Bringing It Up: Describe The Butch You Are - Page 2

rockstar lover · 06-24-2012, 08:24 AM

I put the soft in soft-butch (kind/gentle hearted).
I am a jeans & t-shirt kind of butch (big surprise!).
I can be shy & socially awkward at times. But after about 3 drinks...watch out!
I am an old fashioned kind of butch...opening doors & bringing flowers

I am a minimalist...I don't like to clutter my life with expensive possessions that don't mean anything.
I have no sense of style! I'll wear what's comfortable and the decor..(what's that?!). I need a femme's touch to decorate lol.
I've worked hard all my life and I always have stable employment.
Friends and family are very important to me.
I am passionate & compassionate to others, kind, sweet, and romantic. But if you dare hurt someone I care about....watch out! This kitten can turn into a tiger!

I am organized, methodical, and a planner (typical capricorn).
I am working on being more spontaneous & learning that I can't always know what's going to happen.
I love music and am a singer (in a choir). I don't do the solos or karaoke!
I am affectionate & loving. I want the woman I'm with to feel like she's the most important person in the world.
I love kisses, snuggles, cuddles, backrubs, etc. Touch is very important to me. It expresses how we feel without any words.
Only in the last year I've been able to express & explore different aspects of my sexuality. It's an exciting journey & I've got lots of time to make up for!!
Oh, and I'm a quick learner!
Don't be afraid to ask for something. You'll more than likely get it.
I am open minded and always willing to try something new.
There's not much I wouldn't do for someone I care about. I'd give you the shirt off my back...then promptly cover up lol.
I have a weird sense of humor. Things seem to be more funny in my head lol.
I have a big heart with a lot to give. I hurt big...but I love big too.
Should anyone decide to trust me with their heart...it will be safe with me...

rustedrims · 06-24-2012, 11:27 AM

Had a flash mob of hungry catz at the sliding door.They were hungry..Hummm i dont understand the urgency..I fed them yesterday..

Anyway..
My dad passed away in feburary so i have been spending alot if time helping mom at her house and my stuff is not getting done.We were not allowed to clean,pick things up,throw things away and dont pull weeds..Now we are..My sister,brother and i are getting things done at the house..We are on 3 different times so we go over when we can..Kinda funny how that works out cause we are never there at the same time but we are getting things done for mom..We are now allowed to clean,pick things up,throw things away and i am pulling weeds and getting poison ivy..It is looking good around there..Mom is happy when we come and happy when we leave and espically me..I wear on her nerves..I approach "projects" like a bulldozer..I am aware that i do that and i have reduced my bulldozer energy to Tonka Truck size..Mom is happy about that..The thing is i do things when she is sleeping and when she isnt there..She says "Yeah when i got home i saw the burn barrel smoking"...I say "Yeah i found some junk/trash i wanted to get out of the way BUT.!! None of it was GOOD.!!!.Then she glares at me and i smile back..I told her friday that i wasnt going to do any more than mow the yard cause i want to get back to digging up my back yard for my patio..That is what i wanted to do this weekend..She said ok..
Sooooo The phone rings 9:30am saturday..Its mom.."Lowes just called Hey my bathroom is in.!!."ok give me an hour i'll come and get the reciet..Left my house at 10:30am and got all her stuff and stacked it neatly in the garage..Ok what about the shelf thing..??.{she ordered that from another store}..Ohh that is in to..Ok i will go get it..Could you drop off my perscription while you are in town to yeahhh..Did all that and walking to the truck to leave..Mom says when you come back i have another project for you..I stopped walking..Tell me what it is..The day was already shot..Change a lightbulb in the hall..My sister made an attempt and couldnt figure out how to get the globe off..Turn that little screw the whole things comes apart..I told mom to tell my sister having all that college education didnt help her change a light bulb..shaking my head..Ended up changing the other one also and whiping it off..Finally got home at 5:00pm..Well not digging in the dirt today..The day is gone..

Looking in the garage..Bought 2 sparkplugs oil and filter for the bike on friday..{almost walked out of that store with another bike}..Ok i will do the bike stuff before dark..Cant be that hard..Take out and replace..Ummm no..Gotta take the seat off and gas tank..Pull all the hoses..That tank was giving me a real hard time..Spent a while trying to get that thing off..Made 1 phone call to my brother and told him what i was doing and he said i was right to keep doing what i was doing..Still couldnt get that thing off..I kept stepping back and thinking i need help cause i dont know what i am doing..I messed around with my other bikes but not this one..How hard could it be..??..The stubborness over rode my need for help..This thing was not going to beat me..Took a few more things off and there was a bolt i missed..Took that off and the tank was in my hands..Made me smile i got it..Started to change the plugs and that socket was a little tricky to use also..Figured that out to and i had those bad plugs out and new ones in in seconds..Put everything back on with the help of my flood light cause it is now dark..Putting that seat back on would make Jesus Christ cuss..That was tough but i got it..Hit the starter and the bike took right off..I smiled hit the throtle a few times zoom zoom on the road again..Thinking i would ride it tomorrow..Then the thing slowly quit running..Great i was thinking..What did i do wrong.??.Hummm..Stepped back looked at the bike and saw my "clippie-close-pin" still on the fule line..Great i can fix that..Hooked that up and it started back up..I got this..My brother never called me back cause he knew i would get it and i did..

That was kinda lenghty but i think that describes what kind of Butch i am..I am always there for my Mom what ever she wants i will set my stuff aside to help her and always did over the years and espically now..
Put anything in front of me and i can figure it out..I like fixing stuff and seeing it work when i had no idea how to tackle the task at hand..Makes me feel kinda smart and also an ego booster..I love the challenge..

