I am the Biggest Loser...Kinda.

Diva · 02-10-2010, 02:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by canmarielan

Well, as I had suspected, these last 2 days off were horrible. I ate too much.

I had a bad week.

Okay

I understand

Now, the thing is NOT letting this bad week spoil the whole thing.

I mean...it's easy to say...well I fucked up so who cares.

I refuse to let it happen.

I'm still in this guys.

I still need you.

I'm still here for you

Let's not let this thread die.

How are all of you doing???

DIVAAAAAaaaaaaa

Where are you?????

I love you momma, how are things??

Candace Louise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love You BACK!

I'm stuck on 23......<sigh> I was bad at the Super Bowl thingy......I had amazing BBQ <glaring at Ashton>....and amazing Guac <glaring at Arwen>......and amazing cake <glaring at myself>.

Ok...it wasn't amazing cake. (The frosting was.) But I ate it anyway.

I guess the GOOD part of that is that I left it at Oiler's & Denise's....I hope they threw it out. I was truly heinous.

Candace......we will do this thing! OH YES WE WILL! SAY it with me, everyone:

YES!

I

CAN!!!!!

amiyesiam · 02-10-2010, 05:19 PM

my thoughts on overeating
it happens.
It is not realistic or possible to be perfect. (if you manage it let me know 'k)

My fall back when thinking about weight issues is how do normal people eat?

Normal people: those that do not have any type of eating disorder, who eat what they want in moderation, don't obsess about food all the time, who manage a healthy weight for themselves(not necessarily thin), who are not on "diets", who don't count calories or weigh themselves all the time with out reason: (a reason would be a diabetic having to count carbs for insulin) and who can be reasonably active in their lives (based on ability, some are differently abled) and someone who stops eating when full most of the time and lastly someone who can have their favorite foods in the house without overeating them or obsessing about it.

So if my goal is to become a "normal eater" then I need to start with "normal" goals.

I am not going to expect "perfect behavior" from myself. It isn't possible so lets start with a reasonable expectations for behavior.

If, having set reasonable expectations, I globalize a mistake, (when say, you ate cookies and instead of thinking, I ate cookies, you think something along the lines of "I am a horrible person" "I hate myself" "I am a fat/ugly/disgusting person" then you are globalizing an action into what kind of person you are. This kind of thinking has to be challenged again and again. It is not healthy.

This type of global thinking happens for many people in lots of situations not just with overeating/weight loss. Sometimes, what people call self esteem I really think is having a realistic view of ones own humanity, an understanding that one will make mistakes, and having the ability to see a mistake as a mistake, not a reflection on who one is as a person. And really, if you think about it, it is really arrogant to think one can be perfect. If we all logically know no one is perfect, but then psychically slaughter ourselves when we make a mistake, are we not really saying/thinking "WE" shouldn't make mistakes? But we all have to make mistakes, why should "WE" be any different? Unless of course we, at some level, have different standards for ourselves.

If say, I hurt your feelings, I will be sorry and I will feel bad, will think about how to make sure it doesn't happen again. But no where along the line will I think I am a bad person or hate myself for making a mistake and hurting your feelings. I don't globalize my errors, except with food. I have spent 6 + months focusing and working on this area. I have made huge amounts of progress. I, (me, what I need, have to do, no one else LOL) want this last part of my head screwed on correctly.

I want to listen to my body, stop when I am full, eat when I am hungry, feel the difference between actual hunger and emotional hunger. And ya know what, if I listen and know I am hearing emotional hunger I can make a choice, I can chose to eat or not. And I can chose how much.

And another thing, cause apparently I am on a roll tonight, I can think I want something and STOP when I realize it doesn't taste good. Gosh how often do we think we want something and start eating and realize this doesn't taste so good, but we keep eating, not even liking it. Why would we eat stuff that isn't yummy? When you really stop and taste stuff so much of what you think is yummy isn't. Especially sweet stuff. So much stuff is to fatty, to sweet, to salty or just is bland with no flavor.

End of ramble!

Corkey · 02-10-2010, 05:24 PM

What a great ramble!

