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rustedrims · 01-18-2012, 07:24 AM

Hey Blueeyes kinda know how you feel..I got a call at 7:00am on saturday morning and i was in the Funeral Home at 4:00pm..Not something we like doing and didnt plan that for my saturday but i gotta be there for my friend of many years..Her Dad died..He was a Good Guy..I dont think we ever get over loosing someone..We just figure out how to survive after our losses..Sorry to hear about your friend..

wishing everyone a good rest of the week

s..

blueeyes226_l · 01-18-2012, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by rustedrims

Hey Blueeyes kinda know how you feel..I got a call at 7:00am on saturday morning and i was in the Funeral Home at 4:00pm..Not something we like doing and didnt plan that for my saturday but i gotta be there for my friend of many years..Her Dad died..He was a Good Guy..I dont think we ever get over loosing someone..We just figure out how to survive after our losses..Sorry to hear about your friend..

wishing everyone a good rest of the week

s..

Rustedrims,I'm sorry about your loss. You any his family are in my prayers.

blueeyes226_l · 01-18-2012, 08:02 PM

I know if I had passed away my friend would be there for my family. I want to be there how ever on the way home tonight after looking for dress pants and dress shirt I did't find a thing in the stores. How ever I didn't come home with out any thing. I came in the back door with a ticket in my hand``I got picked up. My n.y. Inspectsion was out dated by 3 mounths. Great. I couldn't drive it till it gets inspected. I will have to call to try to get it done in the A.M. because,I got to go out of town....And life goes on....LOL

blueeyes226_l · 01-19-2012, 01:16 PM

I called this A.M. and I take the car in at 3:30 P.M. But,kind of late to go for pants and shirt in Hornell. I might try it. I need something to ware. I don't want to use my jeans because I have to roll the pant legs. I'm short legged so a 30 in linth is too long I need a 28. I will come up with something.

Rustedrims, How are you doing hun?
The Dr. called here today and said Mrs....... I said no I'm her daughter. He started telling me about my moms health. I couldn't belive it....Some Dr. Oh well,I know partly what is what. My Mom has polyps and at her age they are cancer and if she can stand taking the surgery they will do it. This is what the Dr. said to me. I know i don't want any thing to happen to my Mom. How ever I know God will call her home when its her time.

rustedrims,I want to share something with you. Yes,he isn't here in body but,He will be with you and his family as long as you have memery of him in your heat. I know its very hard. I'm at peace about my dads passing over years ago. I have peace about that Because,I knew if he lived longer the death he would have wood be much worce. Now about my brother,I do not have peace about his death. The Hospital killed him he had a horrable death. My brothers son wasn't going to let me see him because,I was gay. He made trouble between Mom and I. Belive me it was a typ of h_ l_. The last thing my brother said to me I'm pi_ _t at you and will not for give you. That hurt me so deeply.
My brother and I was very close. My main point I'm trying to make Our love ones who have passed over are still with us in are hearts. I hope you don't mind me shareing this with you in a post and not just between you and I. I hope this will help you and any one who needs to read this. Lately things I have helped people with it seems like I'm going through the same things. I guess maybe because,I need to do what I "preach".
I have not met any of you nice people on here but,I do care about all of you. You all are very careing.

Nadeest · 01-20-2012, 05:06 AM

Blueeyes226_l , I'm sorry that your nephew was such a jerk to you. He should not have been. So many people do not realize that we are just being true to ourselves and that this is NOT a choice that we have made.
I hope that your brother forgives you, and pray that he does, in time. I think that he will. To my mind, simply because we no longer inhabit our bodies does not mean that the essential 'us', or as some would put it, our soul, dies. We simply go to another plane of existence.

blueeyes226_l · 01-20-2012, 09:33 AM

Hey Nadeest.
Yes,I agree with you.
I know Christ walked on this earth after He gave up his life. You see I belive a persons "solo" can stay here if there is something that wasn't completed befor they leve earth. "My Nephew" also he stold from my Mom and me. After my brother passed over at the lunch after his thing my partner at the time was with me,we was saying are bys cause we was going home I asked my partner if she was ready to go home "my nephews" wife said Oh I thought you ware the pants ,your the boss not her cause your the butch. She said this so othere family members that didn't know I was a Lesnian. Wow did I get looks from Family and friends of the family. Just befor all of this happened her very rude breat was very rude and nasty to my partner. I tryed to get a hold of him to tell Mel he was sorry. He was too fast for me so,he got out of the house and ran to his momme, he was a teenager. I have nothing to do with my nephew,his wife and his son. Belive we he did more things then what I have typed in here.

Hey have a great day all.

blueeyes226_l · 01-21-2012, 12:53 PM

Nadeest, I added you as a friend and contack on here.