Thanks for reading..
s..

stonewalldog · 06-27-2012, 03:53 PM

Rustedrims-

I am sorry about your dad. I lost mine awhile back. Good for you for being there for your mom!

clay · 11-20-2012, 03:20 AM

the Butch I am

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Those 5 letters are just a "description of me...and in NO WAY makes who I am inside or in my heart!
I am a true southern gentlewomyn...with manners, courtesy, respect, and gentleness abounding.
I am of the old fashioned, old school breed...one who will open doors, pull out chairs, walk on outside of and offer arm to a lady, help her with her coat, even helping to get her hair out from under the collar and prettily displayed against her soft shoulders.
I will wait for her....patiently..never rushing her., as she gets dressed for our date. I will look at her with tears in my eyes when she emerges from her room...seeing how stunningly beautiful she looks!!!
I will shop with her for hours, carrying her parcels. I will rub her feet as we sit in the food court sipping an ice cold beverage while she regains her momentum to "shop til she drops" again!
I will order for her if I am acquainted with her likes and dislikes, OR if she tells me what she would want, and I will give the whole order.
I am attuned to her at all times.
I will always appreciate her...as she is an incredible gift...she has given of herself to me..and I can be entrusted with that awesome gift!
I "get", comprehend, and validate Her feminine mystique!
I wil always acknowledge her, validate her existence, and put her above all else.
I will watch chick flicks with her, wiping away tears at the sappy parts, and handing those same tears back to her as diamonds. I will be teary eyed and sensitive along with her.
I will cherish her like a true and priceless trasure she is.
I will never take her for granted!
I am a best friend...to many
I am a confidant, one that keeps those things sacred!
I will hold her sacred in all ways..sharing intimacy only between ourselves!
I will lay down my life for the woman I love and who owns my heart!
She will have my undying loyalty and committment should our hearts beat as one.
I will treat her like an equal, always..and we will walk side by side...never "owning" one another....yet connected by our hearts!
I can cook, clean, mow a lawn, fix a flat, iron a silk piece (steam it rather) mend a boo boo with a kiss and a bandaid, and I can fight fiercely for our lives. I have won many battles on the battlefield of life..and that is who I am today..a culmination of love past..love lost..and love remains a constant in my heart..never making me jaded, cynical, or bitter. I chose those pathways, and I walked them...I took lessons from them, and made changes from them..positive changes....
So I am many things....an incredibly devoted friend, a loyal companion, a soft hearted, sensitive, compassionate gentle womyn...and it is nye impossible to "describe" one's self..for in the end..what really matters is who you are when with another person...words are just descriptions..so I am a human being with an amazing heart and I have moral compass, and turpitude. I am old fashioned, and old schooled...as I will always, always put the ladies first..and when I meet HER..she will decide for herself what kind of a BUTCH I am..as she will see deeply inside and know my heart..that is where my "butch" lives.

clay · 11-20-2012, 03:22 AM

I am that butch who will wrap you inside my presence, affording you that warmth, security, sense of protection that you desire.
I am that butch who will leave you a single rose on your windshield just because...I wanted you to know I was thinking of you...
I am that butch who will get out of bed at 300am, drive to the store to get you that chocolate covered, creme filled doughnut and coffee...just because you wanted it..and come back and feed it to you...
I am that butch who will hold you when you are frightened, scare away monsters, and cover you, whispering to you til you fall asleep again...and watch over you while you sleep
I am that butch who will admire your fierceness and independence yet respect the babygrrl in you and your need for me....
I am that butch who will slay a thousand dragons, make you a s'mores by a campfire, who will run you a hot bath with candles and soft music, bathe you, pamper you, and kiss you all over...
I am that butch who will provide a shelter for you when you need it...with my big butchness...
I am that butch who will write you silly love letters in the sand...on the mirror with your lipstick, make you a peanut butter & jelly sandwich...to comfort you if need be...
I am that butch who will walk by your side..for life...when we are One Heart, One Love joined...
I am that butch who will seek comfort in your arms when my world is all jumbled and I am having a bad day
I am that butch who will seek your arms to hold me when I cry (Yes, butches do cry, too)
I am that butch who will hold you when you cry, grabbing your tears in my hands and handing them back to you as diamonds...
I am that butch who is mesmerized by you..each and every time..who will acknowledge, validate, and resonate within you....
I am that butch who knows and respects that a femme can bring me to my knees...with her feminine mystique, sensuality, and her mysteriousness
I am that butch who will never profess to knowing what makes my femme tick BUT I will damned respect that and be her all..in every way..
I am that butch....a hopeless romantic, passionate lover, devoted companion, and wait for you...here and now....

SoSousMe · 02-27-2013, 07:38 PM

I am a Texan Butch... Country through and through... but can hang with the best of the city Boys.
I hold doors open for the elderly, the disabled, the old, the young, men and women, whoever happens to be behind Me, or whoever just seems to need it.
My mother is My hero.
My son is My world.
My lady is My life.
I don't like being called Miss, or Ma'am... I am Sir, He, or Him, boy, not girl.
I was born in the wrong body.
I can shoot like nobody's business, or write poetry on a whim.
But, I treat a woman like a lady, and know when to hold My tongue.
I love to dance... country, hip hop, tejano, or waltz. And lead My lady around till she's dizzy and sweaty.
I can hang with My high school buds, head bangin' and BBQ'g on July 4th.
I can hang with the 20 somethings, and teach them a thing or two about respect, but show them this Old Dawg has some new tricks for them to learn.
I help My customers daily, and show them respect and offer them solutions.
I tell My momma I love her.
I say please, thank you, may I, and yes Sir and yes Ma'am.
I offer My seat to women and men.
I play with babies, and speak their language.
I take My hat off when I meet someone new, when I'm in church, when I pray, and when I eat.
I change My own oil, tires, and do My own laundry.
I cook My ass off, and love to see My family's faces when I've created a masterpiece.
My downfall is chocolate..... and... her eyes.
I don't tolerate discrimination in any form.
I don't do windows.
I do dishes though

I drive an old truck, and wait for the day that I can afford a new one, just to hear the engine roar.
I love her touch, her hands on My skin, the way she looks at Me, and when she says Amorcito to Me.
I can walk for miles, and not be tired.
I have remorse for every bad thing I have done.
I have hope that I will be forgiven.
I have little time on My hands.
I have a lifetime of love left in Me.