Arwen · 02-11-2010, 12:53 AM

Diva, the guac is in my fridge. I am going to stuff it in small baggies and leave it on your porch, oh yes I am!

But really...the guac is healthy as all get out! It's the chips that aren't. I'm going to experiment with squash slices to see if I can find a good dipping alternative.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it...unlike my lifestyle change.

canmarielan · 02-11-2010, 04:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Arwen

Diva, the guac is in my fridge. I am going to stuff it in small baggies and leave it on your porch, oh yes I am!

But really...the guac is healthy as all get out! It's the chips that aren't. I'm going to experiment with squash slices to see if I can find a good dipping alternative.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it...unlike my lifestyle change.

Wheat thins or baked tortilla chips work

christie · 02-11-2010, 05:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Arwen

Diva, the guac is in my fridge. I am going to stuff it in small baggies and leave it on your porch, oh yes I am!

But really...the guac is healthy as all get out! It's the chips that aren't. I'm going to experiment with squash slices to see if I can find a good dipping alternative.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it...unlike my lifestyle change.

I love dips. Guac, salsa, chipdip, cheese dips, hummus. You got a dip? I am THERE!

Depending on your lifestyle change, there are some no-carb options for "dippers".

The "biscuit slices" of country ham. I pan fry them so they crisp up. If they are too salty, my mother's trick of boiling the ham before you fry it does draw out a good deal of the salt.

Same with thick sliced bacon. Bacon, of course, should be on the food pyramid as its own food group, IMHO.

There are these "sandwich thins" that are kinda like a pita/english muffin combined. Toast them and then cut into tiny triangles. Especially tasty with hummus.

For the record, the last two days have SUCKED for me. I've had a cold and been starving!! I am certain that bacon/spinach/feta pizza isn't on the "feed a cold, starve a pizza" list. (But it should be - I could taste it!)

Here's to sticking with what we know to be better for us and not beating ourselves up for having a not so good day (or two, or three)!

Today is a brand new day, and I know that we can all do it!

Lady Jewel · 02-11-2010, 02:20 PM

Reminder that tonight is the weight loss support group meeting at 7PM PST/10PM EST. I am still dealing with double pneumonia and bronchitis so Spirit Dance has graciously agreed to run the meeting. The topic is "Emotional eating and ways around it".

Gemme · 02-11-2010, 07:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Arwen

Diva, the guac is in my fridge. I am going to stuff it in small baggies and leave it on your porch, oh yes I am!

But really...the guac is healthy as all get out! It's the chips that aren't. I'm going to experiment with squash slices to see if I can find a good dipping alternative.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it...unlike my lifestyle change.

Oprah had some cooking lady on (no idea, but I digress...) for the Super Bowl and suggested using fingerling potatoes, bake them, take them out, scoop out the middle, put a sheen of teriaki sauce on them to help them crisp up, stick them back in and when they are done, use them for your 'chips'. They're thicker, so they help you to feel full faster and are healthier than chips with all the middle out of them.

I am a white corn baked chip girl and a serving is STILL a whole 140-150 calories, depending on brand.

Diva · 02-12-2010, 10:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Arwen

Diva, the guac is in my fridge. I am going to stuff it in small baggies and leave it on your porch, oh yes I am!

But really...the guac is healthy as all get out! It's the chips that aren't. I'm going to experiment with squash slices to see if I can find a good dipping alternative.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it...unlike my lifestyle change.

Ohhhhh....that's harsh. But I must say....damn those chips! I could have just buried my whole face in that bowl!

OH! Healthy snack and a facial TOO!

Galahad · 02-14-2010, 01:53 PM

I have a new dip/dressing. I had a few tablespoons of basil pesto left in a jar and added it to a pint of TJs organic nonfat yogurt. It was really good. I made more. I've been eating much better now. Lots of salad and veggies with this on it. Homemade pesto would probably better healthier, less fat, but this is easy, I would end up not making it and eating something not good for me. I used this with some avocado as a sandwich filling with leftover salad too.

