Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

[*Anya*]

I am the femme that is a port in the storm for the butch that has the courage to go out into an unaccepting, unforgiving world to be exactly who and what they are

I am the femme that is the keeper of butch secrets

I am the femme in whose lap lays a butch who needs solace but will never tell another living soul about that need

The butch card will never be revoked by me.

I am strong and at times, weak; brave and at times, fearful; courageous and at times-not-so-much

I am an every-woman and at the same time, uniquely me

I am femme

[Dominique]

I'm too sexy for my self!

I discovered velcro rollers (reminds me of sponge curlers way back when)
I love what they do for my hair, and no more heat treatment.

[Slowpurr]

I know who I am not....which is more poignant at the moment and of course leads to self knowledge.

I am not that femme who can be with someone who says "I can be butch".

I am not that femme who can be with someone who says "I can do that for awhile until we figure out why you are like you are".

[disinterested]

I don't wear a dress to our date, but I'll look great.
I'll have spent hours in bath and in front of my garderobe.
My shoes fit to my scarf and I'm wearing jewelry all over.

If you need to be cool - not opening the door for me and divide the bill -
it will be the first and the last date.
I don't need your macho attitude, but i adore you, if you're sure of yourself, charismatic, individual woman with bright eyes and sweet smile.

I've got a responsible position and I hope you found your way in life, too.
Have my flat, my car, my cat and all other stuff I need to life, and want to share with you, if you know, how to value.

I exactly know what I don't want and I'll let you know - in a roundabout way.

I love sarcasm, irony and wordplay - practicing every day.

yes ... and I'm typically Sagittarius - can love 180 percent on one day and will be bored out on the next

[SweetJane]

What kind of femme am I? Hmm.
I used to think I was a tomboi femme because I love to camp, fish, hike, and learn to do my own car repairs.....But you know that's not all that I am.

Maybe I'm a bluejean femme who feels more comfortable in tight jeans and a t-shirt but I might pair it with a white rabbit ski jacket in the winter...There is still a fierce femme in me.

I can do business casual well and can strut into a meeting with confidence and a little bling.

I can also do high opera with a long black gown, hair just so, and a smile that will get you. But the high heels are a thing of the past and showing leg is only for the bedroom---though I have a dream this year of wearing a pair of red heel and a killer skirt slit up to my thigh.....

Femme is an attitude. It's confidence. It's just who I am.

It's also my gentle approach with people, though I can nail you to the wall with words if you abuse me with your snarky attitude.

Femme is also my approach to life and living.

[Lady Pamela]

Pardon me for bouncing..but I loved this thread and want to see if anyone else wanted to post in it. smiles

[yotlyolqualli]

What kind of femme and I?

I am the kind of femme who likes to wear jeans, skirts, shorts and dresses equally. I very rarely wear/use makeup. I've worn heels twice in the past year and both times told myself "never again!" They HURT!

I am the kind of femme who likes to get her hands dirty. Nothing like running my fingers through freshly overturned soil. I love gardening, though I hate weeding.

I am the kind of femme who will dress somewhat modestly, but not matronly. If/when I am with someone, that person only, gets to see anymore than what I show the world, both figuratively and literally.

I can paint my nails and do sometimes, but never mourn one that gets broken.

I am a nurturer by nature. I am strong enough to carry heavy items, independent enough to think and act under my own volition and clever enough to build a deck.

I am a femme who knows how to use tools, even power tools (except my pretty purple and lime green chainsaw....*sighing). I have swung a hammer in my lifetime, as well as a maul and an axe.

I am the kind of femme who will cook for you, sew buttons on your shirts or fix a tear or patch a hole. I will bake for you, care for you and even cede things to you. However, I will not cater to you.

I am the kind of femme who hates housework, but will do it because it's "my job" and I've yet to find someone to do it for me. My Mother used to say that that was why she had so many children.

Finally, I am me. Unique, sometimes odd, often sarcastic (light heartedly most of the time) often vulnerable, but strong enough to mend my own wounds and strengthen my own weaknesses. I love deeply and protect fiercely.

I may not be the perfect femme. I may not be high maintenance. I may not be ultra girly. But if I were, then I wouldn't be me and I LIKE me and love being me.

PS. to compensate for my pretty chainsaw being taken away by my father (he was afraid for my safety) I went out and bought a pretty orange and purple fishing pole. When I told my brother this, he rolled his eyes, took my "fly fishing rod" away, and gave me one for the kind of fishing I ws attempting to do. It was an ugly brown

[spritzerJ]

I am the femme:
- that languishes without tripping the cognitive triggers of whatever interests me at the moment.
- that would protect you with devotion but you'll have to tell me how. Since you are unique and deserves to be treated just so. And I am a terrible guesser
-who doesn't dress to get attention of lots of eyes. I dress up for the ones I want. For those that holds open the safe space to be girly.
- will expose herself to show you the energy within worth stroking.
- you'll have to catch giggling and dancing when I think you aren't looking. If you want me to be that open about it you'll get to lead the way.
- who blossoms in space and closeness.
- that knows the power in silence but must be reminded.
- who struggles mightily with being vulnerable and needs to be told to let go over and over.

there is more... there's always more.

[macele]

now, today, first time seeing this thread. i started on last page (i sometimes read books that way), and as i'm reading ... the posts keep getting better and better. so i thought, ok, lets go to the beginning and read ... just for moods sake. after reading medusa's post, i don't know how anyone could follow lol. i say this respectfully. high five to medusa. i will continue reading ... you all tell your femme mighty fine.

[kittygrrl]

but why would i want to limit who i am by your imagination or my own?..i live and our realities are recreated and merge moment to moment- how can i put words or labels to define that?..impossible..just sayin..

[starryeyes]

I am a girly femme. I love dressing up, make up, hair, and I am usually the most dressed up person wherever I go.

I am an independent femme. I own my own house, I pay my own bills, I have my own business, I own my own car... yadayada, you get the picture!

But, at the same time, I am a dependent femme. I need a strong partner I can depend on, who will take care of me, who will make me feel safe and secure, and who puts me first.

I am a loving femme. I love hard and strong. I am very faithful to the person I am with, and also my friends and my family. I take care of the person that I am with, and always put them first.

I am a sensitive femme. I get hurt easily, I get attached very easily, I fall love way too easily and I cry at movies, sad stories, whatever.

I am a proud femme. Proud to be queer, proud to love butches, proud to be girly, and proud of who I have become.

But overall, I feel I am a pretty awesome femme. I love who I am, who I have become and the prospects of my future!!

Femmes rock!!!!

Smiles!