Jean_TX · 03-12-2013, 10:59 AM

This is an interesting thread. Rather than describe who I am and listing my strengths (I do have some!) and my foibles (I have lots of them!), I want to respond by describing the role that I attempt to fulfill in a relationship. I may not always succeed, but I do give it my most sincere and best effort.

I aspire to be the Butch...

…Who will sometimes walk behind you,
To allow you to pursue your own dreams, to give you space,
To let your light shine brightly without being blocked by my shadow,
To provide you with a safe retreat if needed.

...Who will sometimes walk ahead of you,
To protect you, to guide you when needed,
At other times, to follow my own dreams, find my own space.

…Who will mostly walk along side you,
To be your friend, lover, and partner,
To be connected, yet each of us retaining our individualities,
To help you, me, and “us” make it through the hard times,
To revel with you during the special times, to contentedly share all the ordinary moments,
To support you, honor you, and cherish you.

chris1life · 05-28-2013, 11:12 PM

Bumping this

I'm the kind of butch That confuse a lot of people. I'm strong physically and mentally yet I can be soft and vulnerable. I wear men's clothes but love a good sexy bra. I bind sometimes and sometimes I love the way my breast look in some shirts. I walk hard and have my own swagger and sometimes I shake my ass Because I know she is watching. I love short masculine hair but love mine shoulder length. Some times I pack and sometimes I don't. I love to be the top but have no problem being the bottom. I'm the bug killer but am terrified of mice. I'm sometimes hard and kick ass Then sometimes I'm soft. I know who I am and some times I confuse myself. I am a confident, strong, hard working, sometimes insecure beautiful/handsome butch woman. Ill take shit from people but not allow someone to disrespect the woman in my life. I don't fit in any box Because I've worked most of my life to get out of one. I'm just me

Rockinonahigh · 05-28-2013, 11:47 PM

I am called a stone butch,not a tag I put on myself but from others who say it's the one that fits.Sometimes it dose but most times not a chanch,I don't like labels cause they are very restricting.I'm a mother,daughter,grand daughter with a strong female line in my family.I'm a lover not a fighter unless it's nessary to bring out the sword and sheild...then whoever started this had best watch out.Most of the time I can just get along in this old world just fine
I wear mens clothes and have for years,I use to have some ladies things but over the years they never got worn cause I never needed to use them so I donated them to good will.I can be very out spoken or I can just sit and listen,I love to cook but also dont mind anyone else in my kitchen helpeing me whip up a meal.I collect lots if things and go to estste sales,garage sales and what have you,I love western art or mostanything horse related but also will pick up something else if it calls to me,I play a violin,electric guitar,a zyloharp aswell.Yep I do all sorts of stuff that I havent even posted hear.It keeps life intresting because witout something intresting to keep me chalenged I would be watching syfy more than I do.

UofMfan · 06-10-2012, 09:56 AM

To describe the Butch that I am I must start with what I am not.

I am not into camping or any other activity where I may not be the most comfortable. I have reached and age and a place in my life where staying in a nice, comfortable and even luxurious hotel is the best option.

I am not into fishing, although I will go if it means spending a nice day out.

I am not into fixing things, finishing to-do lists or any other stereotypical thing attached to the Butch label.

My time is too valuable as are my hands. I used to fix things when I was younger, now I can afford to pay someone to do it and spend my time doing wiser things.

I am not into shooting, guns or any form or kind of violence. In fact, I have never been into any fights, been hit or hit someone.

I am not old-school or new-school.

I am not into pissing contests; I have better things to do.

What I am: a mother, first and foremost, and I don’t have any problems correlating the two, butch-mom.

I am a lover of femmes and all that they bring with them.

I am an intellectual.

I am a thinker.

I am a reader, writer, teacher, and friend.

I am passionate.

I am a pain the ass sometimes.

I am perfectionist, see above.

I am aware of my downfalls, and I do have a few, but will be the first to tell you what they are.

I have been to places and in situations some of you would never even think of.

I can be your best ally or your best adversary.

I have worked very hard on myself and have done a lot of work to get where I am.

I am very comfortable in my own skin. I am who I am; I do not need or seek your approval to be exactly who I am.

Most of all, I am ever changing and my gender ID is fluid. So please, do not box me into your idea of what or who a butch is.

KayCee · 06-10-2012, 11:08 AM

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Originally Posted by UofMfan

To describe the Butch that I am I must start with what I am not.

I am not into camping or any other activity where I may not be the most comfortable. I have reached and age and a place in my life where staying in a nice, comfortable and even luxurious hotel is the best option.

I am not into fishing, although I will go if it means spending a nice day out.

I am not into fixing things, finishing to-do lists or any other stereotypical thing attached to the Butch label.

My time is too valuable as are my hands. I used to fix things when I was younger, now I can afford to pay someone to do it and spend my time doing wiser things.

I am not into shooting, guns or any form or kind of violence. In fact, I have never been into any fights, been hit or hit someone.

I am not old-school or new-school.

I am not into pissing contests; I have better things to do.

What I am: a mother, first and foremost, and I don’t have any problems correlating the two, butch-mom.

