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i am extremely concerned about the economy and my families well being. I am a single mom with 3 kids, and my son's boyfriend lives with us also. I went through a break up in 2009 that left me in financial ruin and I am also making much less money than I used to earn.
I am barely scraping by, yet I know that I have it better than a lot of people. I live in a suburban area and I don't have a yard for a garden, but I plan to use containers this spring to grow food. I keep saying if I ever win the lottery I want to buy land and build a self sustained farm that is organic and humane to animals. (not that owning livestock can ever be humane, but as humane as possible). But, I don't know the first thing about farming. I find it so sad that we are being poisoned by the crap that is manufactured andante that animals are treated so harshly. I would love to come out some weekends and help, when it warms up a bit...that is if I can afford the gas. I've heard it is supposed to go way up...which means the price of food is going to go up even higher. My mom owns a large plot of land in West Virginia and many times, lately, I have contemplated moving there and seeing if I could talk them into starting an organic farm. I don't think a lot of people are seeing the writing on the wall. Most of America is asleep at the wheel. There are lots of web sites on emergency preparedness and survival training. My 14 year old is constantly watching the videos. he has a bug out bag that has a few essentials inside. We also have a pantry with extra water and flood, but I don't think we could survive for more than a week. Plus, society in America has become so much more violent. If people are hungry, they will fight and kill for the food. Not all, but there will be some who would. I haven't read all the thread, so I apologize for redundancy. The reality that things are going to get worse economically for the middle and lower class is a real possibility, if not inevetable. I am learning to appreciate the little things in life and be grateful for what I do have, but I can't say that I'm not really scared. Things can get really crazy in the world really fast and those that aren't prepared are going to have a really hard time. I am grateful for this thread because hopefully some people will see it and take measures before it is too late. Also, I use freecycle to get things for free (and to give things away) and I also use couponmom.com for saving on groceries when I have time. Which, unfortunately isn't often. ( hopefully there aren't too many typos...I did this from my phone)
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If you need seeds I'll send you some. If you need laying hens you gotta come get them. But on craigslist you can probably buy chicks pretty cheap in the spring. I feel safer on land then I would in the city. each year I put in more fruit bushes and trees. My hope is to get a shower and potty built by the barn so people can at least camp out and help develop the land.
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I did buy a little herb garden today :-). I don't know much about farming. I would need to look into it some more. I'd want to find out how to become certified organic. I'd also like to build some cabins and have a little writers retreat or something like that. This particular area could use a decent cultural type center. There is not much to do around there. I would like to open up a used/new bookstore and maybe a coffee shop or bar and have theme nights and live music, maybe a thrift store too. (couldnt do the shop on my mom's land...there is a river and the only way to get to the propery is a long walk over the swinging bridge or to drive a vehicle through the shallow part of the water. The best part of moving is most of my family is there and it would be nice to be near my family. It is also very isolated...I probably wouldn't have many friends and it is highly unlikely that I'd find anyone that I could date. LOL there are probably only 2 lesbians in the entire town! LOL, if that many :-). I'd love to have a writers resort or a couples retreat on the property. I don't think there are any horse farms, but my aunt and uncle own about 3 horses. I just don't know how I would survive until I started to make money and I'm also worried about health insurance. I'll give it more thought and talk with my mom more about it. it would be a big move, but I'd have lots of help, love and support from my family. (again typing from my phone...my cat destroyed my router by knocking over a glass of water onto it!)
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I talked to my mom last night and she is going to talk to her husband and then I'm going to do a bit more research. It sounds like a good idea in theory. Probably, if something doesn't give here within a year, I will move to WVA. In the meantime, I will do as much research as I can :-)
The thought of growing a real watermelon from non-genetically modified seeds is almost enough to motivate me to make such a change right away! Haven't had a good watermelon since I was a kid!
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What exactly are you waiting to see happen? I feel the best course of action, especially if you have kids, is to move towards safety and sustainability. I do know you need income. Is it possible for you to get some kind of job where your mom is? Sometimes it takes a leap of faith and learning as you go. You're lucky that you have some little helpers. Pull your family together, make a plan and start moving in that direction. If you'd like to come down some weekends and help I'm sure you'll learn a lot and meet some great people.
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I'm waiting for my son to graduate. Unfortunately, the last 5 years have been crazy in my world and my sons had to change schools 4 times. (I went through a really bad breakup in 2009 that really impacted our lives) so I don't want to move him another time.
The other issue is my 14 year has some medical problems that need to be resolved before I move and I found out he has to have 2 more surgeries :-(. I am also thinking about going back to school to be a social worker. I am giving it serious consideration, but I can't move just yet. My eldest son's boyfriend (he is 18) lives with us and he also has another year until he graduates. I'm certainly keeping the idea in my head as a possibility. I wish I had a crystal ball to see what the best choices were, but I guess that would take the fun out of life. :-). I would like to know more about some of the struggles people have had setting up a farm, and also about issues such as health insurance and things like that. I was thinking, if I got a degree in Education, I could work at a school in the area and do farming in the summer. Life is so full of complicated decisions. I know I long for a more simple life :-) Thank you all for your support and advice :-)
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A site that I find very helpful is http://rodaleinstitute.org/ there is lots of valuable articles, market studies, etc. Decide on a clear plan based on your ability. If you have a few teenage son's grab your tent and bring their butts down here to help us! lol You'll learn a lot. Once we get ramped up our goal is to not only operate a successful organic farm business for the farm family but to teach other women to start up and operate the same. Hopefully we'll have some clear grant and loan options. Anyhow, much of this will be discussed in the thread. If you and your boys decide to come down let me know. I can help you with gas and feed you while you are here. We really could use some strong backs to clean up the greenhouse area and start tilling very soon.
