older femmes

SugarFemme · 01-23-2012, 12:19 AM

Unless I am totally oblivious, and I can honestly say I am not. I have NEVER encountered any issues regarding my age. I am fifty. AARP won't let me forget it, as they send me a membership kit every single month. (I'm NOT gonna join, so quit sending em LOL) I personally like myself better at fifty than I did even when I was forty. I am more comfortable in my own skin. I know what I want. Where I have been and where I want to end up. I feel like I really came into who I am in the past few years. Everyone is different, but this is my experience.

Dude · 01-23-2012, 11:01 AM

I love that this thread is in the troubleshooting section.

Dude · 01-23-2012, 12:27 PM

Linus · 01-23-2012, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Dude

I love that this thread is in the troubleshooting section.

Ya. I think I'm gonna be moving this into the Femme section as it's not really a troubleshooting or Question about the website itself (which is what this forum is for).

Linus · 01-23-2012, 12:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Linus

Ya. I think I'm gonna be moving this into the Femme section as it's not really a troubleshooting or Question about the website itself (which is what this forum is for).

After discussing this with the mods, Medusa pointed out the Fine Wine forum. This is a more appropriate location for this thread.

Dude · 01-23-2012, 12:38 PM

I think a troubleshooting section for
relationship's is genius. not sure it would really help but
I hear what your laying down.

eh now my post's wont make sense
but what else is new

Linus · 01-23-2012, 12:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dude

I think a troubleshooting section for
relationship's is genius. not sure it would really help but
I hear what your laying down.

eh now my post's wont make sense
but what else is new

Heh.. could be dangerous. A relationship troubleshooting thread in the Relationship forum makes sense. BUT would need heavy caveats as it could lead to some serious drama if questions asked aren't done with appropriate consideration.

Hollylane · 01-23-2012, 12:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Linus

Heh.. could be dangerous. A relationship troubleshooting thread in the Relationship forum makes sense. BUT would need heavy caveats as it could lead to some serious drama if questions asked aren't done with appropriate consideration.

Perhaps in the redzone

Linus · 01-23-2012, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Hollylane

Perhaps in the redzone

Uh... no. The Red Zone does not automatically equal "Let me rip on X because they did a, b, c and such to me and I don't like them!". And anyone who suggests it again will have the Poodle with the Evil Eye following them around. I'll script it in if need be.

Ginger · 03-14-2012, 06:54 PM

If you live in the United States and I guess just about anywhere else on the planet, you're going to be subjected to cultural ageism. After all, it sells products!

I think it's true though, that many women's communities are less ageist than the general culture. In the straight culture—not that there's just one straight culture—but in general, a woman in her forties or god forbid, older, really doesn't have a statistical prayer in finding a partner.

On the other hand, lesbians, butch-femme people, others in the women's communities, can find lots of people their age looking to date.

For the sake of full disclosure, I will say that about five or six years ago I noticed in a butch-femme dating site I won't name (because it really is a good site and I wouldn't want to discourage people from using it), that most of the butches my age were looking for women at least ten years younger than they were! I felt very discouraged.

But now I don't think that's the norm; it could have just been a fluke or some little cultural eddy I got pulled into; some trend of defiantly emulating the worst of straight culture, who knows. But I do know it doesn't seem a trend, at least in the little peeks at butch-femme culture I get these days.

And besides, women's communities tend to be less sexist, and the less sexist a group is, the less likely they are to devalue a woman because she is aging. Hence, I like it here!

kittygrrl · 03-15-2012, 04:23 PM

Job market but otherwise, I haven't noticed or maybe I don't want to

Dude · 01-23-2012, 12:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Linus

Heh.. could be dangerous. A relationship troubleshooting thread in the Relationship forum makes sense. BUT would need heavy caveats as it could lead to some serious drama if questions asked aren't done with appropriate consideration.

you had me at

heavy caveats

Bella~Vita · 01-23-2012, 12:53 PM

I am an older femme, I didn't always like saying it until the last few years. But I've come to realize it's a privilege that I embrace within myself. I 'm proud of the lessons i 've experienced whether good or bad. How else could I have learned things in life? So for all you older planeteers and the young ones following in our footsteps ... be proud of getting older !

PS: If I knew I would of lived this long I would of taken better care of myself so take this piece of advice and run with it

01-23-2012, 12:27 PM	#3
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	cant resist posting this

01-23-2012, 12:53 PM	#13
Bella~Vita Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: where salt is used for Margaritas not Snow Posts: 891 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,049 Thanked 1,322 Times in 443 Posts Rep Power: 7157596	I am an older femme, I didn't always like saying it until the last few years. But I've come to realize it's a privilege that I embrace within myself. I 'm proud of the lessons i 've experienced whether good or bad. How else could I have learned things in life? So for all you older planeteers and the young ones following in our footsteps ... be proud of getting older ! PS: If I knew I would of lived this long I would of taken better care of myself so take this piece of advice and run with it __________________ ~ I believe that pleasing everyone is impossible..... but pissing everyone off is a piece of cake ~

01-23-2012, 12:19 AM	#1
SugarFemme Member How Do You Identify?: Fierce Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Singular Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Southwest Posts: 1,029 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 650 Thanked 4,458 Times in 854 Posts Rep Power*: 21474851	Unless I am totally oblivious, and I can honestly say I am not. I have NEVER encountered any issues regarding my age. I am fifty. AARP won't let me forget it, as they send me a membership kit every single month. (I'm NOT gonna join, so quit sending em LOL) I personally like myself better at fifty than I did even when I was forty. I am more comfortable in my own skin. I know what I want. Where I have been and where I want to end up. I feel like I really came into who I am in the past few years. Everyone is different, but this is my experience.

01-23-2012, 11:01 AM	#2
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I love that this thread is in the troubleshooting section.

01-23-2012, 12:38 PM	#6
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I think a troubleshooting section for relationship's is genius. not sure it would really help but I hear what your laying down. eh now my post's wont make sense but what else is new

03-14-2012, 06:54 PM	#10
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,295 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	If you live in the United States and I guess just about anywhere else on the planet, you're going to be subjected to cultural ageism. After all, it sells products! I think it's true though, that many women's communities are less ageist than the general culture. In the straight culture—not that there's just one straight culture—but in general, a woman in her forties or god forbid, older, really doesn't have a statistical prayer in finding a partner. On the other hand, lesbians, butch-femme people, others in the women's communities, can find lots of people their age looking to date. For the sake of full disclosure, I will say that about five or six years ago I noticed in a butch-femme dating site I won't name (because it really is a good site and I wouldn't want to discourage people from using it), that most of the butches my age were looking for women at least ten years younger than they were! I felt very discouraged. But now I don't think that's the norm; it could have just been a fluke or some little cultural eddy I got pulled into; some trend of defiantly emulating the worst of straight culture, who knows. But I do know it doesn't seem a trend, at least in the little peeks at butch-femme culture I get these days. And besides, women's communities tend to be less sexist, and the less sexist a group is, the less likely they are to devalue a woman because she is aging. Hence, I like it here!

03-15-2012, 04:23 PM	#11
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: Fae Relationship Status: just for fun Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,634 Thanked 22,019 Times in 7,121 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	Job market but otherwise, I haven't noticed or maybe I don't want to