I am a lover of femmes and all that they bring with them.

I am an intellectual.

I am a thinker.

I am a reader, writer, teacher, and friend.

I am passionate.

I am a pain the ass sometimes.

I am perfectionist, see above.

I am aware of my downfalls, and I do have a few, but will be the first to tell you what they are.

I have been to places and in situations some of you would never even think of.

I can be your best ally or your best adversary.

I have worked very hard on myself and have done a lot of work to get where I am.

I am very comfortable in my own skin. I am who I am; I do not need or seek your approval to be exactly who I am.

Most of all, I am ever changing and my gender ID is fluid. So please, do not box me into your idea of what or who a butch is.

Thanks for this great post! Esp. this sentence:

"So please, do not box me into your idea of what or who a butch is."

but being a femme, I would like to add: ....of what or who a femme is.

We've been put in to boxes by the hetero-world all along, so why should we, ourselves who know better, put eachother in boxes. I'm totally against this whole stereotype thingy. Oh, as a femme you need to act this way, or that's a typical butch thing..and I can't stand the words..'you're supposed to'...I'm NOT supposed to anything. I am what I am. Period.

Come on....it's like gay people want to appear as 'normal' as possible, appear as straight, even hetero. Like a 'normal' couple. I'm asking why? I don't even want to go there. For me, it's no problem to act or be noticed to be gay. I love women and I show it. It's that simple.

laruss · 06-23-2012, 10:25 AM

I absolutely love this thread, and would love to see more Butches describe themselves and who they really are. Share yourself, it is incredibly inviting and although may make you feel more vulnerable, we Femmes love to see that vulnerability.

Thank you Parker for that great video.
Thank you Islandscout for your great explanation of the feelings we Femmes get when we see a Butch that catches our attention.
Thank you Claybaby and Miss Scarlett for sharing a piece of your relationship.
Thank you to everyone else who shared here.

I look forward to learning more about all you sexy Butches we have on BFP.

FemmeAllae · 05-18-2012, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by ArkansasPiscesGrrl

wow, I am loving this thread. A reminder to this femme of why she LOVES butch women!

Same here!

KayCee · 06-06-2012, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by ArkansasPiscesGrrl

wow, I am loving this thread. A reminder to this femme of why she LOVES butch women!

This femme too!

Leigh · 06-06-2012, 10:45 AM

This is definately one of my favorite threads on all of the Planet

rustedrims · 06-10-2012, 08:13 AM

The job came up for bid that i have been waiting for..I have had a hand full of months to think about it..I knew it was comming..Tomorrow is the day i make my move..[literally]. The thing is that i have to go on day shift for 6 weeks to be trained.. That isnt a problem..I am on midnights now and love it..The guy that will be training me i absolutely cant stand.!!.He feels the same about me..At least we agree on that..How much can you learn from a guy that doesnt like ya..I can deal with all that..Here is the thing..It has been quite a few years ago but he was making comments about the lifestyle i live..I would hear it from a friend what he was saying..Didnt like that and felt uncomfortable..
I need to gather all my Butch strength and go in there and learn that job and deal with him..The up side to all this is he will be retiring the first of the year..Eventually i will work my way back on nights and work with the guy that is my friend and learn from him all i need to know..
My butchness will be put to the test and i will see how much of that will be forced out by that idiot..I am in a better place with my lifestyle that i live and can handle people a little better than in the past..

I need to take a step back and look at the big picture..I get a small pay raise and i will work with my brain but will still have physcial work..A big change as to what i am doing now..I will also be getting away from people i have worked with for 20 years..I just gotta wait it out..Now i will find out what kind of butch i am in the work place knowingly setting myself up to people that do not approve..

Ya know what..??. i will be ok..I need to do this..
s..

Ginger · 06-10-2012, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by rustedrims

The job came up for bid that i have been waiting for..I have had a hand full of months to think about it..I knew it was comming..Tomorrow is the day i make my move..[literally]. The thing is that i have to go on day shift for 6 weeks to be trained.. That isnt a problem..I am on midnights now and love it..The guy that will be training me i absolutely cant stand.!!.He feels the same about me..At least we agree on that..How much can you learn from a guy that doesnt like ya..I can deal with all that..Here is the thing..It has been quite a few years ago but he was making comments about the lifestyle i live..I would hear it from a friend what he was saying..Didnt like that and felt uncomfortable..
I need to gather all my Butch strength and go in there and learn that job and deal with him..The up side to all this is he will be retiring the first of the year..Eventually i will work my way back on nights and work with the guy that is my friend and learn from him all i need to know..
My butchness will be put to the test and i will see how much of that will be forced out by that idiot..I am in a better place with my lifestyle that i live and can handle people a little better than in the past..

I need to take a step back and look at the big picture..I get a small pay raise and i will work with my brain but will still have physcial work..A big change as to what i am doing now..I will also be getting away from people i have worked with for 20 years..I just gotta wait it out..Now i will find out what kind of butch i am in the work place knowingly setting myself up to people that do not approve..

Ya know what..??. i will be ok..I need to do this..
s..

Best of luck, Rusted Rims!!! Of course you will be ok. It sounds like you know exactly what you're doing, what the risks are, and most of all, what your strengths are.

Scout

rustedrims · 06-14-2012, 06:36 AM

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Originally Posted by IslandScout

Best of luck, Rusted Rims!!! Of course you will be ok. It sounds like you know exactly what you're doing, what the risks are, and most of all, what your strengths are.

Scout

Thanks Scout..
I will find out if i got the job tonight if someone doesnt call me before work..
The job was moved so i will not be working with that horrible guy..Looking good already..

s..

SleepyButch · 06-14-2012, 08:32 AM

What type of Butch I am:

This is a really good question. I have not thought of this in some time so it's good to remind myself as well.