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aishah my apologies please.
I meant to say that you seem like someone that could help teach others. If someone is disabled and able to articulate the way that you do and some of the things you are passionate about, it seems you would be a great asset to teach people. I know a woman right now that is in a wheel chair and has lost use of one whole side of her body. She works for an organization I am networking with as a record keeper and also provides the organization with countless research. She was so passionate about food safety that she taught herself these skills, how she could be valuable and then offered her services free for a chance to prove what she could do. Needless to say, years later she is an employee and very proactive for the cause.
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i do teach people, i just don't get paid for it. i also have many other skills and have worked a number of other jobs, they just don't involve lifting more than 5 lbs or standing up for more than 5 minutes. or having decent balance, a great memory, the ability to focus for long periods of time, etc. etc.
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Folks; This also seems to me to be a nice place to visit or hunker down. Over 3-400 acres of lesbian-owned land for 25,000 per two acre plots. http//:alapine.org/
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Actually now that I think about it I did email and make contact with these women right after I bought the farm. We exchanged a few ideas and I asked them how they got started. For many years there was a woman who published a guide of all the available women's land. She had an ad in the Lesbian Connection.
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This is a very interesting article about how a household of 7 people live together on only 21.00 a day.
http://www.verdant.net/sharedhousing.htm
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As you read it you'll see that their mortgage is over 2000.00 a month! Can you imagine in other parts of the country where its cheaper? I know a couple that was laid off from huge companies (IBM-HP) earning over 100K a year. When they were laid off they could no longer afford the huge mortgages and car payments they had. They were forced to foreclose on their homes. They sat down and came up with a great plan and its working. In fact they are in NC, just south of me. Both couples walked away from their homes. They rented a house in the country with a few acres of land. Nothing fancy. They kept ONE car and a truck. Three of them went to work and one stayed home. The jobs they were able to get were nothing close to what they were use to but they easily paid their overhead and two of them work part time. The rest of the time they car pool each other, grow all of their own food and take some to the market. They bought a big oven and one of them bakes bread and other baked goods bringing in a few hundred a week just from those sales. No one is killing themselves and they will all tell you that they are happier then they have ever been. They are healthier, more at peace and relationships stronger.
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yeah, mortgages in oakland are ridiculous. unfortunately that area is still one of the best places to find other radical organizers, sustainability oriented folks, etc. for shared housing - i have lots of friends who live in community living situations out there, especially disabled folks. one of the reasons i love kansas is because of the low cost of living here. when i first moved out here people were trying to talk me to moving out to the bay area because of how much awesome organizing is happening there, but imho the idea that if you are radical or into sustainability or other social justice issues you should move to the bay/portland/toronto/new york is really damaging - that vision is not sustainable for the future. we need to be community building and organizing everywhere, not just four cities in the u.s. even if it is easier to move to where the building is already happening. that's one of the reasons i love the allied media conference (it's a social justice conference that focuses on a lot of different issues - i do disability justice work there - but they have sustainability tracks as well as community tech tracks and other tracks) - allied media projects is doing in detroit what we need to be doing everywhere - actually bringing these principles into our own communities rather than moving where it's already easy to practice them, if that makes any sense.
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forgot to add - sachita, that is one of the things i love about the model you are building (& sharing with other women). that it is accessible to different communities/built on a model that is actually sustainable. versus a lot of folks i've seen doing sustainability organizing work in a way that is in reality unsustainable in a lot of communities. if that makes any sense.
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not entirely no lol I know what it needs to be. Who the people are that make it happen, I don't know. I'd love for it to be all queer but I'm more interested in good humans who don't get caught up in labels. I think it would be cool to have a very diversified group of people- kinky, poly,BF, spiritual, whatever. we come together for a much much bigger concept and although different we appreciate everyone's "thing". My main motivation is to build a small loving community that focuses on food safety and teaching others to do the same. Thats why I am posting here and want to share with all of you. I would love to see more of you ban together and do what I hope to do.
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"We live in a technological age and have the notion that every problem has a technological solution. In the process, we've lost the experience of magic in our daily lives. Self-sufficient living allows us to experience magic daily, and it's wonderful: the magic of germination, decomposition, the cycling year, the relationship between soil and plants, the diversity of birds and insects and how they do this great wheeling, complex dance." — Harvey Ussery
No matter where you live or where you are in your journey toward self-sufficient living, you'll be inspired by the accounts and advice shared by Harvey and eight other modern homesteaders in our piece below. http://www.motherearthnews.com/moder...z12fmzkon.aspx
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*Do people who think "government is too big" expect that Wal-Mart, or their hedge fund will rescue them today from their flooded house or to help their elders evacuate? *How many more disasters will it take until people consume less (generally), and consume more things that are grown locally and sustainably (specifically)? *Did you know that NYC built their low-income housing in flood zones, and so the poorest and most needy of the area's residents have been without elevators, hot water and heat since Sunday? *How will poor people in areas with no power vote for elected officials who oppose global corporate capitalism? How will anyone vote if there's no power at their polling place? Oh wait, mega-corporations are people now, so they will be fine to vote. *What can we learn from this storm, and all the "100 year storms" that happen annually in these days?
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