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01-17-2012, 04:22 PM
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the Butch I am
Those 5 letters are just a "description of me...and in NO WAY makes who I am inside or in my heart!
I am a true southern gentlewomyn...with manners, courtesy, respect, and gentleness abounding. I am of the old fashioned, old school breed...one who will open doors, pull out chairs, walk on outside of and offer arm to a lady, help her with her coat, even helping to get her hair out from under the collar and prettily displayed against her soft shoulders. I will wait for her....patiently..never rushing her., as she gets dressed for our date. I will look at her with tears in my eyes when she emerges from her room...seeing how stunningly beautiful she looks!!! I will shop with her for hours, carrying her parcels. I will rub her feet as we sit in the food court sipping an ice cold beverage while she regains her momentum to "shop til she drops" again! I will order for her if I am acquainted with her likes and dislikes, OR if she tells me what she would want, and I will give the whole order. I am attuned to her at all times. I will always appreciate her...as she is an incredible gift...she has given of herself to me..and I can be entrusted with that awesome gift! I "get", comprehend, and validate Her feminine mystique! I wil always acknowledge her, validate her existence, and put her above all else. I will watch chick flicks with her, wiping away tears at the sappy parts, and handing those same tears back to her as diamonds. I will be teary eyed and sensitive along with her. I will cherish her like a true and priceless trasure she is. I will never take her for granted! I am a best friend...to many I am a confidant, one that keeps those things sacred! I will hold her sacred in all ways..sharing intimacy only between ourselves! I will lay down my life for the woman I love and who owns my heart! She will have my undying loyalty and committment should our hearts beat as one. I will treat her like an equal, always..and we will walk side by side...never "owning" one another....yet connected by our hearts! I can cook, clean, mow a lawn, fix a flat, iron a silk piece (steam it rather) mend a boo boo with a kiss and a bandaid, and I can fight fiercely for our lives. I have won many battles on the battlefield of life..and that is who I am today..a culmination of love past..love lost..and love remains a constant in my heart..never making me jaded, cynical, or bitter. I chose those pathways, and I walked them...I took lessons from them, and made changes from them..positive changes.... So I am many things....an incredibly devoted friend, a loyal companion, a soft hearted, sensitive, compassionate gentle womyn...and it is nye impossible to "describe" one's self..for in the end..what really matters is who you are when with another person...words are just descriptions..so I am a human being with an amazing heart and I have moral compass, and turpitude. I am old fashioned, and old schooled...as I will always, always put the ladies first..and when I meet HER..she will decide for herself what kind of a BUTCH I am..as she will see deeply inside and know my heart..that is where my "butch" lives.
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01-27-2012, 03:34 AM
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Timed Out - Permanent
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I saw this tonight and loved it so much. I wanted to share it and thought this might be the place for it.
 A Butch Roadmap by Ivan Coyote My favorite part: "Other Butches are not your competition, they are your comrades." If I could get my fellow Butches to all believe in and agree on one thing, it would be that. |
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01-28-2012, 03:05 PM
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Aries,blue eyes,six foot,stubborn,hot blooded fire sign .. And true to my sign. Like a bull in a china shop in most situations. Speak first,think later .. On a softer side I am kind,caring,sensitive .. And I have a wicked sense of humour. I like lengthy hugs and kissing sessions. I love being fussed over =]
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01-28-2012, 03:08 PM
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wow, I am loving this thread. A reminder to this femme of why she LOVES butch women!
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01-29-2012, 11:49 AM
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Practically Lives Here
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I am that butch who will wrap you inside my presence, affording you that warmth, security, sense of protection that you desire.
I am that butch who will leave you a single rose on your windshield just because...I wanted you to know I was thinking of you... I am that butch who will get out of bed at 300am, drive to the store to get you that chocolate covered, creme filled doughnut and coffee...just because you wanted it..and come back and feed it to you... I am that butch who will hold you when you are frightened, scare away monsters, and cover you, whispering to you til you fall asleep again...and watch over you while you sleep I am that butch who will admire your fierceness and independence yet respect the babygrrl in you and your need for me.... I am that butch who will slay a thousand dragons, make you a s'mores by a campfire, who will run you a hot bath with candles and soft music, bathe you, pamper you, and kiss you all over... I am that butch who will provide a shelter for you when you need it...with my big butchness... I am that butch who will write you silly love letters in the sand...on the mirror with your lipstick, make you a peanut butter & jelly sandwich...to comfort you if need be... I am that butch who will walk by your side..for life...when we are One Heart, One Love joined... I am that butch who will seek comfort in your arms when my world is all jumbled and I am having a bad day I am that butch who will seek your arms to hold me when I cry (Yes, butches do cry, too) I am that butch who will hold you when you cry, grabbing your tears in my hands and handing them back to you as diamonds... I am that butch who is mesmerized by you..each and every time..who will acknowledge, validate, and resonate within you.... I am that butch who knows and respects that a femme can bring me to my knees...with her feminine mystique, sensuality, and her mysteriousness I am that butch who will never profess to knowing what makes my femme tick BUT I will damned respect that and be her all..in every way.. I am that butch....a hopeless romantic, passionate lover, devoted companion, and wait for you...here and now.... 