For as far back as I can remember, I have always loved women. I had my first crush at age five on the neighbor girl who I think was a year older than me. Of course everyone thought it was cute at that time....

I had struggled many years as to my identity. I had no idea such a thing as Butch existed but I did know that I was masculine. I thought I must want to be a man because why else would I have these feelings.
Way back, I had a group of friends, none of who identified as Butch/femme. When I first heard the term Butch and found out what it meant, I told them hey I'm Butch and they laughed at me. So I was confused until I found out that there was a Butch/femme dynamic. How very exciting for me. I still remember the feeling of shopping in the men's section for the first time.

I am who I am. I am by no means perfect and never will be. I am always evolving and learning about myself, the good and the bad things. I am chivalrous, caring, funny, sarcastic, and romantic. I like to put my hand on the small of your back as I lead you through the door. I am protective and a care taker, which is probably why I became a nurse. I like to hold you but I also at times want to be held. I love to have my hair played with... unless we are going out.. don't mess it up... lol.

I am human. I have feelings just like everyone else even though I try to hide them at times to portray that I am strong and can handle anything. I've learned how to cry even if I don't like it. I am proud to be Butch but that does not define everything about me.

I am sure there is more to what I could say but for now, this is a good start.

06-24-2012, 11:27 AM	#2
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,125 Thanked 2,554 Times in 368 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	The Butch I am is.. Had a flash mob of hungry catz at the sliding door.They were hungry..Hummm i dont understand the urgency..I fed them yesterday.. Anyway.. My dad passed away in feburary so i have been spending alot if time helping mom at her house and my stuff is not getting done.We were not allowed to clean,pick things up,throw things away and dont pull weeds..Now we are..My sister,brother and i are getting things done at the house..We are on 3 different times so we go over when we can..Kinda funny how that works out cause we are never there at the same time but we are getting things done for mom..We are now allowed to clean,pick things up,throw things away and i am pulling weeds and getting poison ivy..It is looking good around there..Mom is happy when we come and happy when we leave and espically me..I wear on her nerves..I approach "projects" like a bulldozer..I am aware that i do that and i have reduced my bulldozer energy to Tonka Truck size..Mom is happy about that..The thing is i do things when she is sleeping and when she isnt there..She says "Yeah when i got home i saw the burn barrel smoking"...I say "Yeah i found some junk/trash i wanted to get out of the way BUT.!! None of it was GOOD.!!!.Then she glares at me and i smile back..I told her friday that i wasnt going to do any more than mow the yard cause i want to get back to digging up my back yard for my patio..That is what i wanted to do this weekend..She said ok.. Sooooo The phone rings 9:30am saturday..Its mom.."Lowes just called Hey my bathroom is in.!!."ok give me an hour i'll come and get the reciet..Left my house at 10:30am and got all her stuff and stacked it neatly in the garage..Ok what about the shelf thing..??.{she ordered that from another store}..Ohh that is in to..Ok i will go get it..Could you drop off my perscription while you are in town to yeahhh..Did all that and walking to the truck to leave..Mom says when you come back i have another project for you..I stopped walking..Tell me what it is..The day was already shot..Change a lightbulb in the hall..My sister made an attempt and couldnt figure out how to get the globe off..Turn that little screw the whole things comes apart..I told mom to tell my sister having all that college education didnt help her change a light bulb..shaking my head..Ended up changing the other one also and whiping it off..Finally got home at 5:00pm..Well not digging in the dirt today..The day is gone.. Looking in the garage..Bought 2 sparkplugs oil and filter for the bike on friday..{almost walked out of that store with another bike}..Ok i will do the bike stuff before dark..Cant be that hard..Take out and replace..Ummm no..Gotta take the seat off and gas tank..Pull all the hoses..That tank was giving me a real hard time..Spent a while trying to get that thing off..Made 1 phone call to my brother and told him what i was doing and he said i was right to keep doing what i was doing..Still couldnt get that thing off..I kept stepping back and thinking i need help cause i dont know what i am doing..I messed around with my other bikes but not this one..How hard could it be..??..The stubborness over rode my need for help..This thing was not going to beat me..Took a few more things off and there was a bolt i missed..Took that off and the tank was in my hands..Made me smile i got it..Started to change the plugs and that socket was a little tricky to use also..Figured that out to and i had those bad plugs out and new ones in in seconds..Put everything back on with the help of my flood light cause it is now dark..Putting that seat back on would make Jesus Christ cuss..That was tough but i got it..Hit the starter and the bike took right off..I smiled hit the throtle a few times zoom zoom on the road again..Thinking i would ride it tomorrow..Then the thing slowly quit running..Great i was thinking..What did i do wrong.??.Hummm..Stepped back looked at the bike and saw my "clippie-close-pin" still on the fule line..Great i can fix that..Hooked that up and it started back up..I got this..My brother never called me back cause he knew i would get it and i did.. That was kinda lenghty but i think that describes what kind of Butch i am..I am always there for my Mom what ever she wants i will set my stuff aside to help her and always did over the years and espically now.. Put anything in front of me and i can figure it out..I like fixing stuff and seeing it work when i had no idea how to tackle the task at hand..Makes me feel kinda smart and also an ego booster..I love the challenge.. Thanks for reading.. s.. __________________ I don't want to be perfect because if I was then I will loose the ability to learn.

