FTM's Attracted to Femmes

veryfemme · 12-24-2011, 06:45 PM

hey ~Bo I am on the east coast and it is beautiful in FL but right now in my opinion it is way to hot for it to be Christmas!! I would like some 60 degree weather about now!

Kaison · 01-10-2012, 05:32 PM

I'm not sure it has ever occurred to me to date a butch or ftm I've always been into femmes.

1ladyface · 01-11-2012, 01:43 AM

High femme doesn't necessarily mean high maintenance. I keep myself high-femmified on my own with no assistance from my partner. I would never ask my partner to do my hair and makeup etc because I am self sufficient. And because that would be a disaster.

I really don't like the term high maintenance at all. I think it makes women question themselves and their needs which are usually perfectly reasonable. I love and respect my partners. And I'll only date someone who who loves and respects me. In my world that includes emotional maturity, communication skills and chivalry. I certainly hope that wouldn't earn me the "high maintenance" label. And I'd never expect my partner to pay my way or buy me expensive things. In fact, that would (and does) make me really uncomfortable.

My favorite Valentines day my partner and I were both underemployed and broke. I did the laundry in the morning after he'd gone to work and spelled out I love you in sweatsocks on the bed. He made a chicken and rice dinner that night and cut canned cranberry sauce rounds into hearts. We couldn't be fancy but we could still be good to each other.

1ladyface · 01-11-2012, 01:50 AM

And I thought the alternative to high femme was femme. Or vice versa. I've never heard anyone self-identify as low femme. Am I wrong? Are there self identified low femmes out there?

rande · 05-05-2012, 02:10 PM

I am an FTM/Stone....if one has to be in a box that's where I'd stand.
Personally I am highly attracted to the Femme energy, but that's just me.

We're all entitled to love who we want to love for crying out loud. The trick is to stop lying to ourselves, get out there on that dance floor and live.

Gender is a fluid thing...there are genders within genders, if you want to split hairs. To say one thing is wrong is to not understand the very nature of what gender identification and expression are all about.

It's highly personal...very individualistic....customized, if you will, to each person.

Just because I am deeply attracted to Femmes doesn't mean that's the only way for others to live. Heck no.

Let's celebrate love, not limits.

Great forum, great Planet. Thanks for being here!

morningstar55 · 05-05-2012, 02:41 PM

im single..... i never dated someone whom is FTM..
have had relationships and some dates whom id as stone..
im not even sure if Im even femme enough for some.. i mean i am a lady/girl/femme even though my job is not very lady like.. but i do see a lot of very femine women out there whom drive them big rigs.
im just a girl next door kinda girl.

some say i just hadnt met the right one yet......... well crap im 57 already.
im not holding my breath. i am lonely .. but i know im not desperate either.
maybe im doing something wrong.
anyways............. this is a interesting thread.
will subscribe........ annnnd guess i need to get to work...
have a awsome day/ weekend , everyone.

rande · 05-15-2012, 09:45 AM

Don't give up!
You're plenty feminine! Don't you dare think otherwise!
Driving a truck, far out! Nothing wrong with that!
Hell! Turns me right the heck on!

I like it when people are who they want to be, regardless of stereotyping and labeling.
There is someone out there for you. Hang in there.
Love's a funny thing, it sneaks up on you lots of times right after you've given up...then WHAMMO!

So don't worry...love is coming.
You don't have to change a thing...just be there for it.

You're perfect, just the way you are.

Julien · 05-15-2012, 05:24 PM

I thought I would peek around the curtain and say hello.

I am looking for a welcoming place to hang my hat. Good evening one and all.

Leigh · 05-15-2012, 05:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rande

Don't give up!
You're plenty feminine! Don't you dare think otherwise!
Driving a truck, far out! Nothing wrong with that!
Hell! Turns me right the heck on!

I like it when people are who they want to be, regardless of stereotyping and labeling.
There is someone out there for you. Hang in there.
Love's a funny thing, it sneaks up on you lots of times right after you've given up...then WHAMMO!

So don't worry...love is coming.
You don't have to change a thing...just be there for it.

You're perfect, just the way you are.

Sometimes we need to be reminded of these things and I thank you for posting this for us

Quote:

Originally Posted by Julien

I thought I would peek around the curtain and say hello.

I am looking for a welcoming place to hang my hat. Good evening one and all.

Welcome to the thread Julien, make yourself at home ~ visit anytime you like

Kent · 07-07-2012, 04:12 PM

Just a little bump...

pumpndude · 11-21-2016, 08:31 PM

OK, I'm a trans-guy that is only attracted to femme women.
all that I can say is it must be in my DNA....
I'm not attracted at all to butches, too manly for me in whatever way....

pumpndude · 12-04-2016, 09:56 PM

Hi to all, For me I'm only attracted to femme women...I don't know why, I just say it must be in my DNA...

They look so sexy and are so hot..

Gothy · 02-14-2017, 11:48 PM

I have also experienced the "youre too femme" treatment... and it has left me scratching my head. It also seems that guys are really intimidated by me and my ultra femmeness, either that, or all the glitter.

But seriously... I'm approachable! Talk to me! I'm starting to get a complex.

Ratcrazy · 02-22-2017, 03:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gothy

I have also experienced the "youre too femme" treatment... and it has left me scratching my head. It also seems that guys are really intimidated by me and my ultra femmeness, either that, or all the glitter.

But seriously... I'm approachable! Talk to me! I'm starting to get a complex.

"Too femme"??? No such a thing!

01-11-2012, 01:43 AM	#3
1ladyface Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: loved and loving Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: SF Posts: 86 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 65 Thanked 279 Times in 66 Posts Rep Power: 3368880	High femme doesn't necessarily mean high maintenance. I keep myself high-femmified on my own with no assistance from my partner. I would never ask my partner to do my hair and makeup etc because I am self sufficient. And because that would be a disaster. I really don't like the term high maintenance at all. I think it makes women question themselves and their needs which are usually perfectly reasonable. I love and respect my partners. And I'll only date someone who who loves and respects me. In my world that includes emotional maturity, communication skills and chivalry. I certainly hope that wouldn't earn me the "high maintenance" label. And I'd never expect my partner to pay my way or buy me expensive things. In fact, that would (and does) make me really uncomfortable. My favorite Valentines day my partner and I were both underemployed and broke. I did the laundry in the morning after he'd gone to work and spelled out I love you in sweatsocks on the bed. He made a chicken and rice dinner that night and cut canned cranberry sauce rounds into hearts. We couldn't be fancy but we could still be good to each other. __________________ xoxo -ladyface http://www.1ladyface.blogspot.com

01-11-2012, 01:50 AM	#4
1ladyface Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: loved and loving Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: SF Posts: 86 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 65 Thanked 279 Times in 66 Posts Rep Power: 3368880	And I thought the alternative to high femme was femme. Or vice versa. I've never heard anyone self-identify as low femme. Am I wrong? Are there self identified low femmes out there? __________________ xoxo -ladyface http://www.1ladyface.blogspot.com

05-05-2012, 02:41 PM	#6
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	im single..... i never dated someone whom is FTM.. have had relationships and some dates whom id as stone.. im not even sure if Im even femme enough for some.. i mean i am a lady/girl/femme even though my job is not very lady like.. but i do see a lot of very femine women out there whom drive them big rigs. im just a girl next door kinda girl. some say i just hadnt met the right one yet......... well crap im 57 already. im not holding my breath. i am lonely .. but i know im not desperate either. maybe im doing something wrong. anyways............. this is a interesting thread. will subscribe........ annnnd guess i need to get to work... have a awsome day/ weekend , everyone. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

05-15-2012, 05:24 PM	#8
Julien Member How Do You Identify?: TG/GenderQueer Preferred Pronoun?: I'm flexible, but only up to a point. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Alabama, Gulf Coast area Posts: 1,007 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 2,702 Times in 737 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I thought I would peek around the curtain and say hello. I am looking for a welcoming place to hang my hat. Good evening one and all. __________________ Julien “Self-plagiarism is style.” Alfred Hitchcock Formerly known as Graphiteta2s

07-07-2012, 04:12 PM	#10
Kent Member How Do You Identify?: Male Relationship Status: Single Tournaments Won: 2 Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: TX Posts: 1,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,564 Thanked 2,058 Times in 720 Posts Rep Power: 19241326	Just a little bump... __________________ Kent

12-24-2011, 06:45 PM	#1
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539929	hey ~Bo I am on the east coast and it is beautiful in FL but right now in my opinion it is way to hot for it to be Christmas!! I would like some 60 degree weather about now!

01-10-2012, 05:32 PM	#2
Kaison Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Transmale Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: UK Posts: 12 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 37 Times in 7 Posts Rep Power: 15	I'm not sure it has ever occurred to me to date a butch or ftm I've always been into femmes.

05-05-2012, 02:10 PM	#5
rande Junior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: May 2012 Location: san francisco Posts: 9 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 111 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 0	I am an FTM/Stone....if one has to be in a box that's where I'd stand. Personally I am highly attracted to the Femme energy, but that's just me. We're all entitled to love who we want to love for crying out loud. The trick is to stop lying to ourselves, get out there on that dance floor and live. Gender is a fluid thing...there are genders within genders, if you want to split hairs. To say one thing is wrong is to not understand the very nature of what gender identification and expression are all about. It's highly personal...very individualistic....customized, if you will, to each person. Just because I am deeply attracted to Femmes doesn't mean that's the only way for others to live. Heck no. Let's celebrate love, not limits. Great forum, great Planet. Thanks for being here!

05-15-2012, 09:45 AM	#7
rande Junior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: May 2012 Location: san francisco Posts: 9 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 111 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 0	Don't give up! You're plenty feminine! Don't you dare think otherwise! Driving a truck, far out! Nothing wrong with that! Hell! Turns me right the heck on! I like it when people are who they want to be, regardless of stereotyping and labeling. There is someone out there for you. Hang in there. Love's a funny thing, it sneaks up on you lots of times right after you've given up...then WHAMMO! So don't worry...love is coming. You don't have to change a thing...just be there for it. You're perfect, just the way you are.

11-21-2016, 08:31 PM	#11
pumpndude Member How Do You Identify?: Good Guy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Dec 2015 Location: Sonora, CA Posts: 108 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 211 Times in 70 Posts Rep Power: 1503251	OK, I'm a trans-guy that is only attracted to femme women. all that I can say is it must be in my DNA.... I'm not attracted at all to butches, too manly for me in whatever way.... __________________ Everything Ending Is Also A Beginning We Just Don't Know It At The Time

12-04-2016, 09:56 PM	#12
pumpndude Member How Do You Identify?: Good Guy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Dec 2015 Location: Sonora, CA Posts: 108 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 211 Times in 70 Posts Rep Power: 1503251	Hi to all, For me I'm only attracted to femme women...I don't know why, I just say it must be in my DNA... They look so sexy and are so hot.. __________________ Everything Ending Is Also A Beginning We Just Don't Know It At The Time

02-14-2017, 11:48 PM	#13
Gothy Junior Member How Do You Identify?: NB\trans (fluid) Preferred Pronoun?: They Relationship Status: Anarchist Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Humboldt County, CA Posts: 79 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 101 Thanked 278 Times in 49 Posts Rep Power: 2480521	I have also experienced the "youre too femme" treatment... and it has left me scratching my head. It also seems that guys are really intimidated by me and my ultra femmeness, either that, or all the glitter. But seriously... I'm approachable! Talk to me! I'm starting to get a complex.