What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

AtLast · 12-21-2011, 09:03 PM

No lying, period. Even if my feelings could be hurt by something, I'd rather have the truth and deal with what it means.

Self-sufficiency and an adult- I am not a Daddy (no negative judgement of others in alternative types of relationships, this is just not for me).

Self-examined and aware that our actions do effect others- guess this is about not being entitled and unaware of others around us.

Have to add that I can't be with someone that drinks a lot. And I don't know if I would do well with a recovering alcoholic or other substance abuser to be honest.

Hummm... as an older person, I find that there are many things I just won't deal with that I may have in the past. Love and partnership is a wonderful thing, but I just don't have the same need for a relationship as I did earlier in my life. Maybe it is just that relationship variables have just changed as I have aged and I am used to and like living on my own. The last LTR (6 years, prior one 21 years), I did not live with my partner and it worked well for both of us. Although, we lived about 20 minutes from one another.

Gemme · 12-21-2011, 10:58 PM

And....you will tell me when I spell nonconsensual wrong.

BEFORE I post.

DapperButch · 12-21-2011, 11:39 PM

1) Integrity

2) The person prefers a stone partner

3) The person consciously works towards being the best self that they can be in all areas of their life (in love, in their work, in their mental health, in their financial choices, in their family relationships, etc.)

Butterbean · 12-21-2011, 11:42 PM

1. My toaster strudel is mine.

2. My toaster strudel is mine.

3. My toaster strudel is mine.

Some things are sacred.

foxyshaman · 12-22-2011, 12:05 AM

1. Don't spy on me. If I am doing something, it WILL be in the open. This girl is way too wise to hide.

2. I am not your "everything". We are separate entities. You can live without me. Proof - we met - therefore, you were alive previously.

3. Having super honed intuition gives me a tad leg up. Lie... I'll know. But you won't necessarily know I do. Self-Hanging is not fun to watch, but I won't intervene.

Just_G · 12-22-2011, 01:25 AM

I will say that three non-negotiables for ME:

1. The dogs sleep in the bed...they were here first

2. No Missouri Tiger fans. NONE. Zilch. Zero.

3. You've gotta like to go dancing! (and if you want to take some ballroom lessons with me, you get extra credit!!

)

ruffryder · 01-03-2012, 08:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Butterbean

1. My toaster strudel is mine.

2. My toaster strudel is mine.

3. My toaster strudel is mine.

Some things are sacred.

This reminds me of the subway commercial. He he.

kittygrrl · 01-03-2012, 09:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ruffryder

This reminds me of the subway commercial. He he.

(in a fix) toaster strudel rules

12-21-2011, 10:58 PM	#2
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12-22-2011, 12:05 AM	#5
foxyshaman Member How Do You Identify?: spiritually minded dirt dog Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: canada Posts: 898 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,957 Thanked 2,592 Times in 663 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	1. Don't spy on me. If I am doing something, it WILL be in the open. This girl is way too wise to hide. 2. I am not your "everything". We are separate entities. You can live without me. Proof - we met - therefore, you were alive previously. 3. Having super honed intuition gives me a tad leg up. Lie... I'll know. But you won't necessarily know I do. Self-Hanging is not fun to watch, but I won't intervene. __________________ Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. Muriel Strode

12-22-2011, 01:25 AM	#6
Just_G Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Switch, Comedian...G...whichever. Preferred Pronoun?: He....with an e! Relationship Status: I'll take kinky & twisted for $200, Alex!! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the middle Posts: 2,281 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 874 Thanked 6,165 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I will say that three non-negotiables for ME: 1. The dogs sleep in the bed...they were here first 2. No Missouri Tiger fans. NONE. Zilch. Zero. 3. You've gotta like to go dancing! (and if you want to take some ballroom lessons with me, you get extra credit!! ) __________________ Happy are those who dream and are ready to pay the price to make them come true! Last edited by Just_G; 12-22-2011 at 01:28 AM.

12-21-2011, 09:03 PM	#1
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,827 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	No lying, period. Even if my feelings could be hurt by something, I'd rather have the truth and deal with what it means. Self-sufficiency and an adult- I am not a Daddy (no negative judgement of others in alternative types of relationships, this is just not for me). Self-examined and aware that our actions do effect others- guess this is about not being entitled and unaware of others around us. Have to add that I can't be with someone that drinks a lot. And I don't know if I would do well with a recovering alcoholic or other substance abuser to be honest. Hummm... as an older person, I find that there are many things I just won't deal with that I may have in the past. Love and partnership is a wonderful thing, but I just don't have the same need for a relationship as I did earlier in my life. Maybe it is just that relationship variables have just changed as I have aged and I am used to and like living on my own. The last LTR (6 years, prior one 21 years), I did not live with my partner and it worked well for both of us. Although, we lived about 20 minutes from one another.

12-21-2011, 11:42 PM	#4
Butterbean Member How Do You Identify?: ---- Preferred Pronoun?: ---- Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: ----- Posts: 1,143 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,417 Thanked 2,215 Times in 771 Posts Rep Power: 17690475	1. My toaster strudel is mine. 2. My toaster strudel is mine. 3. My toaster strudel is mine. Some things are sacred.