11-20-2012, 03:20 AM	#4
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,662 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	re-posting.....to remind myself of the butch I am.... the Butch I am -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Those 5 letters are just a "description of me...and in NO WAY makes who I am inside or in my heart! I am a true southern gentlewomyn...with manners, courtesy, respect, and gentleness abounding. I am of the old fashioned, old school breed...one who will open doors, pull out chairs, walk on outside of and offer arm to a lady, help her with her coat, even helping to get her hair out from under the collar and prettily displayed against her soft shoulders. I will wait for her....patiently..never rushing her., as she gets dressed for our date. I will look at her with tears in my eyes when she emerges from her room...seeing how stunningly beautiful she looks!!! I will shop with her for hours, carrying her parcels. I will rub her feet as we sit in the food court sipping an ice cold beverage while she regains her momentum to "shop til she drops" again! I will order for her if I am acquainted with her likes and dislikes, OR if she tells me what she would want, and I will give the whole order. I am attuned to her at all times. I will always appreciate her...as she is an incredible gift...she has given of herself to me..and I can be entrusted with that awesome gift! I "get", comprehend, and validate Her feminine mystique! I wil always acknowledge her, validate her existence, and put her above all else. I will watch chick flicks with her, wiping away tears at the sappy parts, and handing those same tears back to her as diamonds. I will be teary eyed and sensitive along with her. I will cherish her like a true and priceless trasure she is. I will never take her for granted! I am a best friend...to many I am a confidant, one that keeps those things sacred! I will hold her sacred in all ways..sharing intimacy only between ourselves! I will lay down my life for the woman I love and who owns my heart! She will have my undying loyalty and committment should our hearts beat as one. I will treat her like an equal, always..and we will walk side by side...never "owning" one another....yet connected by our hearts! I can cook, clean, mow a lawn, fix a flat, iron a silk piece (steam it rather) mend a boo boo with a kiss and a bandaid, and I can fight fiercely for our lives. I have won many battles on the battlefield of life..and that is who I am today..a culmination of love past..love lost..and love remains a constant in my heart..never making me jaded, cynical, or bitter. I chose those pathways, and I walked them...I took lessons from them, and made changes from them..positive changes.... So I am many things....an incredibly devoted friend, a loyal companion, a soft hearted, sensitive, compassionate gentle womyn...and it is nye impossible to "describe" one's self..for in the end..what really matters is who you are when with another person...words are just descriptions..so I am a human being with an amazing heart and I have moral compass, and turpitude. I am old fashioned, and old schooled...as I will always, always put the ladies first..and when I meet HER..she will decide for herself what kind of a BUTCH I am..as she will see deeply inside and know my heart..that is where my "butch" lives. __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

11-20-2012, 03:22 AM	#5
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,662 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	remaining true to myself...I am this butch.. I am that butch who will wrap you inside my presence, affording you that warmth, security, sense of protection that you desire. I am that butch who will leave you a single rose on your windshield just because...I wanted you to know I was thinking of you... I am that butch who will get out of bed at 300am, drive to the store to get you that chocolate covered, creme filled doughnut and coffee...just because you wanted it..and come back and feed it to you... I am that butch who will hold you when you are frightened, scare away monsters, and cover you, whispering to you til you fall asleep again...and watch over you while you sleep I am that butch who will admire your fierceness and independence yet respect the babygrrl in you and your need for me.... I am that butch who will slay a thousand dragons, make you a s'mores by a campfire, who will run you a hot bath with candles and soft music, bathe you, pamper you, and kiss you all over... I am that butch who will provide a shelter for you when you need it...with my big butchness... I am that butch who will write you silly love letters in the sand...on the mirror with your lipstick, make you a peanut butter & jelly sandwich...to comfort you if need be... I am that butch who will walk by your side..for life...when we are One Heart, One Love joined... I am that butch who will seek comfort in your arms when my world is all jumbled and I am having a bad day I am that butch who will seek your arms to hold me when I cry (Yes, butches do cry, too) I am that butch who will hold you when you cry, grabbing your tears in my hands and handing them back to you as diamonds... I am that butch who is mesmerized by you..each and every time..who will acknowledge, validate, and resonate within you.... I am that butch who knows and respects that a femme can bring me to my knees...with her feminine mystique, sensuality, and her mysteriousness I am that butch who will never profess to knowing what makes my femme tick BUT I will damned respect that and be her all..in every way.. I am that butch....a hopeless romantic, passionate lover, devoted companion, and wait for you...here and now.... __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

02-27-2013, 07:38 PM	#6
SoSousMe Member How Do You Identify?: Gender Juxtaposed/Butch/Top/Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: Just a normal Guy Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Texas Posts: 173 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 928 Thanked 691 Times in 141 Posts Rep Power: 9968157	I am a Texan Butch... Country through and through... but can hang with the best of the city Boys. I hold doors open for the elderly, the disabled, the old, the young, men and women, whoever happens to be behind Me, or whoever just seems to need it. My mother is My hero. My son is My world. My lady is My life. I don't like being called Miss, or Ma'am... I am Sir, He, or Him, boy, not girl. I was born in the wrong body. I can shoot like nobody's business, or write poetry on a whim. But, I treat a woman like a lady, and know when to hold My tongue. I love to dance... country, hip hop, tejano, or waltz. And lead My lady around till she's dizzy and sweaty. I can hang with My high school buds, head bangin' and BBQ'g on July 4th. I can hang with the 20 somethings, and teach them a thing or two about respect, but show them this Old Dawg has some new tricks for them to learn. I help My customers daily, and show them respect and offer them solutions. I tell My momma I love her. I say please, thank you, may I, and yes Sir and yes Ma'am. I offer My seat to women and men. I play with babies, and speak their language. I take My hat off when I meet someone new, when I'm in church, when I pray, and when I eat. I change My own oil, tires, and do My own laundry. I cook My ass off, and love to see My family's faces when I've created a masterpiece. My downfall is chocolate..... and... her eyes. I don't tolerate discrimination in any form. I don't do windows. I do dishes though I drive an old truck, and wait for the day that I can afford a new one, just to hear the engine roar. I love her touch, her hands on My skin, the way she looks at Me, and when she says Amorcito to Me. I can walk for miles, and not be tired. I have remorse for every bad thing I have done. I have hope that I will be forgiven. I have little time on My hands. I have a lifetime of love left in Me. __________________ Should You stumble... should You fall... Pick Yourself up by Your bootstraps and move along. If by chance a lady's hand appears before You, don't let Your pride hinder Your progress. Take the hand she offers, for her touch may lend the perfect amount of resistance needed to help steady You on Your feet. The honor in Dominance lies in the ability to recognize submission as a gift. I tend to delve deep within Myself.. sometimes hearing nothing more than the stir of My own soul. LQ

