Non-monogamy survey for psych class - will you help?

Martina · 02-04-2012, 03:14 PM

Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? Yes
Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? lesbian
Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 53
Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? female and femme
If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship?

This assumes that there is a dyad, that all poly is dyad based. This is a pet peeve of mine, that people make the assumption that poly is just having someone on the side.

i am the sub of a couple. i am not partnered with either. They are partnered with one another.

If so, why? If not, why not?

aishah · 02-04-2012, 03:43 PM

Are you in a committed, long-term relationship?
yes, i'm in two actually. one for 6 years, the other for a year. we make life decisions together and are in the process of moving in together. if we could, we'd be married

we've had non-legally-binding commitments to one another but even that is technically illegal, especially if you're living together.

Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other?
queer

Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine?
18-29 (i'm 24)

Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other?
femme

If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship?
If so, why? If not, why not?
they are and i do

right now i'm not necessarily seeking out other sexual partners (i wasn't actually when i met my second long-term partner either, although i'd been in other relationships before that) but i don't discount new possibilities, either. both of my partners are monogamous but they're very accepting of each other and of the fact that i am polyamorous. if they wanted to seek other relationships i'd be happy for them. i know a lot of people have "primary" and "secondary" relationships but that configuration has never worked for me - no one relationship is more important than any other, although there has to be a certain level of long-term commitment to make life decisions or move in with someone. but neither of my partners is "primary."

aishah · 02-04-2012, 03:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martina

This assumes that there is a dyad, that all poly is dyad based. This is a pet peeve of mine, that people make the assumption that poly is just having someone on the side.

this is a huge pet peeve of mine as well.

02-04-2012, 03:14 PM	#1
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,283 Times in 4,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? Yes Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? lesbian Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 53 Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? female and femme If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? This assumes that there is a dyad, that all poly is dyad based. This is a pet peeve of mine, that people make the assumption that poly is just having someone on the side. i am the sub of a couple. i am not partnered with either. They are partnered with one another. If so, why? If not, why not?

02-04-2012, 03:43 PM	#2
aishah Member How Do You Identify?: queer stone femme shark baby girl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, little one Relationship Status: dating myself. Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: dallas, tx Posts: 1,495 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,823 Thanked 6,440 Times in 1,288 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? yes, i'm in two actually. one for 6 years, the other for a year. we make life decisions together and are in the process of moving in together. if we could, we'd be married we've had non-legally-binding commitments to one another but even that is technically illegal, especially if you're living together. Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? queer Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 18-29 (i'm 24) Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? femme If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? If so, why? If not, why not? they are and i do right now i'm not necessarily seeking out other sexual partners (i wasn't actually when i met my second long-term partner either, although i'd been in other relationships before that) but i don't discount new possibilities, either. both of my partners are monogamous but they're very accepting of each other and of the fact that i am polyamorous. if they wanted to seek other relationships i'd be happy for them. i know a lot of people have "primary" and "secondary" relationships but that configuration has never worked for me - no one relationship is more important than any other, although there has to be a certain level of long-term commitment to make life decisions or move in with someone. but neither of my partners is "primary."