Gemme · 02-14-2010, 06:26 PM

I spent some time with a coworker last night, talking about our health and TDP site and food in general. She's got a low thyroid and takes meds for it, but she has such a difficult time getting healthier that's she's been very frustrated. I think our talk helped to renew her determination to eat better for herself and I credit this site and you all in here who've also done the same for me. Sure, I have less than stellar days, but it's my overall progress that counts and I always draw inspiration from you and this thread, so thank you all.

02-10-2010, 05:19 PM	#2
amiyesiam Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/they Relationship Status: single Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: pa Posts: 2,703 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,488 Thanked 10,135 Times in 2,161 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	my thoughts on overeating it happens. It is not realistic or possible to be perfect. (if you manage it let me know 'k) My fall back when thinking about weight issues is how do normal people eat? Normal people: those that do not have any type of eating disorder, who eat what they want in moderation, don't obsess about food all the time, who manage a healthy weight for themselves(not necessarily thin), who are not on "diets", who don't count calories or weigh themselves all the time with out reason: (a reason would be a diabetic having to count carbs for insulin) and who can be reasonably active in their lives (based on ability, some are differently abled) and someone who stops eating when full most of the time and lastly someone who can have their favorite foods in the house without overeating them or obsessing about it. So if my goal is to become a "normal eater" then I need to start with "normal" goals. I am not going to expect "perfect behavior" from myself. It isn't possible so lets start with a reasonable expectations for behavior. If, having set reasonable expectations, I globalize a mistake, (when say, you ate cookies and instead of thinking, I ate cookies, you think something along the lines of "I am a horrible person" "I hate myself" "I am a fat/ugly/disgusting person" then you are globalizing an action into what kind of person you are. This kind of thinking has to be challenged again and again. It is not healthy. This type of global thinking happens for many people in lots of situations not just with overeating/weight loss. Sometimes, what people call self esteem I really think is having a realistic view of ones own humanity, an understanding that one will make mistakes, and having the ability to see a mistake as a mistake, not a reflection on who one is as a person. And really, if you think about it, it is really arrogant to think one can be perfect. If we all logically know no one is perfect, but then psychically slaughter ourselves when we make a mistake, are we not really saying/thinking "WE" shouldn't make mistakes? But we all have to make mistakes, why should "WE" be any different? Unless of course we, at some level, have different standards for ourselves. If say, I hurt your feelings, I will be sorry and I will feel bad, will think about how to make sure it doesn't happen again. But no where along the line will I think I am a bad person or hate myself for making a mistake and hurting your feelings. I don't globalize my errors, except with food. I have spent 6 + months focusing and working on this area. I have made huge amounts of progress. I, (me, what I need, have to do, no one else LOL) want this last part of my head screwed on correctly. I want to listen to my body, stop when I am full, eat when I am hungry, feel the difference between actual hunger and emotional hunger. And ya know what, if I listen and know I am hearing emotional hunger I can make a choice, I can chose to eat or not. And I can chose how much. And another thing, cause apparently I am on a roll tonight, I can think I want something and STOP when I realize it doesn't taste good. Gosh how often do we think we want something and start eating and realize this doesn't taste so good, but we keep eating, not even liking it. Why would we eat stuff that isn't yummy? When you really stop and taste stuff so much of what you think is yummy isn't. Especially sweet stuff. So much stuff is to fatty, to sweet, to salty or just is bland with no flavor. End of ramble! __________________ A year from now you will wish that you started today~Karen Lamb

02-10-2010, 05:24 PM	#3
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Galahad Member How Do You Identify?: do I have to? Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: I.E. Southern California Posts: 425 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,300 Thanked 339 Times in 151 Posts Rep Power: 1446604	I have a new dip/dressing. I had a few tablespoons of basil pesto left in a jar and added it to a pint of TJs organic nonfat yogurt. It was really good. I made more. I've been eating much better now. Lots of salad and veggies with this on it. Homemade pesto would probably better healthier, less fat, but this is easy, I would end up not making it and eating something not good for me. I used this with some avocado as a sandwich filling with leftover salad too.