03-12-2013, 10:59 AM	#7
Jean_TX Junior Member How Do You Identify?: via driver's license Preferred Pronoun?: Jean Relationship Status: Not available Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Texas Posts: 78 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 197 Thanked 216 Times in 61 Posts Rep Power: 1155756	This is an interesting thread. Rather than describe who I am and listing my strengths (I do have some!) and my foibles (I have lots of them!), I want to respond by describing the role that I attempt to fulfill in a relationship. I may not always succeed, but I do give it my most sincere and best effort. I aspire to be the Butch... …Who will sometimes walk behind you, To allow you to pursue your own dreams, to give you space, To let your light shine brightly without being blocked by my shadow, To provide you with a safe retreat if needed. ...Who will sometimes walk ahead of you, To protect you, to guide you when needed, At other times, to follow my own dreams, find my own space. …Who will mostly walk along side you, To be your friend, lover, and partner, To be connected, yet each of us retaining our individualities, To help you, me, and “us” make it through the hard times, To revel with you during the special times, to contentedly share all the ordinary moments, To support you, honor you, and cherish you. __________________ Why not just remove all the warning labels and let Nature take care of the problem?

06-24-2012, 08:24 AM	#1
rockstar lover Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Found my forever girl :-) Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Alberta Posts: 103 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 564 Thanked 594 Times in 96 Posts Rep Power: 5496794	I put the soft in soft-butch (kind/gentle hearted). I am a jeans & t-shirt kind of butch (big surprise!). I can be shy & socially awkward at times. But after about 3 drinks...watch out! I am an old fashioned kind of butch...opening doors & bringing flowers I am a minimalist...I don't like to clutter my life with expensive possessions that don't mean anything. I have no sense of style! I'll wear what's comfortable and the decor..(what's that?!). I need a femme's touch to decorate lol. I've worked hard all my life and I always have stable employment. Friends and family are very important to me. I am passionate & compassionate to others, kind, sweet, and romantic. But if you dare hurt someone I care about....watch out! This kitten can turn into a tiger! I am organized, methodical, and a planner (typical capricorn). I am working on being more spontaneous & learning that I can't always know what's going to happen. I love music and am a singer (in a choir). I don't do the solos or karaoke! I am affectionate & loving. I want the woman I'm with to feel like she's the most important person in the world. I love kisses, snuggles, cuddles, backrubs, etc. Touch is very important to me. It expresses how we feel without any words. Only in the last year I've been able to express & explore different aspects of my sexuality. It's an exciting journey & I've got lots of time to make up for!! Oh, and I'm a quick learner! Don't be afraid to ask for something. You'll more than likely get it. I am open minded and always willing to try something new. There's not much I wouldn't do for someone I care about. I'd give you the shirt off my back...then promptly cover up lol. I have a weird sense of humor. Things seem to be more funny in my head lol. I have a big heart with a lot to give. I hurt big...but I love big too. Should anyone decide to trust me with their heart...it will be safe with me...

06-27-2012, 03:53 PM	#3
stonewalldog Junior Member How Do You Identify?: All-American Dyke Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: married Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Northern California Posts: 48 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 45 Thanked 106 Times in 36 Posts Rep Power: 1384437	Rustedrims- I am sorry about your dad. I lost mine awhile back. Good for you for being there for your mom!

05-28-2013, 11:12 PM	#8
chris1life Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, syr, he Join Date: May 2013 Location: US Posts: 84 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 90 Thanked 276 Times in 66 Posts Rep Power: 2169073	Bumping this I'm the kind of butch That confuse a lot of people. I'm strong physically and mentally yet I can be soft and vulnerable. I wear men's clothes but love a good sexy bra. I bind sometimes and sometimes I love the way my breast look in some shirts. I walk hard and have my own swagger and sometimes I shake my ass Because I know she is watching. I love short masculine hair but love mine shoulder length. Some times I pack and sometimes I don't. I love to be the top but have no problem being the bottom. I'm the bug killer but am terrified of mice. I'm sometimes hard and kick ass Then sometimes I'm soft. I know who I am and some times I confuse myself. I am a confident, strong, hard working, sometimes insecure beautiful/handsome butch woman. Ill take shit from people but not allow someone to disrespect the woman in my life. I don't fit in any box Because I've worked most of my life to get out of one. I'm just me

05-28-2013, 11:47 PM	#9
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I am called a stone butch,not a tag I put on myself but from others who say it's the one that fits.Sometimes it dose but most times not a chanch,I don't like labels cause they are very restricting.I'm a mother,daughter,grand daughter with a strong female line in my family.I'm a lover not a fighter unless it's nessary to bring out the sword and sheild...then whoever started this had best watch out.Most of the time I can just get along in this old world just fine I wear mens clothes and have for years,I use to have some ladies things but over the years they never got worn cause I never needed to use them so I donated them to good will.I can be very out spoken or I can just sit and listen,I love to cook but also dont mind anyone else in my kitchen helpeing me whip up a meal.I collect lots if things and go to estste sales,garage sales and what have you,I love western art or mostanything horse related but also will pick up something else if it calls to me,I play a violin,electric guitar,a zyloharp aswell.Yep I do all sorts of stuff that I havent even posted hear.It keeps life intresting because witout something intresting to keep me chalenged I would be watching syfy more than I do.

