Linus]

Originally Posted by Braedon

Hey guys,

Its thursday and the day has barely begun (literally), but I'm sitting here with so much weighing on My mind and I knew that I could come here and talk to My fellow trans brothers. Some of you may know this already, but for those who don't ....... I officially came out to My parents this past weekend as being FTM, and I guess that I wasn't expecting the reaction that I've gotten from them so far. Usually they are both very supportive (more My mom than anything else), and yet I have been getting almost nothing from them but the silent treatment since sunday evening.

My mom right now is only talking to Me when she absolutely has to, otherwise she is hardly even acknowledging I exist. My dad talks to Me more than My mom is, however its mostly only to complain about what I'm not doing (or what I am doing that he doesn't like). I almost feel like I've turned green, grown a tail and horns and come from outer space ...... its like I'm almost not even welcome here anymore. I don't regret coming out to them, it was something I had to do; however, I am really scared about what may happen in the future if this doesn't change.

I want to hear from My fellow FTM brothers about this .......... what do you guys think of the situation? Should I wait it out? Do I say something? I have no idea where to go from here, so I guess I'm just looking for some guidance (and I knew I could come here). I thank everyone in advance for your responses and support; I'm very thankful to be able to have a place to come to, where I can open up and not have to be afraid of expressing Myself for fear of being judged

To add to Ol' Jets comments: you've already grappled and understood the process of this for a while. It's their turn to come to terms with this. My grandmother, who was dead set against this, finally called me by my birthname last summer (took her a year). We often forget that our parents and relatives aren't experiencing life as we are.

Give them the time and space they need and be open for questions. When they do start talking to you expect questions, rage, confusion and such. Be patient as they have a lot to learn and understand. For example, for my grandmother her greatest concern, as a former nurse, (and the concern was echo'd by other family members) was health. They wanted to know whether I was seeing a doctor and how would I know if things were ok. When I explained the whole process and how I see a doc every 3 months and get lab work done then, it set a lot at ease.

I don't know if there is a support group for families of trans individuals in your area (Winnipeg, right?) but if there is, it may be good to get that info in case they want it in the future. One of my aunt's was pro-active about it and found one in Halifax to go to so she could understand more and know that she wasn't the only one with a weird nephew. (although the weirdness is likely due to geekness more than anything else )

[theoddz]

Okay guys.....Gotta question for the fellows/Ladies who have undergone gender reassignment surgery (top surgery/genital reconstruction, etc.,).

Has anyone ventured forward to take the expense of the surgery(s) and related expenses off on your federal income tax as "out of pocket medical expense deductions"?? I want to do this on my 2009 Federal Income Tax, since I had top surgery this past year and had not only the expense of the surgery, but travel expenses, lodging, etc. I plan to try to deduct everything I can for that, which is probably upwards of $10K.

I found this and decided to try to get my tax prep guy to try to get it deducted.

http://www.advocate.com/News/Daily_N...ax_Deductible/

~Theo~