older femmes

clay · 01-22-2012, 10:36 AM

nor have I.....all the sandboxes are welcoming...and they all play nicely!!

ButchEire · 01-22-2012, 10:55 AM

Speaking for myself, it's about a femme's maturity, which has nothing to do with age. Not sure where you're feeling like you don't fit in but certainly, if people attempt to make you feel uncomfortable or unwelcome, it isn't your problem, it's theirs.

Scuba · 01-22-2012, 11:08 AM

Make that another who has not been subjected to ageism. I spend most of my time in the threads and very little in chat but have found both places very welcoming nonetheless. I agree with ButchEire...don't the let the actions of a few ruin your experience here.

Cheers,

Scoobs

ArkansasPiscesGrrl · 01-22-2012, 03:50 PM

As a femme who will turn 60 next month (Holy shit, batman!), I think for ME, any ageism I may have felt was probably self-inflicted. And projected. I have been scared, and self-conscious about my age, figuring that there would be no one out there who would want someone like ME. Bah!

I have spoken to a few butches on here, that may have started out "hot and heavy" and yeah, they may have cooled soon after we BOTH found the difference in ages. No problem, no foul, what we ended up with is a friendship. I *like* friends, don't know about anyone else.

I have come to accept just what an amazing woman I AM, what a great wonderful hot catch I will be, and no one but ME can take that away from me. I have decided to guard that about me now. I know there are some young studs that may just not get what I could offer. Truth be told, I don't actually think I WANT to offer that to just anyone anymore. I want to offer my best to someone that can actually take it and appreciate it for what it is.

Personally, I am talking to a woman right now, a butch that is going to be 48 next month. We talked about the age difference, long and hard. She has only ever dated women her age or younger, never someone older at all. She and I both had to decide if this is something that we could work with. We have decided to take a chance and continue getting to know each other. Great!

I will tell you this.... she told me this morning when I spoke to her, that I was "scary hot".... I wasn't sure what that meant or if I should be offended and hurt... she said that she has never known a woman who has as much to offer, physically, emotionally, mentally, intellectually as I have shown in the time I have known her. She wants more... of ME, the almost-60 yr old woman! How cool is THAT????

You will find someone. We all will. I only know for ME that I had to find ME first before someone else could find me, and appreciate me.

Lady Pamela · 01-22-2012, 04:29 PM

Pssst...Maturity is a sexy quality..smiles
And I have noticed most people on here value it highly.

There has been a couple times I was degraded here..actually almost left. But much to my suprise..people stopped me.

I really do not think this is about AGE honestly.

I see it more as people acting imature due to seeing something in you they lack. Or that they want and are threatened.

Pay it no mind..it goes away shortly...smiling

Be proud of your age..You earned every second, every grey hair and every beautiful wriknle you have.!

Apocalipstic · 01-22-2012, 04:47 PM

How older?

There seem to be a whole sexy set of Butches of all ages into older Femmes!

Liam · 01-22-2012, 09:48 PM

I'm fairly confident that there are more attributes that play into who we are attracted to, than age—its the whole package.

01-22-2012, 10:36 AM	#1
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01-22-2012, 11:08 AM	#3
Scuba Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Flying Solo Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: PNW Posts: 2,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,749 Thanked 8,047 Times in 1,618 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Make that another who has not been subjected to ageism. I spend most of my time in the threads and very little in chat but have found both places very welcoming nonetheless. I agree with ButchEire...don't the let the actions of a few ruin your experience here. Cheers, Scoobs __________________ https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/-X...etuwo1_500.jpg ~~Bob Richardson~~

01-22-2012, 04:29 PM	#5
Lady Pamela Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A Lady..Femme..Free Spirit with a touch of survivalist woman in me. Preferred Pronoun?: Spiritual Warrior..She Ra..Baby Doll, or anything close..ha! Relationship Status: In perfect love and perfect trust I believe that will be directed..for now Just friends in my life. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Live in Utah but take trips to Arkansas. Plan to move there eventually. Posts: 2,579 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,073 Thanked 5,939 Times in 1,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Pssst...Maturity is a sexy quality..smiles And I have noticed most people on here value it highly. There has been a couple times I was degraded here..actually almost left. But much to my suprise..people stopped me. I really do not think this is about AGE honestly. I see it more as people acting imature due to seeing something in you they lack. Or that they want and are threatened. Pay it no mind..it goes away shortly...smiling Be proud of your age..You earned every second, every grey hair and every beautiful wriknle you have.! __________________ Believe what people show you the first time. It will keep you in balance, and will show you truth! ~~ Author unknown ~~ When negative thoughts come to mind, Let them die stillborn. Speak and do posotive in any situation, And watch your dreams grow and flurish. If you can't say anything posotive, Zip it up. Do not give birth to that which you do not want to see grow. See it, Believe it, Own it, Have it! ~~ Lady Pamela ~~

01-22-2012, 04:47 PM	#6
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	How older? There seem to be a whole sexy set of Butches of all ages into older Femmes! __________________

01-22-2012, 09:48 PM	#7
Liam Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Guy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The Evergreen State Posts: 2,269 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14,865 Thanked 6,875 Times in 1,860 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I'm fairly confident that there are more attributes that play into who we are attracted to, than age—its the whole package. __________________ <3 Love is weird.

01-22-2012, 10:55 AM	#2
ButchEire Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanent ban 3/17/2013 - TROLL Relationship Status: Partner to my best friend Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: For now, Buffalo Posts: 701 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,618 Thanked 1,872 Times in 485 Posts Rep Power: 0	Speaking for myself, it's about a femme's maturity, which has nothing to do with age. Not sure where you're feeling like you don't fit in but certainly, if people attempt to make you feel uncomfortable or unwelcome, it isn't your problem, it's theirs.

01-22-2012, 03:50 PM	#4
ArkansasPiscesGrrl Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Relationship Status: feeling pretty darned blissful right now! Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: central AR Posts: 856 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,594 Thanked 3,079 Times in 741 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	As a femme who will turn 60 next month (Holy shit, batman!), I think for ME, any ageism I may have felt was probably self-inflicted. And projected. I have been scared, and self-conscious about my age, figuring that there would be no one out there who would want someone like ME. Bah! I have spoken to a few butches on here, that may have started out "hot and heavy" and yeah, they may have cooled soon after we BOTH found the difference in ages. No problem, no foul, what we ended up with is a friendship. I like friends, don't know about anyone else. I have come to accept just what an amazing woman I AM, what a great wonderful hot catch I will be, and no one but ME can take that away from me. I have decided to guard that about me now. I know there are some young studs that may just not *get* what I could offer. Truth be told, I don't actually think I WANT to offer that to just anyone anymore. I want to offer my best to someone that can actually take it and appreciate it for what it is. Personally, I am talking to a woman right now, a butch that is going to be 48 next month. We talked about the age difference, long and hard. She has only ever dated women her age or younger, never someone older at all. She and I both had to decide if this is something that we could work with. We have decided to take a chance and continue getting to know each other. Great! I will tell you this.... she told me this morning when I spoke to her, that I was "scary hot".... I wasn't sure what that meant or if I should be offended and hurt... she said that she has never known a woman who has as much to offer, physically, emotionally, mentally, intellectually as I have shown in the time I have known her. She wants more... of ME, the almost-60 yr old woman! How cool is THAT???? You will find someone. We all will. I only know for ME that I had to find ME first before someone else could find me, and appreciate me.