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01-29-2012, 01:51 PM
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I am a butch that is as tired of the stereotypes and generalizations made about butches as I am of transmen and femmes- all of the identities that are a part of this community.
Butch is simply one aspect of who I am. A positive part along with many other things that add up to me. |
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01-29-2012, 05:55 PM
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I wear labels- each one explains something, none are contrary, each one – sought, questioned, embraced- They are etched into my belt.
 I enjoy the company of everyone who flags queer. I don’t need complete sentences to understand what a person who has walked in Butch shoes for many years is trying to say; and for those new to just finding those shoes, I feel a little ache as I know the challenges that lay ahead for them. As a Butch I understand the struggle and strength of the Femme, the role that each played in allowing me to walk tall, for letting me see in myself what only they could. I am Butch because others walked before me and demanded the name; I am Butch because a Femme risked everything to tell me and everyone looking our way that I am wanted. I am Butch the noun. I do not understand butchy, butch-like, or sometimes butch. I am old enough and have ventured far around the globe enough to carry the scars that the politic of any given day inflicted. I am the kind of Butch who does not laugh easily, and who has to consciously make an effort to smile in order to make someone feel at ease. I am the kind of Butch who detests bullying and without thought will rise to the occasion. I am the kind of Butch who carries OFOS expectations and struggles with the concept that it is not universal within the community. I am the kind of Butch who finds pleasure in every single day, feels deeply others sorrow, finds wonderment in the extraordinary, relishes lessons learned, and finds amusement in the ridiculous..... and I am the kind of Butch that you would have to know well to see that.
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06-03-2012, 02:09 PM
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03-15-2012, 07:06 AM
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Practically Lives Here
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03-18-2012, 09:17 PM
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Thanks for this thread
I have changed so much in the last 8 months I need time to think on this and at the same time I am at the core who I have always been....
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03-21-2012, 10:10 AM
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Still pondering this but
I see that the person I have become is the person I have always been. Thanks again for this thread..........
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06-10-2012, 09:56 AM
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To describe the Butch that I am I must start with what I am not.
I am not into camping or any other activity where I may not be the most comfortable. I have reached and age and a place in my life where staying in a nice, comfortable and even luxurious hotel is the best option. I am not into fishing, although I will go if it means spending a nice day out. I am not into fixing things, finishing to-do lists or any other stereotypical thing attached to the Butch label. My time is too valuable as are my hands. I used to fix things when I was younger, now I can afford to pay someone to do it and spend my time doing wiser things. I am not into shooting, guns or any form or kind of violence. In fact, I have never been into any fights, been hit or hit someone. I am not old-school or new-school. I am not into pissing contests; I have better things to do. What I am: a mother, first and foremost, and I don’t have any problems correlating the two, butch-mom. I am a lover of femmes and all that they bring with them. I am an intellectual. I am a thinker. I am a reader, writer, teacher, and friend. I am passionate. I am a pain the ass sometimes. I am perfectionist, see above. I am aware of my downfalls, and I do have a few, but will be the first to tell you what they are. I have been to places and in situations some of you would never even think of. I can be your best ally or your best adversary. I have worked very hard on myself and have done a lot of work to get where I am. I am very comfortable in my own skin. I am who I am; I do not need or seek your approval to be exactly who I am. Most of all, I am ever changing and my gender ID is fluid. So please, do not box me into your idea of what or who a butch is. |
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And from my lips hye drew the hallelujah 
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06-06-2012, 10:45 AM
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This is definately one of my favorite threads on all of the Planet
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06-10-2012, 08:13 AM
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Ok gonna do it..
The job came up for bid that i have been waiting for..I have had a hand full of months to think about it..I knew it was comming..Tomorrow is the day i make my move..[literally]. The thing is that i have to go on day shift for 6 weeks to be trained.. That isnt a problem..I am on midnights now and love it..The guy that will be training me i absolutely cant stand.!!.He feels the same about me..At least we agree on that..How much can you learn from a guy that doesnt like ya..I can deal with all that..Here is the thing..It has been quite a few years ago but he was making comments about the lifestyle i live..I would hear it from a friend what he was saying..Didnt like that and felt uncomfortable..
I need to gather all my Butch strength and go in there and learn that job and deal with him..The up side to all this is he will be retiring the first of the year..Eventually i will work my way back on nights and work with the guy that is my friend and learn from him all i need to know.. My butchness will be put to the test and i will see how much of that will be forced out by that idiot..I am in a better place with my lifestyle that i live and can handle people a little better than in the past.. I need to take a step back and look at the big picture..I get a small pay raise and i will work with my brain but will still have physcial work..A big change as to what i am doing now..I will also be getting away from people i have worked with for 20 years..I just gotta wait it out..Now i will find out what kind of butch i am in the work place knowingly setting myself up to people that do not approve.. Ya know what..??. i will be ok..I need to do this.. s..
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