06-10-2012, 09:56 AM	#10
UofMfan Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: A very happy Mr. Grumpy Cat Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Neither here or there Posts: 7,987 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 27,733 Thanked 18,935 Times in 4,705 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	To describe the Butch that I am I must start with what I am not. I am not into camping or any other activity where I may not be the most comfortable. I have reached and age and a place in my life where staying in a nice, comfortable and even luxurious hotel is the best option. I am not into fishing, although I will go if it means spending a nice day out. I am not into fixing things, finishing to-do lists or any other stereotypical thing attached to the Butch label. My time is too valuable as are my hands. I used to fix things when I was younger, now I can afford to pay someone to do it and spend my time doing wiser things. I am not into shooting, guns or any form or kind of violence. In fact, I have never been into any fights, been hit or hit someone. I am not old-school or new-school. I am not into pissing contests; I have better things to do. What I am: a mother, first and foremost, and I don’t have any problems correlating the two, butch-mom. I am a lover of femmes and all that they bring with them. I am an intellectual. I am a thinker. I am a reader, writer, teacher, and friend. I am passionate. I am a pain the ass sometimes. I am perfectionist, see above. I am aware of my downfalls, and I do have a few, but will be the first to tell you what they are. I have been to places and in situations some of you would never even think of. I can be your best ally or your best adversary. I have worked very hard on myself and have done a lot of work to get where I am. I am very comfortable in my own skin. I am who I am; I do not need or seek your approval to be exactly who I am. Most of all, I am ever changing and my gender ID is fluid. So please, do not box me into your idea of what or who a butch is.

06-23-2012, 10:25 AM	#12
laruss Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She or Goddess Relationship Status: Settled in Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Edmonton Alberta Posts: 1,322 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,849 Thanked 5,329 Times in 1,045 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I absolutely love this thread, and would love to see more Butches describe themselves and who they really are. Share yourself, it is incredibly inviting and although may make you feel more vulnerable, we Femmes love to see that vulnerability. Thank you Parker for that great video. Thank you Islandscout for your great explanation of the feelings we Femmes get when we see a Butch that catches our attention. Thank you Claybaby and Miss Scarlett for sharing a piece of your relationship. Thank you to everyone else who shared here. I look forward to learning more about all you sexy Butches we have on BFP. __________________ Creativity is a drug I can't do without. -Cecil B. DeMille

06-06-2012, 10:45 AM	#15
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	This is definately one of my favorite threads on all of the Planet __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

06-10-2012, 08:13 AM	#16
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,125 Thanked 2,554 Times in 368 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Ok gonna do it.. The job came up for bid that i have been waiting for..I have had a hand full of months to think about it..I knew it was comming..Tomorrow is the day i make my move..[literally]. The thing is that i have to go on day shift for 6 weeks to be trained.. That isnt a problem..I am on midnights now and love it..The guy that will be training me i absolutely cant stand.!!.He feels the same about me..At least we agree on that..How much can you learn from a guy that doesnt like ya..I can deal with all that..Here is the thing..It has been quite a few years ago but he was making comments about the lifestyle i live..I would hear it from a friend what he was saying..Didnt like that and felt uncomfortable.. I need to gather all my Butch strength and go in there and learn that job and deal with him..The up side to all this is he will be retiring the first of the year..Eventually i will work my way back on nights and work with the guy that is my friend and learn from him all i need to know.. My butchness will be put to the test and i will see how much of that will be forced out by that idiot..I am in a better place with my lifestyle that i live and can handle people a little better than in the past.. I need to take a step back and look at the big picture..I get a small pay raise and i will work with my brain but will still have physcial work..A big change as to what i am doing now..I will also be getting away from people i have worked with for 20 years..I just gotta wait it out..Now i will find out what kind of butch i am in the work place knowingly setting myself up to people that do not approve.. Ya know what..??. i will be ok..I need to do this.. s.. __________________ I don't want to be perfect because if I was then I will loose the ability to learn.

06-14-2012, 08:32 AM	#19
SleepyButch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Dude Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him Relationship Status: Taken Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Hidden Valley Ranch Posts: 3,511 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,220 Thanked 11,247 Times in 2,753 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	What type of Butch I am: This is a really good question. I have not thought of this in some time so it's good to remind myself as well. For as far back as I can remember, I have always loved women. I had my first crush at age five on the neighbor girl who I think was a year older than me. Of course everyone thought it was cute at that time.... I had struggled many years as to my identity. I had no idea such a thing as Butch existed but I did know that I was masculine. I thought I must want to be a man because why else would I have these feelings. Way back, I had a group of friends, none of who identified as Butch/femme. When I first heard the term Butch and found out what it meant, I told them hey I'm Butch and they laughed at me. So I was confused until I found out that there was a Butch/femme dynamic. How very exciting for me. I still remember the feeling of shopping in the men's section for the first time. I am who I am. I am by no means perfect and never will be. I am always evolving and learning about myself, the good and the bad things. I am chivalrous, caring, funny, sarcastic, and romantic. I like to put my hand on the small of your back as I lead you through the door. I am protective and a care taker, which is probably why I became a nurse. I like to hold you but I also at times want to be held. I love to have my hair played with... unless we are going out.. don't mess it up... lol. I am human. I have feelings just like everyone else even though I try to hide them at times to portray that I am strong and can handle anything. I've learned how to cry even if I don't like it. I am proud to be Butch but that does not define everything about me. I am sure there is more to what I could say but for now, this is a good start.