Single FTM's & Femme's

Leigh · 12-04-2011, 05:07 PM

Just came in to say hi to all of My fellow guys & the beautiful girls who enjoy us

ScandalAndy · 12-05-2011, 07:19 AM

I don't know where else to put this, but I have to get it out, so I hope you all don't mind me putting it here.

One of my close friends is in the beginning stages of transition. We went to Friendly's because he had just finished a long recording session, and I'm never one to turn down ice cream. As is my custom, I survey the table we are going to be seated at, and position myself to best avoid conflict. I noticed that the table to the left had two high school aged girls facing our table, and the table to the right was unoccupied, so of course I sat on the right so I could keep an eye on the high schooler situation. Five minutes after we sat down they both got up to "go to the bathroom" and peeked over at our table repeatedly as they passed. Fifteen minutes later one of them went to the bathroom again. As they were about to leave, both of them went to the bathroom AGAIN, and on their way back, as they're standing next to our table one looks at the other and says "oh my god you're right, it IS a girl".

They went up to the front counter and stood next to their mother and I turned ten shades of red. My friend looked at me with big eyes and said quietly "did that really just happen?" I had a five second debate with myself, tossed my phone on the table, and got up. I walked up to those two girls and I said to them "It is completely inappropriate to repeatedly walk by someone's table and look at their chest to try and determine their gender. Furthermore, you should use "he or she" if you think someone is a boy or a girl. The use of the word "it" is completely dehumanizing and utterly unacceptable." Then I turned around and went back to my table to try and comfort my friend, who was shattered by the whole experience.

I put my happy face on and joked, cheered up my friend, and kept an eagle eye on those two girls who were with their mother in the front entryway, gesturing wildly. Luckily, they left.

Our waitress came over to our table and asked if we needed anything else. I apologized for causing a scene, and she said "Honestly, I heard them talking but I had no idea they were harassing you. If I had known something was going to happen, I would have had it taken care of. I'm so sorry, they need to grow up".

I was so angry I was shaking, but I never once raised my voice with those girls, and our waitress was on our side. Now if only we could get to the point where people don't have to act like this and hurt others.

Thanks for listening, all. Let me know if this should be moved to a diff thread.

atomiczombie · 12-05-2011, 11:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

I don't know where else to put this, but I have to get it out, so I hope you all don't mind me putting it here.

One of my close friends is in the beginning stages of transition. We went to Friendly's because he had just finished a long recording session, and I'm never one to turn down ice cream. As is my custom, I survey the table we are going to be seated at, and position myself to best avoid conflict. I noticed that the table to the left had two high school aged girls facing our table, and the table to the right was unoccupied, so of course I sat on the right so I could keep an eye on the high schooler situation. Five minutes after we sat down they both got up to "go to the bathroom" and peeked over at our table repeatedly as they passed. Fifteen minutes later one of them went to the bathroom again. As they were about to leave, both of them went to the bathroom AGAIN, and on their way back, as they're standing next to our table one looks at the other and says "oh my god you're right, it IS a girl".

They went up to the front counter and stood next to their mother and I turned ten shades of red. My friend looked at me with big eyes and said quietly "did that really just happen?" I had a five second debate with myself, tossed my phone on the table, and got up. I walked up to those two girls and I said to them "It is completely inappropriate to repeatedly walk by someone's table and look at their chest to try and determine their gender. Furthermore, you should use "he or she" if you think someone is a boy or a girl. The use of the word "it" is completely dehumanizing and utterly unacceptable." Then I turned around and went back to my table to try and comfort my friend, who was shattered by the whole experience.

I put my happy face on and joked, cheered up my friend, and kept an eagle eye on those two girls who were with their mother in the front entryway, gesturing wildly. Luckily, they left.

Our waitress came over to our table and asked if we needed anything else. I apologized for causing a scene, and she said "Honestly, I heard them talking but I had no idea they were harassing you. If I had known something was going to happen, I would have had it taken care of. I'm so sorry, they need to grow up".

I was so angry I was shaking, but I never once raised my voice with those girls, and our waitress was on our side. Now if only we could get to the point where people don't have to act like this and hurt others.

Thanks for listening, all. Let me know if this should be moved to a diff thread.

Good for you for standing up for him! That's awesome. You are truly a good friend.

Heavenleahangel · 12-05-2011, 03:56 PM

Just popping in to say "Hi" to everyone! Been gone a while....

atomiczombie · 12-21-2011, 04:36 AM

*ahem*

<----single.

sarahwho · 12-28-2011, 09:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Heavenleahangel

Just popping in to say "Hi" to everyone! Been gone a while....

Me too! Thought I'd say hi again!

Leigh · 12-28-2011, 11:42 PM

Still single & hoping

Library_girl · 12-29-2011, 02:05 AM

(Ditto to my friend Matthew......still single and still hoping!)

I've been away from the Planet for a few weeks so I had to drop in and say hello. Too much work, not enough time for myself.

ScandalAndy, I appreciate your post about loneliness, and I love Liam's suggestion. I struggle with loneliness too, sometimes, as I'm sure many of us do. I'm guessing lots of us nodded our heads as we read that post. The holiday season doesn't make it any easier, right? Since I don't have a partner to spoil with gifts, baking, other special holiday stuff, I just give all of that "holiday spirit" to my niece and nephew, my dad, my friends, my employees. And when it comes to just plain old loneliness, I try to focus on other things, like family, friends, pets, work, anything to keep the brain occupied. Liam's idea is much better, though! But when my time is short, I just have to keep my brain busy. There are times I just HATE being single. Sure, there are a few good things about being single, and I even have married friends who envy my "freedom", and so on. (whatever!) I will happily trade in those little "advantages" any time, any day, no hesitation.

Ok, enough rambling!

GPS · 12-22-2011, 07:35 AM

Just wanted to wish you all a Happy Holiday Season!

veryfemme · 12-24-2011, 09:29 AM

I am a very femme single who loves sweet FTMs

I hope everyone has a great holiday season!

12-04-2011, 05:07 PM	#1
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Just came in to say hi to all of My fellow guys & the beautiful girls who enjoy us __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

12-05-2011, 07:19 AM	#2
ScandalAndy Member How Do You Identify?: human femme spitfire Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: it's official! Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: east coast USA Posts: 1,167 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,758 Thanked 3,217 Times in 753 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I don't know where else to put this, but I have to get it out, so I hope you all don't mind me putting it here. One of my close friends is in the beginning stages of transition. We went to Friendly's because he had just finished a long recording session, and I'm never one to turn down ice cream. As is my custom, I survey the table we are going to be seated at, and position myself to best avoid conflict. I noticed that the table to the left had two high school aged girls facing our table, and the table to the right was unoccupied, so of course I sat on the right so I could keep an eye on the high schooler situation. Five minutes after we sat down they both got up to "go to the bathroom" and peeked over at our table repeatedly as they passed. Fifteen minutes later one of them went to the bathroom again. As they were about to leave, both of them went to the bathroom AGAIN, and on their way back, as they're standing next to our table one looks at the other and says "oh my god you're right, it IS a girl". They went up to the front counter and stood next to their mother and I turned ten shades of red. My friend looked at me with big eyes and said quietly "did that really just happen?" I had a five second debate with myself, tossed my phone on the table, and got up. I walked up to those two girls and I said to them "It is completely inappropriate to repeatedly walk by someone's table and look at their chest to try and determine their gender. Furthermore, you should use "he or she" if you think someone is a boy or a girl. The use of the word "it" is completely dehumanizing and utterly unacceptable." Then I turned around and went back to my table to try and comfort my friend, who was shattered by the whole experience. I put my happy face on and joked, cheered up my friend, and kept an eagle eye on those two girls who were with their mother in the front entryway, gesturing wildly. Luckily, they left. Our waitress came over to our table and asked if we needed anything else. I apologized for causing a scene, and she said "Honestly, I heard them talking but I had no idea they were harassing you. If I had known something was going to happen, I would have had it taken care of. I'm so sorry, they need to grow up". I was so angry I was shaking, but I never once raised my voice with those girls, and our waitress was on our side. Now if only we could get to the point where people don't have to act like this and hurt others. Thanks for listening, all. Let me know if this should be moved to a diff thread. __________________ The joy of discovery is certainly the liveliest that the mind of man can ever feel. - Claude Bernard (1813-78)

12-05-2011, 03:56 PM	#4
Heavenleahangel Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Femme; Earth bound Angel and Babygirl; Preferred Pronoun?: She, Angel, as long as it's respectful Relationship Status: Waiting for the One who can complete me Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Albany, NY~but originally from Georgia Posts: 562 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,257 Thanked 2,068 Times in 468 Posts Rep Power: 18675554	Just popping in to say "Hi" to everyone! Been gone a while.... __________________ Sweet Georgia Peach

12-21-2011, 04:36 AM	#5
atomiczombie Member How Do You Identify?: Femmesensual Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Relationship Status: Dating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Rio Vista, CA Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,949 Thanked 3,220 Times in 759 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	ahem <----single. __________________ http://i277.photobucket.com/albums/k...orums_2000.gif Russian Unicorn http://occupiedmedia.us/

12-28-2011, 11:42 PM	#7
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Still single & hoping __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

12-29-2011, 02:05 AM	#8
Library_girl Member How Do You Identify?: Old School Femme, girl, babygirl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, & other girly words Relationship Status: Married to DJ Bear Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Happily married in Nevada Posts: 378 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,113 Thanked 1,247 Times in 280 Posts Rep Power: 13864640	Ditto (Ditto to my friend Matthew......still single and still hoping!) I've been away from the Planet for a few weeks so I had to drop in and say hello. Too much work, not enough time for myself. ScandalAndy, I appreciate your post about loneliness, and I love Liam's suggestion. I struggle with loneliness too, sometimes, as I'm sure many of us do. I'm guessing lots of us nodded our heads as we read that post. The holiday season doesn't make it any easier, right? Since I don't have a partner to spoil with gifts, baking, other special holiday stuff, I just give all of that "holiday spirit" to my niece and nephew, my dad, my friends, my employees. And when it comes to just plain old loneliness, I try to focus on other things, like family, friends, pets, work, anything to keep the brain occupied. Liam's idea is much better, though! But when my time is short, I just have to keep my brain busy. There are times I just HATE being single. Sure, there are a few good things about being single, and I even have married friends who envy my "freedom", and so on. (whatever!) I will happily trade in those little "advantages" any time, any day, no hesitation. Ok, enough rambling! __________________

12-22-2011, 07:35 AM	#9
GPS Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Daddy to my 5 year old.. Preferred Pronoun?: Banned 12/27/2012 - Former member came back under a new name Relationship Status: Enjoying Life Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: the south, is where i like it Posts: 505 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,820 Thanked 1,171 Times in 351 Posts Rep Power: 0	Just wanted to wish you all a Happy Holiday Season!

12-24-2011, 09:29 AM	#10
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539929	I am a very femme single who loves sweet FTMs I hope everyone has a great holiday season!