01-18-2012, 07:24 AM	#1
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,125 Thanked 2,554 Times in 368 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Hey Blueeyes kinda know how you feel..I got a call at 7:00am on saturday morning and i was in the Funeral Home at 4:00pm..Not something we like doing and didnt plan that for my saturday but i gotta be there for my friend of many years..Her Dad died..He was a Good Guy..I dont think we ever get over loosing someone..We just figure out how to survive after our losses..Sorry to hear about your friend.. wishing everyone a good rest of the week s..

01-18-2012, 08:02 PM	#3
blueeyes226_l Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch-I am who I am Relationship Status: single and looking Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: near Olean,N.Y. Posts: 119 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 37 Thanked 107 Times in 57 Posts Rep Power: 172	I know if I had passed away my friend would be there for my family. I want to be there how ever on the way home tonight after looking for dress pants and dress shirt I did't find a thing in the stores. How ever I didn't come home with out any thing. I came in the back door with a ticket in my hand``I got picked up. My n.y. Inspectsion was out dated by 3 mounths. Great. I couldn't drive it till it gets inspected. I will have to call to try to get it done in the A.M. because,I got to go out of town....And life goes on....LOL

01-19-2012, 01:16 PM	#4
blueeyes226_l Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch-I am who I am Relationship Status: single and looking Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: near Olean,N.Y. Posts: 119 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 37 Thanked 107 Times in 57 Posts Rep Power: 172	I called this A.M. and I take the car in at 3:30 P.M. But,kind of late to go for pants and shirt in Hornell. I might try it. I need something to ware. I don't want to use my jeans because I have to roll the pant legs. I'm short legged so a 30 in linth is too long I need a 28. I will come up with something. Rustedrims, How are you doing hun? The Dr. called here today and said Mrs....... I said no I'm her daughter. He started telling me about my moms health. I couldn't belive it....Some Dr. Oh well,I know partly what is what. My Mom has polyps and at her age they are cancer and if she can stand taking the surgery they will do it. This is what the Dr. said to me. I know i don't want any thing to happen to my Mom. How ever I know God will call her home when its her time. rustedrims,I want to share something with you. Yes,he isn't here in body but,He will be with you and his family as long as you have memery of him in your heat. I know its very hard. I'm at peace about my dads passing over years ago. I have peace about that Because,I knew if he lived longer the death he would have wood be much worce. Now about my brother,I do not have peace about his death. The Hospital killed him he had a horrable death. My brothers son wasn't going to let me see him because,I was gay. He made trouble between Mom and I. Belive me it was a typ of h_ l_. The last thing my brother said to me I'm pi_ _t at you and will not for give you. That hurt me so deeply. My brother and I was very close. My main point I'm trying to make Our love ones who have passed over are still with us in are hearts. I hope you don't mind me shareing this with you in a post and not just between you and I. I hope this will help you and any one who needs to read this. Lately things I have helped people with it seems like I'm going through the same things. I guess maybe because,I need to do what I "preach". I have not met any of you nice people on here but,I do care about all of you. You all are very careing.

01-20-2012, 05:06 AM	#5
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077998	Blueeyes226_l , I'm sorry that your nephew was such a jerk to you. He should not have been. So many people do not realize that we are just being true to ourselves and that this is NOT a choice that we have made. I hope that your brother forgives you, and pray that he does, in time. I think that he will. To my mind, simply because we no longer inhabit our bodies does not mean that the essential 'us', or as some would put it, our soul, dies. We simply go to another plane of existence.

01-20-2012, 09:33 AM	#6
blueeyes226_l Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch-I am who I am Relationship Status: single and looking Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: near Olean,N.Y. Posts: 119 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 37 Thanked 107 Times in 57 Posts Rep Power: 172	Hey Nadeest. Yes,I agree with you. I know Christ walked on this earth after He gave up his life. You see I belive a persons "solo" can stay here if there is something that wasn't completed befor they leve earth. "My Nephew" also he stold from my Mom and me. After my brother passed over at the lunch after his thing my partner at the time was with me,we was saying are bys cause we was going home I asked my partner if she was ready to go home "my nephews" wife said Oh I thought you ware the pants ,your the boss not her cause your the butch. She said this so othere family members that didn't know I was a Lesnian. Wow did I get looks from Family and friends of the family. Just befor all of this happened her very rude breat was very rude and nasty to my partner. I tryed to get a hold of him to tell Mel he was sorry. He was too fast for me so,he got out of the house and ran to his momme, he was a teenager. I have nothing to do with my nephew,his wife and his son. Belive we he did more things then what I have typed in here. Hey have a great day all.

01-21-2012, 12:53 PM	#7
blueeyes226_l Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch-I am who I am Relationship Status: single and looking Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: near Olean,N.Y. Posts: 119 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 37 Thanked 107 Times in 57 Posts Rep Power: 172	Nadeest, I added you as a friend and contack on here.