Being Friends with an Ex - How Long

hopelessromantic69 · 01-05-2012, 10:38 PM

The list is not long, but I have a decent relationship with all of my ex's. My ex husband of 9 years (who is staying with me for the holidays to see our boys and is nice enough to be doing the dishes right now lol), my ex partner of 10 years and the very few after that who have enriched my life in one way or another. One was a pain in my ass but it was worth it

It really comes down to maturity. I believe two mature people can depart without getting nasty as long as each person owns their stuff and doesnt try and blame the other for all the woes of the relationship.

It takes time to heal and minimal contact might be wise if there are hard feelings.

Rivkeh · 01-05-2012, 11:00 PM

Sometimes I have been able to and sometimes not, it depends on the circumstances at the time and the relationship. Ideally I think it's a great option if you can, considering all the time you may have spent together, and the experiences you have been through.

starryeyes · 01-06-2012, 12:05 AM

I am friends with all my exs except one. It just depends on the person I guess. I undertand why it is hard though. Watching someone that you love move on and form other relationships is challenging.

01-05-2012, 10:38 PM	#1
hopelessromantic69 Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: all male Relationship Status: Single but unavailable Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Eugene OR Posts: 394 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 108 Thanked 478 Times in 195 Posts Rep Power: 3686584	Friends with all my ex's The list is not long, but I have a decent relationship with all of my ex's. My ex husband of 9 years (who is staying with me for the holidays to see our boys and is nice enough to be doing the dishes right now lol), my ex partner of 10 years and the very few after that who have enriched my life in one way or another. One was a pain in my ass but it was worth it It really comes down to maturity. I believe two mature people can depart without getting nasty as long as each person owns their stuff and doesnt try and blame the other for all the woes of the relationship. It takes time to heal and minimal contact might be wise if there are hard feelings. __________________ Stefan

01-05-2012, 11:00 PM	#2
Rivkeh Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: In formal settings...Miss Relationship Status: Wrapped up with a Shiny Red Bow Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Australia Posts: 221 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 211 Thanked 447 Times in 127 Posts Rep Power: 3852911	Sometimes I have been able to and sometimes not, it depends on the circumstances at the time and the relationship. Ideally I think it's a great option if you can, considering all the time you may have spent together, and the experiences you have been through. __________________ -Rivkeh-

01-06-2012, 12:05 AM	#3
starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,050 Times in 2,076 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I am friends with all my exs except one. It just depends on the person I guess. I undertand why it is hard though. Watching someone that you love move on and form other relationships is challenging. __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry